03-09-2006, 09:49 AM
Just a note before i start : I'm still a youth learning about islam and im sorry if my post sounds like nonsensical writings to you . I do not claim to have good english in fact english is my second language so I hope you forgive my grammar mistakes and medicore vocabulary.
That was an enlightening article . I will save the entire article into my computer for future reference. You might ask me why , is there such a need. Well there is. I belong to a youth group which belongs to a local mosque and I have a very ummm bad image of being a feminist.
This is because of a number of reasons. First of all , i tend to be get myself into arguements which actually doesnt involve me. And coincedentally , most of this arguements , Im actually defending a girl. They say my judgement have been clouded because she's the same gender as me. In one particular situation , a close friend of mine have been seriously humiliated by two guys bt them shouting criticisms at her until she cried. And yes , vulgarities was used. I was of course , very angered by this because first of all , i hate vulgarities , second of all , there wasnt any need to shout.
But noo .. they didnt see what i was so angry about. They told me , I am not listening to them. All i see is that a female is being victimized.
Which she was.
And one guy told me this . "You have to face it , women are weak ." and he mentioned that islam had stated that.
I do understand the position of men in a family , as a husband and everything. And i do know that we are in some ways weaker than a man. But do we have to be soo downgraded? Until standing up for another female is a crime? Until now , these guys have been saying what a feminist i am . Something they cannot accept , even though they're my friends.
Im really confused. Am i in the wrong?