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As salam alykom brothers and sisters
Here I m again trying to fill in to this thread, there is an Ayah that is hardly applied, I mean that people when put in a situation that requires to apply and observe it, they usually take other aspects in consideration, such as feeling unable to in fear of embarrassing others.
This Ayah is:
<b>"And if you find no one therein, still, enter not until permission has been given. And if you are asked to go back, go back, for it is purer for you, and Allah is All-Knower of what you do" (Quran 24:28)</b>
How many of you if suggested to visit someone and this person is not ready and thus apologizes, takes it easy rather than acting in an upset manner which usually leads to the person having to make much apologies and explaining him/herself?
The Ayah is very clear if you are asked to go back go back. If I call someone asking for a permission to visit, and the person is simply not even ready to see a stranger. You don’t have necessarily to be a stranger in the sense of a stranger, you may be a good friend. But the person in not ready for a visit for any kind of reason. This does not mean that your not a good friend, or a close person, or that he/she must explain to you in an indication to how dear you are to him/her.
Some people measure their value to others when they express readiness to see them under any circumstance. In some cases, they even spell this out loud saying O I don’t answer calls, or accept visits except from you. Whereas, the Ayahs is so simple, clear and direct. It even does not include an obligation for the person to give excuses. But just say go back and the person must respond immediately.
I observed that very few of us today do apply this ayahs which constitutes an essential part of our Islamic mannerism. Islam didn’t leave out any part of our lives without regulating it. Part of it, is visits among people. If the person is paying the visit in the name of Allah and only for Allah's Sake, then he/she will be sure that the reward is already gained as long as the intention is for Allah. Even a wise person, will be able to see that Allah Rewards for the intention only and may even Forgive the person for taking the burden as long as the intention is for Allah. Thus, in such cases when the person apologizes for accepting the visit, one must say Alhamdulelah that he/she is rewarded without even taking any burden or effort. That Allah Saved him/her traffic problems, transportation, time which may be dedicated to other affairs. Yet the reward is attained Alhamdulelah. Dealing with Allah is very easy, it is only us who complicate our lives. Sobhan Allah
Alhamdulelah