09-15-2005, 11:19 AM
Bismillah
Praise be to Allah King of the Kings, Owner of the Universe, Creator of all that exists, I seek Allah's Close guidance and support in what I am about to put here, prayer and peace be upon His Messenger Mohamed salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam.
as salam alykom brother
I am quite aware of the fact that Islam didnt actually invent polygyny, I never mentioned this in my post. I rather exactly said Allah Made it lawful and put an upper limit of 4.
Neither I am turning a blind eye on the Ayahs u posted, no way, those are the rules of the ruling brother.
Now to my humble understanding, mind u i am not a scholar neither even near one, my knowledge is very limited may Allah Increase me in knowledge ameen.
The ruling was made in Quran in order to sort of establish the bases for what was already taking place at that time.
Back to the Ayahs u quoted:
As far as I understand the Messenger explained the being equal in everything which include: financial support, accomodation, time, treatment, etc. BUt the emotional aspect is the hard one to fulfill equality in. This is what Allah Is Warning men about. The ability to be just in the emotional aspect. It is a warning for the difficulty of the situation which may arise. It is the option aspect Allah Is Making. In other words, this is how u know that u may or may not go into polygyny. It is not a must.
For example when Allah Ordains Salat Allah Say Establish Salah (prayer), also say: enjoined for you fasting ( i m translating from the top of my mind) just it was prescribed for those before u. NO option is given, but the rulings are made elaborate for those who have execuses, as in the ill or a traveller with an end of the Ayahs but if u fast it is better for u.
Now the ill and traveller has an option to decide according to one's condition, either to take the Divine permission and not fast and make them up later or choose to fast as the Ayahs encourages at the end.
Now take for example that Allah described Qital in Quran as being hateful, yet Did Command Muslims not to ignore it.
Allah also warned us against the difficulty of other types of worships, I will not elaborate, I am just trying to explain as clearly as possible.
If we apply this:
1. The Ayah would be originally helping men to avoid taking advantage of the orphans, thus may marry 2, 3 or 4.
2. Men will find difficulty in dealing justly with women specially in the emotional aspect.
3. Allah Is confirming this difficulty with the option still open to either take or not.
wallahu a`lem
And I never accused u of not following Allah's words, not sure where u got this from.
And if possible pls put the English translations of the Ayahs u quoted here.