09-13-2005, 05:09 PM
Bismillah
Brother Ahmed, BTW I dont think u agree with John's view -specially being a non Muslim - about polygyny specially when he calls it demeaning.
Nothing can be called demeaning as long as Allah Legalized it.
Before I continue, I need to clarify that I am doing this in the name of Allah and onlyAllah Insh a Allah trying to be as sincere as possible. Not to make a presence or for the sake of argument.
Brother Ahmed what is even more important is that - and I fully unerstand where u r coming from being an Egyptian - some of the Muslims got so much affected with Christian influence and thus see polygyny as stigma. I mean the society looks down to a man who goes for it.
Brother, when Omar wanted to strengthen his relation with the Messenger salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam, he was not wrong. Remember brother, Omar was the one whose opinion agreed with Quran revelation in about 3 occaisons.
Now back to the topic. If we as muslims became so much affected with Western culture and feel bad about certain things, then we are in major trouble.
If we started trying to look why Allah Legalized this or that just because we feel degraded in front of the western flood, then we are even in more major trouble.
I guess u never questioned yourself why Allah Commanded us to bow and prostrate in Salah. But just because polygyny is an aspect in Islam that receives much criticism you are trying to dig out verification. The problem is that when Allah Makes something lawful, Allah Does this taking in consideration all types of Allah's own creation which no one knows it better than Allah. Measuring by your own viewpoint, which is no matter how insightful you are is not a proper criteria compared to Allah's Wisdom.
Only Allah Knows why any man goes for polygyny and if he can handle it fine if not it is his own problem. There are men who are not equipped for it. I saw that.
But on the other hand there are others who are able to do it just because there will be women who need this.
I prefer not to reply to a non Muslim's opinion calling an aspect of Islam demeaning in the usual manner. Like making comparison with the status of Western women.