05-04-2005, 05:15 AM
Azubilah minal shaitani rajeem Bismilah rahmani raheem
Asalamalaikum warah matulahi wabarakatu
Muslimah Insha'Allah I can summarize what I have heard from the lecture. May Allah increase us in knowledge that will benefit us in the hereafter.
The essence of the beginning of the lecture was about keeping Islam in our homes. For instance a Sister is married to a husband who doesn’t pray. He works hard and provides for the family but he struggles with his Salats and doesn’t bother doing any effort. She’s advised not to sit in the gathering of women and complain about her husband, how he doesn’t pray, how he doesn’t do this, how he does that. Or to keep on telling the whole entire Muslim community how her husband is so and so etc. This is the funny part, instead she should wake him up for prayer, tab his feet while he’s sleeping and say to him, habibi I’m waiting for you to get up come and pray with me honey. And if he refuses, at least you have tried.
The next time when it’s time to pray remind him nicely the benefits of praying and that it distinguishes and differentiates a Muslim from a kafir. Should she ever say something to someone about her problems it should only be one person she trusts one person who is fit enough Islamic speaking to give accurate advice. Not the whole entire community. So the person could be an imam who can be trusted and maybe he can spend some time with her husband. She should try to help him though as much as she can. Maybe one day he’ll feel ashamed and start praying.
The Muslim home is a trust and responsibility that both spouses bear, because they are the foundation and the pillars of this home; they are the ones who determine the direction of the home (insha’Allah), so if they choose to adhere to the straight path theoretically and practically; beautify themselves with internal and external piety, and have good manners and honourable conduct, then this home will be one that raises the next generation upon virtuousness and will illuminate others with its chastity. Such a home is a launching protection for a gracious nation and a distinguished and respected civilisation.
The home which does not instil sound beliefs and the Qur’aanic method, and does not live harmoniously will produce individuals who are emotionally disturbed, intellectually lost, and morally corrupt. Moreover, such homes produce undutiful children which is a common incidence nowadays, as well as bad relations between youth who abandon their responsibilities and shun the worship of Allaah and dissenter against sound morals. This is a result of Muslims parents being neglectful of purifying and properly raising their children and not setting good examples for their children to follow.
The second aspect of the lecture was about the husbands who are not grateful to their wives. They come home with the chest up “WHERE’S THE FOOD” type of attitude no smile no Salam, just asking for food! He should instead enter the home with respect and be more sensitive to his wife. The wife is doing so much yet she never gets thanks or kindness. Brother Khaled was saying that if a man had to get pregnant he would die [img]style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif[/img] . Men can never do what women can do. [img]style_emoticons/default/cool.gif[/img]
You know Khalid Yasin has a great senses of humour. You can never listen or watch his lectures without laughing or smiling. Hard to keep a straight face. And seriously thats not because I find humour in everything but he just makes you laugh.
Another important message was that the life of the Muslim home, its happiness and pleasure, lie in its remembrance of Allaah. Abu Moosaa, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said: “The difference between a house in which the name of Allaah is mentioned and a house in which the name of Allaah is not mentioned is like the difference between a dead person and one who is alive.” (Bukhaari & Muslim).
This is all I remember from the lecture, ofcourse there was heaps more. Polygamy Was also discussed, and some other things.
Insha'Allah this is not all, there is so much more that I haven't said, so please go to this web http://www.simplyislam.com/55179.html and buy the DVD or video of the lecture, I searched for several places online that offer audio link to the lectures but haven't come across anything yet.
Masalama