Why Did The Prophet Muhammad Marry Many Wives?

[Dan]

Bismillah


As Salam alaikum


"(I will not say I will ask for a divorce, because I know that if accept I am patient, and accept what He ordered me to do, then Allah will be Pleased with me and reward me for my patience in Jannah. This is how true muslims should be, otherwise they are weak muslims( sorry sister intuition. no offense, people differ, and this is how I c it to Please Allah)"


I just have to pop in here real quick. Okay, maybe not so quick.


The way that I am understanding some of my sisters is that it would be too great of a burden upon them to be a second wife. Does not Islam state that none will be burdened beyond their limits? Allah Knows best our limits but we do have some perception of our limits. That is why some of us can pray each night, some can fast every other day, and others can memorize Qur'an easily. Now is it fair to make these people do more if they cannot do it? Should the person who prays alot supposed to fast alot as well? I don't think so. Allah has soooo many ways to reach Him according to the Qur'an and sunnah. It is one of the beauties for me in Islam. If a woman can take being with another woman in a marriage then Alhamdulillah, she is getting ajr for this. If a woman knows that this is beyond her limits then she should not be looked down upon for not wanting to put herself in such a situation.


One of the ways in which shaytan tries to get us from Allah is to make us arrogant in our deen. If a woman knows that she would not be a good wife if another woman was also married to her husband, then shaytan might try to use this against her. By telling her that she is a weak muslim if she does not force herself to be in a situation that will cause fitnah, shaytan starts the steps to get this woman from Allah. Say now she is married to a man with another wife. She cannot control her jealousy well, as she suspected she would. She really tries to be good but it is just too hard to know that her husband, the man she loves, is also sleeping with another woman. Instead of this woman being in a marriage where she knows that her iman could be better, she is in a marriage where she knows her iman might get weaker.


I am not ever saying that having more than one wife is not allowed. 'Aoothu billah. I am just saying that everyone's relationship with Allah is very personal and only He and that person know the true nature of it.


As Salam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu