03-12-2005, 09:53 AM
Bismillah
as salam alykom all
Dont know why this thread carries this much misunderstandings.
(I will not say I will ask for a divorce, because I know that if accept I am patient, and accept what He ordered me to do, then Allah will be Pleased with me and reward me for my patience in Jannah. <b>This is how true muslims should be, otherwise they are weak muslims</b>( sorry sister intuition. no offense, people differ, and this is how I c it to Please Allah)
Radiyah dear the underlined part is exactly what I was referring too. Because even if one does not take it and asks for divorce, still we can not label her as one of weak Eman. Just exactly as we can not lable a man who takes a second wife as doing this only for sexual pleasure. Only Allah Knows why a man takes a second wife, may be the man himself does not understand the wisdom behind it at the time.
So only the underlined part Radiyah is what I was referring too. Whatever action we do, is only measured by Allah. We can not say one who can versus one who can not take polygyny.
Polygyny and wisdom behind it is a vast issue just like any other issue in our life, but we just dont stand the way we do with polygyny on other matters.