03-07-2005, 04:04 PM
(This post was last modified: 03-07-2005, 04:12 PM by fearAllah247.)
can anyone find it in the Qu'ran or sunnah that conditions of monogomy were put into a marriage contract? or that polygyny was allowed ONLY in extreme circumstances? or is the husband marrying another, a reason that allows for divorce of the first wife? its easy to follow our desires here, but the only condition Allah put on polygyny was that u treat your wives equally, and if unable to do so then limit yourself. so for intuitions husband if he fears he is unable to treat his wives equally, then it is for him to stick to one. and my husband, if he chooses to marry another i would not divorce him. it is not for me to say what is his ability or for me to take away his rights that Allah has given him. nor would i give up my rights. we need to be careful here, for our opinion has no place in islam.
sticking to the Qu'ran and sunnah is most important. to put a stipulation in a marriage contract that u cannot derive from qu'ran and sunnah is innovation. to say that polygyny is limited to extreme circumstances was not the practice of the prophet (SAW) or his companions, so to say this is to innovate new practices in islam that did not exist at the time of the prophet or the companions or the salaf. if they did practice this, could someone show me the proof for it? may Allah forgive me if i am incorrect.
so i guess some of u already said this, i am only emphasizing the importance of strictly adhering to Qu'ran and sunnah. we can never be careful enough not to deviate, and start following our desires which is so easy to do. may Allah make us of those successful in the hereafter, ameen. u can never ask yourself enough, what it is u truly want, the akhira or this dunya? well we all know what we want, but are our actions in accordance with the answer?