08-11-2003, 05:08 AM
This is see and hear alot in the islamic community, and I state this for our overall muslim family.
I pray Allah bless me to state what is right.
The Messenger (saaws) said, "When a woman spends the night forsaking the bed of her husband, then the angels curse her until she returns.
The Messenger (saaws) said to a woman, "Indeed he is your Paradise and your Fire. {meaning her husband}
My opinion: It is important that when the husbands are not that romanitc, but loves his wife, she should still surrender to her husband, because he has the right of her as his tilth. A woman should want to please her husband, as Allah (saaws) has placed mercy between the two. As well as the husband should want to please his wife, but sisters you must understand a man is different than a woman and sometimes, not that soft.
Abu Hurayrah® said, that the Messenger (saaws) said, "If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fast her month in Ramadhaan, guards her private parts, and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, Enter Paradise through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.
My opinion: This life isn't perfect, no love-relation is perfectly romanitc, but women must not refuse their husbands unless it is for a logically reason, not just because she just don't want to fulfill her husband's desires.
Every man (especially muslim men, who should know better than the average man), we should want to please our wives, and all muslim women should want to please their husbands, 2 wrongs don't make a right.
Insha'llah, be the one to please the other no matter what, until Allah wills other wise. Marriage is sacred and we should try to go against all evil, to keep our families together, this life isn't nothing, and we need to do all the good we can, especially in our families.
I pray I didn't transgress any bounds (cross any lines) or offend anyone. I truely wish well for us all.
May Allah (swt) grant us HIs Good Pleasure above all.
As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llahi wa barakatu!