radiyah,
Quote:Second I am not propagating anything, I am just simply saying that there are some men who are not satesfied with one, and I did not mean that all men are neccesarily, the same and my answer was based upon your statement.
But you did not make it seem that way in your post. Perhaps you were just angry at the time you composed it, but the way you sounded then.... there were only 2 options FOR ALL MEN. You lumped MY wonderful husband in with the scoundrels who are so sex-driven that they SEEMINGLY can't control themselves. You left no room for the possibility that there ARE men out there who are not like this.
Quote:Where a woman will be too proud to accept that her husband will share another wife with her,
And no woman SHOULD have to take that. A man would never, NEVER, NEVER accept HIS wife being with another man. Why should a woman have to put up with that if she doesn't want to?
Quote:and she threatens that she will ask for a divorce, but if she knows that he has a girlfriend, it will be okay with her as long as he did not marry her,
Well, I don't know anything about this. Both are ridiculous to put up with. Neither is better than the other; they are equally as bad.
Quote:and this is more open and accepted in the western world than in the arab and islamic world .
Wrong. All wrong. NO WOMAN <b>ACCEPTS</b> this UNLESS she begins to convince herself that men just can't help themeselves or she thinks little of her own self. I will NEVER accept that men can't be satisifed with 1 woman, therefore I will never tolerate another wife OR a "chick on the side" and no woman in the world should, IMO.
Quote:But I am not saying that all men are like that, some are satesfied with one, and that is excellent, and I am happy for u Ronni that your husband loves you and that he is a good husband, that is wonderful
Thank you for saying that. I'm glad that this point is clarified; it just seemed that, in your mind, it was only 1 option or the other. But now I can see that you are NOT meaning to say that.
Quote: but what we are trying to say and all of my brothers and sisters said, that Allah(SWT) made it perrmissable mostly for hounarable causes, like our beloved prophet did.
Okay. I understand that Islam permits this. What I have seen, though, in these plural marriages is only more heartache, trouble, etc. than if <b>1 woman and 1 man</b> would just stick to each other.
I think that any man who is truly sex-driven will never be satisfied even with 4 wives. Such men like the thrill and challenge of going after different women. They want to experience intercourse with all types of women with no strings attached. Having just 4 to choose from AND having to financially support them takes the "fun" out of it for such a person (if you can call them that). A good man is pleased to love and support his wife and cherish her and her only, not be driven my physical impulses to sleep with anything that comes his way.