02-16-2005, 06:35 PM
Bismillah
Praise be to Allah and prayer and peace be upon His Messenger Mohamed
I really feel reluctant to participate on this thread again trying to find a verification for Allah’s Sharia’a. Let me first put something clear. Whatever on Allah’s Book is correct even though we don’t understand – due to the shortage of our knowledge and wisdom – the reason behind it. This whole thread turned into trying to find why? Why it is permissible because Allah Said so.
I agree with the concept Dan presented, yes not all men can not control them, but there are those who cannt and I don’t have to blame them, we are not the same, although may be Radiyah was brutally honest about the way she puts it, but it is a fact that a high rate of men either in the West or East are engaged in extra marital relations. Many heads of state have been found having illegal children. Now this is really beside the point. Also as Dan said it is allowed but not a must.
May be the point I am about to make is a totally different aspect of polygyny, but it is worth listening to.
The heat to Allah Is a major and most important organ of the human being, in a hadeeth the Messenger salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam said what means that there is an organ in the body if it is sound the whole body becomes healthy and if corrupted the whole body goes corrupt and it is the heart. If u refer to Quran, in many positions Allah identifies the heart as the organ with which mankind comprehends, sees and understands.
When the heart becomes fully set or attached to other than Allah it turns blind and somber. No matter what this thing/ person is. Love in Islam has a totally different meaning. It is not about O I can not live without him/her no it is about we love everything thru our love to Allah. This way the earth is not taken off from under the feet upon the loss of anything. Why do u think singers, actors, or any other celebrities no matter what is the source of fame is get either depressed, suicidal when lights fade away? Because the heart was set on this source of satisfaction. I am not going off topic, no. In many cases, I don’t want to say all, of polygyny or let us say when a man walks away from any kind of relation with a woman and takes a replacement, the woman’s femininity is actually slaughtered. That is about everything. She feels not enough of a woman, why do u think u see women going out of their way to bring them back no matter what it takes? It is the female pride. Why he looked at her? What is with her that I don’t have? It is the self satisfaction issue. On the other hand sometimes a woman is so much attached to a man in a way that could lead to Shirk (minor shirk) shirk is taking associates with Allah. For the previously mentioned cases Allah Who Created us and Cares about our well being disciplines the person to bring him back to the correct path.
I am just giving examples, Allah Is not brutal but He rings bells when mankind’s well being is in jeopardy. The whole idea of ME ME ME is mostly behind women’s rejection to polygyny.
In some cases also there are women who really need to marry and simply can not find a chance to, because also of physical needs which are certainly natural. Why would I hold on one man who can provide a chance for another sister to also receive this right? Being a major responsibility on the man yes, but 3 of them can make it work, when I think that my sister needs a lot just like myself. The reasons are numerous we can never realize all of Allah’s Wisdom. I just liked to bring aspects that are not tackled.