02-15-2005, 07:58 PM
Hey Muslimah,
I am doing as you and Dan mentioned... searching through "old" threads on polgyamy, polygyny and polyandry. I'll keep reading through them, but really... it's rather depressing to me.
Thread after thread, people are basically saying the same thing: That it all boils down to a man's hormones, as if he just can't control himself. Like I said before, having this view of man makes them no better than the beasts and animals of the earth. Is not marriage more than that?!?!?!
God created men and women DIFFERENTLY than he did animals, right? But this puts men on par with them!!! I just can't wrap my mind around that. I prefer the idea that there may be wars and a shortage of men to the idea that they are just so hormonally out of control that they can't help themselves.
Heck, with having to financially support all those wives and children, he probably won't have the energy to be with any one of them, realistically.
This is a very weak argument to me. Some women have very strong sex drives; what if her husband can't keep up with her?
Can she go to her doctor and get scientific evidence that her sex drive is way above average and then justify getting another husband to help satisfy her urges?
<b>No</b>
Islamically, I guess she'd have to divorce her husband and try again with the next one.
Whatever I may think about polygamy (for or against it), I will never accept this argument that a man's sex drive is a major factor in support of it.
Guess there's not much left for me to say on this topic....