Quote:<blockquote data-ipsquote="" class="ipsQuote" data-ipsquote-contentapp="forums" data-ipsquote-contenttype="forums" data-ipsquote-contentid="2516" data-ipsquote-contentclass="forums_Topic"><div>Who would choose such a lifestyle of sharing your husband with someone else?
And who could choose a lifestyle your husband having 10's of girlfriends behind your
back, do u bear that ronni ? This is what is actually happening in the western society, u
cannot deny that can u? It is man's nature, he was created that way some are pleased
with one others need more than one, we cannot change that can we. ?
Peace
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So, what you're saying radiyah, is that there are only 2 possibilities when it comes to marriage:
1) Let the man legally marry more than 1 wife
OR
2) He'll marry 1 wife and then have women on the side (i.e. affairs)?
Radiyah, your question is based on propaganda. Every man is not engaged in adulteress affairs. And no, I <b>DO NOT BEAR</b> my husband having "chicks" on the side. He would never do that to me. He loves me and he understands that we have a <b>COVENANT</b> relationship together that is not based upon sexual intimacy alone. He understands that GOD called us to be together and that He puts himself right in the path of God's wrath if he commits adultery.
Whenever we have problems or challenges in our marriage, he brings them out so we can talk about it and fix whatever is wrong or needs improvement. He comes home every night and we wake up together every morning.
You know, I give men more credit than you apparently do. To say that men are polygamous by nature... that they can't help themselves..... that is to put them on the same level as dogs, goats and horses. Men are not mere animals with no reasoning or thought processes.
If I believed men were no better than dogs in heat, I'd never want to be married in the first place. It is <b>NOT IMPOSSIBLE</b> for a man to be committed to 1 woman. Adam was with only Eve, right? If it were true that it is "man's nature", then like I said earlier, God would have created Adam, Eve, and 2 or 3 other women, too. <b>BUT HE DIDN'T</b>. Everything was perfect when God first created it. Funny that that perfection didn't include multiple wives for Adam.
Muslims also promote the fact that Muhammad was committed to Khadijah only for what.... 25 years, right?
Men do what women allow them to do. If we excuse the behavior, they'll just continue to do it.
And you didn't answer my question: Would you like to be in such a plural marriage yourself? And don't give me this, "I'd prefer that over him having mistresses". NOT ALL MEN DO THAT! Therefore, you need to tell me, if you had the choice, would you choose to be his ONLY WIFE or share him with other women? Which is it?