Why Did The Prophet Muhammad Marry Many Wives?

[ronniv93]

Muslimah,


Yes, your post did help. Thank you.


This whole thing started up (<i>with me anyway</i>) with the article that was quoted that somehow was trying to use the Bible to justify polygamy by citing examples of Biblical characters who were engaged in it.


Simply because people DO or DID something, though, does not mean that it is something acceptable or recommended. It's never quoted from the Bible (from Muslims) how these people suffered all kinds of issues and problems DUE TO these plural marriages or how some even DISOBEYED GOD by doing this.


So, bottom line on this is that the Bible is not supportive of plural marriage just because some people did it. The ideal marriage is between 1 man and 1 woman.


If Islam allows for more than that, then that's Islam. But what does the Bible have to do with that? Nothing, as far as I can tell.


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The main thing I have read about why multiple husbands would be a problem is: 1) Common Sense and 2) Identifying the father.


- So from a Quran standpoint, there is nothing specifically stated saying, "Yes, women can be involved with polyandry" or " No, women cannot."


Using just basic human reasoning, one could argue that common sense tells you that having multiple wives is a bad idea. 1 man having to bear the financial burden of up to 4 wives and let's say 2 children each??? What a nightmare! Who makes THAT kind of money? Not many people.


Also, marriage is about more than sexual relations. It's personal and emotional intimacy. How can that truly be developed when you have all these wives and children involved? From my own personal experience, it can be a challenge just for 2 people to REALLY develop a deep understanding, love and trust for one another. Between work, church involvement, visiting with family and friends, household chores, paying bills, exercising, grocery shopping, etc., etc.... we often have to MAKE time just for us to sit and talk or watch a movie together. It takes work to learn one another.


I cannot imagine this working at all in a plural marriage relationship. To me, the "relationships" would be very basic, at best. Heck, with all those wives involved, he'd probably have to work 2 or 3 jobs just to support them. And even if he didn't, how does he have time to be there emotionally OR physically for each and every wife?

As why I think Umm made a response the issue of lineage is very important, it is even logical that a woman can not decide the father of a child if she is involved in a multi sexual activities.

These days, it's a simple blood test that could determine that.


Or they could even PLAN to have a baby so for a month or so, she's only with 1 husband.... long enough to determine that she's actually pregnant. That's a simple way of handling it. But again, a blood test would do as well. With multiple husbands, I'm sure they could even afford a DNA test.


If this idea sounds sick to you, why does it not also sound sick for a man to sleep with 1 wife tonight, the 2nd wife tomorrow, back to the 1st wife the next night, and then wife 3 on the following night?


Who would choose such a lifestyle of sharing your husband with someone else?


If someone here is in a polygamous marriage, I'd love to hear their side of the story. Or even if you'd LIKE to be in such an arrangement, PLEASE let me hear your story.