06-10-2003, 05:00 PM
Praise be to Allah, abundant praise for making us Muslims He Who is Worthy of all the praise and prayer and peace be upon His Messenger Mohamed Ibn Abdullah, his family members and companions.
Mash a Allah sister Amira, may Allah bestow more knowledge on you.
In this post we will ponder on the Ayah of creating a mate from Adam saying:
"ومن آياته أن خلق لكم من أنفسكم أزواجا لتسكنوا إليها وجعل بينكم مودة ورحمة إن فى ذلك لآيات لقوم يتفكرون" (الروم 21)
"and among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” (Quran 30:21)
If we look at the underlined word لتسكنوا إليها the word يسكن is derived from سكن which is dwelling or residence. A place where one live. So Allah Sobhanhu wa ta`ala describes the woman to a man as the dwelling to which he turns for tranquility. It shall also contain shade and protection against all outsider annoying factors. A calm island where one may rest and relax. I can give more description but why not leave it to you to comment on.
Only if we really understand the meaning of this Ayah. Now I am not being biased against my own gender. No matter of fact I am reminding myself and my sisters of the true role a woman must play in her husband’s life. Don’t start mumbling to yourselves saying what about him? We are not here to discuss his role. Matter of fact he has a major one. He is the Amir and must be careful while steering the wheel of the boat. But let us first look at our responsibility.
We must start. We must initiate kind treatment and words and not waiting for his reward but rather the Divine reward Insh a Aallah.