12-15-2004, 07:10 PM
Bismillah
As Salam alaikum
Just because the brother graduated from Medina does not necessarily mean that he is practicing the religion that it should be practiced. Remember that there will be people who are punished in Jahanam because they had religious knowledge but did not apply it.
I think this man is being very unreasonable with his new wife. He knew that she had circumstances that she needed to take care of before being with him. Now he is having a fit because of what OTHER people think? Did not this type of thinking cause the Prophet much stress when his wife Ayesha was lost in the desert and a companion found her? After they arrived back in Medina, people started a bunch of rumors. They got back to the Prophet who originally had no problem with the circumstances under which his wife was found. As people whispered though, he started to get upset.
What business is it of these other people where the brother's wife is? It isn't. It is a stipulation that was laid out in the marriage contract and he is fulfilling it. At least, this should be his perspective. Instead he is letting petty garbage get in the way of his rational and compassionate thinking. I know that many muslim men have a problem with having to control the women in their lives. This is not Islam and not the way of the Prophet. Maybe Allah is trying to let this sister get out of this marriage (virginity still intact) while revealing what type of husband she should look for. Mash'Allah, the brother has knowledge but I would gladly have a nice, understanding, dumb wife than a knowledgable, callous wife. I have found that knowledge can always be learned but a good character is so rare and precious that it should be valued for what it is worth.
Insha'Allah my rantings conveyed some type of coherant thought. If it did, it is from Allah Alone.
As Salam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu