12-06-2004, 08:41 AM
Bismillah
As Salam alykom
Mash a Allah very nice idea to tackle the subject of marriage in this way
Do u all allow me to split the thread and take the marriage part to a new thread. It really is worth an indepandant thread so that when a member comes in looking, it will be easier to locate the info.
I just dont want to do it immediately, Sally just keep this in mind I will split it ok
Mash aAllah I see that Radiyah and Intuition gave excellent input. But let me take part here, I love to.
How Allah Describes the husband / wife relation in Quran is amazing:
"It is made lawful for you to have sexual relations with your wives on the night of As-Saum (the fasts). <b>They are Libas [i.e. body cover, or screen, (i.e. you enjoy the pleasure of living with her), for you and you are the same for them</b>" (Quran 2:187)
Just ponder on the underlined part. In Arabic the word used which is libas is literally a garment. How does the garment serve the human being either male or female? It protects againt weather changes, unnecessary looks, covers the A`wara (parts of body that must not be revealed), ..etc.
Allah Used a word that is so meaningful in identifying the husband / wife relation. If the couple keeps this in mind, things would be much different. Each one of the couple is supposed to protect the other. Even protecting against revealing bad qualities or mistakes, sins or faulty behavious, for noone is perfect. A garment also covers secrets, private issue, personal matters, Sobhan Allah Allah Used just one word to convey a very deep and special meaning.
I know that originally u asked about a husband's duty, but just take this one too.
On another Ayah Allah Say:
"And among His Signs is this, <b>that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them</b>, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect" (Quran 30:21)
As for the underlined part, the Arabic word here is leskunu which is derived from the word sakan. The word Sakan means a residence, a place where one lives, but also a place where one may find tranquility. Tanskunu is to find tranquility. Just imagine how Allah Describes the role of a wife. I can go on but enough for now.
Sally Mash a Allah u r wearing niqab now Mash aAllah may Allah protect u and makes it easy for u ameen