11-22-2004, 10:40 AM
Bismillah
as salam alykom
In Islam a man is a father, son, brother, husband, neighbor, employer, employee, co worker, business owner, artisan, trader and more. In each of such capacities he is required to assume certain responsibilities, while concurrently have of course rights. Of course the resposnisilities of a father are totally different from those of a husband and so on.
However, to sum up and be concise. A Muslim man is one who is trying to abide by Quran and Sunnah as much as possible while dealing with others whatever his capacity is. He must take Quran and Sunnah as ground for his behaviour among the Muslim community. He must always bear in mind that Allah's Rights are first and foremost to be fulfilled, thru these rights he will be able to attain Allah's Satisfaction which leads to a smooth life in this world and the best in the Day After.
A Muslim man is one for example who knows that Allah Say:
"And say to My slaves (i.e. the true believers of Islamic Monotheism) that they should (only) say those words that are the best. (Because) Shaytan (Satan) verily, sows disagreements among them. Surely, Shaytan (Satan) is to man a plain enemy." (Quran 17:53)
Which is further explained thru the following hadeeth:
Narrated Jaber that the Messenger Salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam said:" The most loved to me and closest to me in sitting position among you in the Day of Resurrection is the best in mannerism, and the most hated to me and most far in the position of sitting position on the Day of Resurrection are the talkative, one who uses bad language and show off while talking with people and those who are arrogant" (reported by Sunan Termidhi)
As u may see this is a general mannerism advice on any capacity or role a man plays. On another hadeeth Narrated Mo`adh that the Messenger Salla Allah a`lyhee wa sallam said: O Mo`adh follow the bad deed with a good deed to eliminate it and adopt good mannerism in dealing with people" (reporeted with Ahmed).
This is all I can think of for the time being, may be I can come later Insh a Allah and call our brothers to participate.