11-20-2004, 11:34 PM
Assalamu alaikum,
Anyabwile, you are right, a lot of his ideas fit in with Islam. Things such as creating a strong and loving family (1) and that sex is reserved for marriage (11).
I don't have a problem with the <b>outcomes</b> he is proposing, such as "real love develops over a long period of time and is based on trust" (4).
However, he is blaming women as the obstacles to his ideal male existence. He is afraid of women and the power they have to keep him from this. Read:
2. I always knew I wanted to rule my own roost but feminism prohibited this.
3. Women will try to come between a man and his work
4. Our society makes sex, love and female beauty into a phony religion
5. (Beautiful women) are more trouble because of their sense of entitlement.
8. Do you not want to share your wife with her boss?
9. Avoid women who are overachievers.
10. In the act of love, we say a man "possesses" a woman.
13. Truth is liberating even if it is the truth about our present bondage.
There is nothing wrong with the situations he wants. But he is trying to blame it on women and feminism, when it is his ideals in the first place that are causing women to react and to fight back. He is giving advice to men on how to control the <b>presence</b> of women in their lives. Rather, they should be controlling <b>how they treat</b> the women in their lives.
Does that make sense?