11-20-2004, 07:43 PM
1. The creation of a strong and loving family is perhaps the highest goal to which a man can aspire. This is the natural process by which men (and women) grow over a lifetime. This is how we find love and intimacy. It isn't for everyone but it is the path to happiness for most.
2. Stop listening to the media, your peer group or parents. "Trust thy self," - Emerson. What are your instincts telling you? For example, I always knew I wanted to rule my own roost but feminism prohibited this. Obey your instincts.
3. Make your work your passion. Work is the backbone of a man. Men get self-confidence from performing a task well, and receiving reward and recognition. Women will try to come between a man and his work but don't let them. Don't let anyone or anything thwart your genius. Women do not respect men who make them their first priority. Your work will keep you on course and help you avoid temptation.
4. Our society makes sex, love and female beauty into a phony religion in order to distract and manipulate us. Sex and beauty get tedious pretty quickly. The magic ends. Real love develops over a long period of time and is based on trust.
5. Do not put beautiful women on a pedestal. They are flawed like everyone else. They are more trouble because of their sense of entitlement. Do not marry someone based on sexual infatuation. I recount this error in my book "A Long Way to go for a Date."
6. Now that I have emerged from the hormonal haze at age 55, I can see that sex is a fraud and really a minor part of life. Sexual frustration is used to distract us while they establish a police state. People wouldn't be frustrated if they got married at a young age as they did in the 1950's and started families. Women should marry before going to university; men after beginning their careers.
7. Society is addicted to sex. The atmosphere is sexualized. Human relationships have been degraded. The best way to fight sex addiction is to get married. I am now happily married and find outside sexual temptations to be an irritation, like a shrill noise. Call it male menopause: I switch the channel.
8. Do not marry a woman who doesn't make you and her family her first priority. Do you not want to share your wife with her boss? If you have an aim in life, why would you marry someone who doesn't support it? In the marketplace of love, men have all the power. Our fertility lasts three times as long as theirs. We are the buyers. There are plenty of fine women, especially if we look abroad.
9. Real women are self-effacing. They put their husbands and their children before themselves. Avoid women who compete, control, criticize or complain. Avoid women who are overachievers. Don't get hung up on unavailable women. Choose a wife who will make a delightful companion and wonderful mother for your children.
10. Being possessive is natural. A man wants to possess a woman. Women want to be possessed. In the act of love, we say a man "possesses" a woman. Total love equals total possession. This is not the same as domination. It is union based on mutual trust and love.
11. Think of your semen as your unique spirit and essence. Would you entrust it to a vulgar or mediocre woman just because she was attractive? Ideally we would only have sex with a women we would want to mother our children. This is why sex was reserved for marriage.
12. The media is doing a number on us regarding children. How often do we see children portrayed in a positive light? We are rich in proportion to the things we love. The highest love is that of husband and wife, and parents and their children.
13. Don't waste your time "looking for God." We find God by serving Him, obeying Him and sacrificing ourselves. God is your conscience, your sense of right and wrong, and the ideal of absolute truth justice and love. We are not men because we refuse to sacrifice ourselves to God. Truth is liberating even if it is the truth about our present bondage. (By: Dr. Henry Makow, PhD)