A Common Problem I Notice Alot Lately.....

[umm Zachariah]

Assalamu aleikum,


Shukran sisters R and M for looking into this matter some more.


The only thing I was able to find goes like this; ''If a non-Muslim couple embraced Islam, their marriage shall continue to subsist. But if only one of them accepted Islam such a marriage is to be dissolved without a divorce. If it is the wife who embraced Islam, and the marraige is subsequently so dissolved, and she started to observe the idda; now, if the husband followed suit during the idda; then the husband will have first claim to her...'' From 'Shari'ah The Islamic Law' by Abdur Rahman I. Doi.


Dear sister Shaunee,


I asked for your lines and when I got them they made me so sad . I do understand what you are saying about the problems, the collision between the Islamic Law and the non-Islamic law of the country one lives in. What is this ECFR that you refer to? Is it some kind of organisation that help Muslims living in non-Muslims countries?


Please sister try to be patient, I know it is easy to say, difficult to live up to, but for now it is the only thing to do. Let some time pass, hopefully some things settles down a bit at least. Turn yourself to Allah, SWT seek His guidance how to coupe for now. Pray to Him, make dua, read the Qur'an and learn about Islam. And also try to be in touch with the Muslim community where you live. Through the mosque or an Islamic center. Sister it is not easy, but Allah, SWT is surely testing you and in the same way strengthening you. Take this challenge and gain from it insha'Allah.


And please write to us here, even if we are far away physically we are always insha'Allah reachable if the technic works. Or if you don't like to put all your feelings visible on the screen, please don't hesitate to PM to me, insha'Allah I do what I can to support you. If you don't know many Muslims for now, then at least it can be good to have a sister to turn to that understands, at least more or less, what you are going through.


Sister you are a MUSLIMAH now and nothing else! If someone calls you otherwise, they are just ignorant people that cannot be much in fear of Allah, SWT. I am also being called now and then a Christian when going outside my house, in spite that my outlook shows far from that. They are just ignorant. Faith is between you and Allah, SWT sister and people are just people they come and go. Some is better some is worse. But Allah, SWT is ALWAYS there for you, remember He does not sleep nor slumber, always awake to receive your prayer.


Don't isolate yourself, don't be a stranger, let us hear from you constantly. Yes I know your faith is yours and only yours, BUT that does not mean that you are alone! You must use us to help you through this. The words brotherhood and sisterhood are not just empty words.


Wasalam your sister in faith