About Marriage: need help pls

[sabiqoon]

Assalaamu Alaykum,

I know this has nothing to do with the topic but I have questions pertaining to marriage. I know many of us sisters in USA who are single are finding it very hard to find good Muslim man who are obedient to Allaah as well as will be kind and good to their wives. Many of us dont want to marry relatives or guys from overseas as this will be difficult for us and for understand and then we cannot actually 'find' a spouse either because that will entail breaking a lot of rules. Please offer any suggestions. The matrimonial websites online, I dont think they will be that good(or I really dont know:confused: )

So I dont know, please make dua' for your sisters in Islaam. Many of us dont want to be in a situation where we are sad. It is quite easy to bash sisters( and I dont mean advising them to correct the wrong actions, I mean bashing them, when nowadays Muslim men are as mean and disobedient to Allaah's commandments as Muslim women) Wallaahu alim.

Please reply soon,

sister in Islaam,

the needy before Allaah.

[UmmHabibah]

wa aleikum salam

Have sabr sister and make a lot of dua'a. Try to observe the ettique of du'aa. Ask Allah tala by his most beautiful names and praise Him, send salam upon the Prophet. And ask at the times when Allah tala doesn't refuse your du'aa ie. a fasting person, last third of the night, Fridays. Have iman and be patient, and patience is not easy that is why Allah speaks of its virtues time and time again.

Regarding online matrimonial agencies i wouldn't recommend it. How do you know that the man is a good muslim? How would you vet him? And nowadays we shouldn't take anything at face value alone. And is this respectable? AllahuAlim. Alhamduillah i have a husband but if i didn't believe me sister i wouldn't use this type of agency. Sabrun Jamilah.

As for muslim men, there are many good brothers Alhamduillah. And the sisters i have seen who have had problems (major things which resulted in divorce) all said the same- I wish i chose a more practicing brother. This is the key to success Inshallah.

When they asked Hassan ibn Ali

To whom should we marry our daughters? He replied marry your daughters to a man with taqwa for if he loves her he will honour her and if he doesn't love her he will never oppress her.

And may Allah subhana wa tala grant you a good husband.

[hefny]

aslaam alikum

الْخَبِيثَاتُ لِلْخَبِيثِينَ وَالْخَبِيثُونَ لِلْخَبِيثَاتِ وَالطَّيِّبَاتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَالطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَاتِ أُوْلَئِكَ مُبَرَّؤُونَ مِمَّا يَقُولُونَ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَرِزْقٌ كَرِيمٌ

Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women), such (good people) are innocent of (each and every) bad statement which they say, for them is Forgiveness, and Rizqun Karim (generous provision i.e.Paradise).

surah alnoor ayah 26

وَلاَ تَنكِحُواْ الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّى يُؤْمِنَّ وَلأَمَةٌ مُّؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ وَلاَ تُنكِحُواْ الْمُشِرِكِينَ حَتَّى يُؤْمِنُواْ وَلَعَبْدٌ مُّؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ أُوْلَـئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ وَاللّهُ يَدْعُوَ إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ

And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember.

sursh2 ayah221

[hefny]

Aslaam Alikum

What I mean we get what we deserve in order to get better married we have to clean our heart and ask Allah (the well known) sincerely to help us after praying Stekharah for what is best for us & be sure that Allah will answer your prayer at the right time

Also you should put your attention toward that when you get married to build good Muslim family

I hope I made my personal opinion clear & helpful for you in all your happy life inshaa Allah

[smdahmed]

Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah.

Its oftensaid by Islamic scholars that Invoking Allah SWT by His beautiful names and seeking a good husband in dua will Insha Allah bless any girl with a good husband.

Its really difficult to find out a true husband for any girl and that too in non-muslim countries.

May Allah SWT bless the sisters' in Islam with Islamic husbands - Ameen.

Wassalam

Ahmed.

[radiyah]

well sister I have nothing more to add, than our brothers and sisters said except i pray to Allah Almighty, that each pious girl will find her a pious man, may Allah be your assistance.

[UmmHabibah]

MODERATORS pls remove that link.

[radiyah]

Johndoe, I hope u stop sticking your nose

in everyhting we write, stick to what u want to know , that site u put is not from sunni it is shia, u really do not want to know the differnce do u. u will c it in another post, so u will stop using shia's links and considering Iran as an Islamic country.

peace

[Ahlam]

Salamu 'alaikum,

Sister Sadiqoon, I can advice with one thing which is very efficient 100%. It is to entrust your affairs with Allah swt. Put all your trust on Him. Tell Him the Merciful :"<b>I entrust You my Lord with all my affairs. I put all my trust on You my dear Allah. I have nobody to resort to expect You. I have no power nor might expect by You. You created me and I am Your slave, and I am standing at Your door because whoever stands at Your door is never turned disappointed O my Merciful God!!</b>

Believe me sister just put all your trust on our Merciful dear Allah and ask Him sincerly, but you must be sure that Allah answers all supplications, and you will see, you will never turn disappointed from His door the Almighty.

May Allah grant all the believers a faithful spouse, ameen!!

Peace

Your sister Ahlam

[radiyah]

Sorry for that Radiyah. We can follow up later if you like.

Yes John we will follow it up later for sure, and I will prove to u that Iran is not that full Islamic state, they cahnged a lot in Islam according to their will and needs, exactly like the christiams and jews, the Quran cannot be changed because God preserved it, so they have a totally different translation of the Quran which is really non beleivable in any way. Anyways we will talk about it somewhere else and not in this topic.

Peace