Salam

[amma]

Salam everyone u probably have noticed i havent been on here for a while.

I am going though a few problems at the moment and some disagrements with sum ppl. I was wondering abt wot i am meant to do if u dnt agree with sum1 in ur family with a certain issue related to Islam. The way its been put to me is that i have to follow wot i have been taught even though it may be wrong. Me and other ppl have tried to explain to others who r doing wrong things y it is wrong. I dnt really wnt to go into any details but they still dnt seem to listen. Instead i have jst been kinda given abuse in the way that im tld im wron even though i knw i mite be rite. Its kinds hard to explain but has ne1 gt any advice on wot i can do.

Inshallah i will do my best to get onto track again an be bk at the forum on a regular basis.

Can u pls make dua for me that i get through these problems and that Allah shows me and others the rite path to Islam.

Ameen

[wel_mel]

Assalamo Alikom Sister Amma,

Inshaa Allah i will keep you in my Du'aa. and am sorry sister i dont know how to help you since i dont understand what's wrong excactly. but anyway i advise you to make ISTEKHARAH prayer and ask Allah for what you need. and Inshaa Allah he will show you the solution.

please let us know if you need anything.

May Allah always be with you. Ameen.

All the best

Salam

wel_mel

[Muslimah]

as salam alykom dearest amma

as far as I understood, is that some one is doing somethign wrong and u r trying to explain this according to Quran and sunnha and all what u get is abuse. What did all the Prophets and messengers got dear. If u dont go through this u will be missing something from the heritage of Prophets. So first u must praise Allah that He allowed u to take over His message.

Now as how to handle, we all go through this and it is mostly hardest when it involves family members. U just keep on saying what pleases Allah in a very nice way, keep in mind that one who is doing wrong is probably aware of this but feeling hard to stop, so u r just facing him with his mistakes, so keep this in mind, usually he will be aggressive, u be patient, remember u r doing this to Allah and waiting for no human reward. Keep in mind that the road of dawa`a is not carpeted with flowers. Again be patient, understanding, not sarcastic, never moke one who is committing a sin for we can never guarantee that we won't do it. Alway bring Allah's mercy and grace and that Allah is just waiting for us to repent. Also bring the point that we are all vulnerable to sins and how we must fight shaytan. Do it in a very understanding and sympathitic manner. the wong does is certainly aware and needs help, if Allah can understand and treats us mercifullly, then we must.

Now most important is always before talking to the person read Ayatulkorsi to protect both of u from shaytan and of course much dua for the person to distinguish between right and wrong clearly.

I am already keeping u in my dua of course.

[masriahmuslimah]

Asalam~O~Alykum

I totally agree with sister Muslimah. U should hold on and keep on fighting for what the Quran and the Sunnah said and ask us to do. Inshllah if u keep on talking to this person in a nice way and not arguing inshallah everything will turn fine. Also pray 4 them a lot and don't forget the dua'a an istekarah. That's the most important things to do. Inshallah Allah will never leave u alone.

Salam~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Masriahmuslimah

[amma]

Jazakallah all for ur help. Inshallah i will do everything u have told me too.

I know that its going to tk a very long time for these ppl to come to terms with wot is true inshallah i will try to be pateint. But i need to ask wot if the things they r doing wrong are held in your house. I mean one of the things i have disagreed with members of my family is sumthing called kathams. It hasnt been mentioned anywhere in the hadith and sunnah. So it confuses me alot when ppl do things which there is no evidence for. If ne1 does knw ne hadith or ayat relating to kathams can u pls tell me.

Well me and sum members of family are told dat we r wrong b.c we dnt belive certain things. Now soon in my house a katham is going to take place wot am i meant to do.

[Muslimah]

as salam alykom amma

it is good to see u back, may Allah help us all to be able to attend more to all of our duties.

Now if u explain what exactly is a kathams, I dont think I know what u mean. May be we can help...

[Shereen]

If iam not mistaken then 'Khatams' are when some people come & recite Quran or a certian amount of Quran...........iam not 100% sure but it's sumthing about people comming & reciting Quran

[Abu Dujanah]

i mean when someone dies {or other accasions} they have these khatams......like all people gather and do stuff

And may Allah save us from this evil.

[Abu Dujanah]

Why was my post edited?????

[Star]

As salaam alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakahtuhu

i think sister amma may be refering to the practice of Darood Sharif khatams which many some muslims believe in.....they recite darood sharif and make dua over food to Allah to grant them what they wish for....

from my understand this has no evidence and is a innervation....there is no evidence from the quran or sunnah that this should or was done by the prophet mohammad PBUH.

for the people who do do such practices and there wishes do come true....well put yourself on the wrong path of islam and dont seek the truth and even when the truth is sent to you and you dont obey, Allah is surely to keep you on that wrong path.

sister amma try and pray salah as much as you can and ask Allah to give you strength, stand strong in what you believe to be true, when we stand infront of our Lord it is are own deeds we account for, Paradise is surly below our mothers feet....and we should obey our perents....but if we are sure to know they go against islam then help to teach them the correct path.....we can only disobey our perents if they go agaisnt islam.

I love you for the sake of Allah....your always in my dua's InshAllah.

I hope what i have written brings you some comfort...there are many of us fighting to keep islam pure...have strength....

Sister Star