An american advicing a Muslimah!

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


One week before Ramadan, I was working with a young colleague on an interpretation assignment. She is the type of committed Muslimahs who are trying to abide by the dress code but she is struggling for this in the sense that she dresses in tight clothes, wears bright colours as head covers, ..etc. The american man told her Oo u r fishing, you are looking for trouble trying to find a good Egyptian man. She said why? he said if not then why are u dressed up like this, why are you dressed up in bright colours. Then he continued saying look at your colleauge, she is dressed up in a style that she does not want any one to be attracted to her, unlike you are trying to attract attention. She was stunned. I told him you actually summed up the purpose of why Allah Ordained us Muslimahs to cover up, the whole purpose is not to attract attention.


Sobhan Allah, an american drawing her attention. Of course, he didnt mean to direct her to the correct path. BUt this is natural. See, even if westerners do admit this. Through the course of discussion, he said, American women do the same, they maintain long her, wear make up, and bright stylish clothes, to get a husband. Then everything fades away, they stop maintaing their appearence. Cerntainly his purpose was different, but without noticing, he simply admitted that what Allah Ordained is correct.

[Dan]

Bismillah


As Salam alaikum


Suhannallah. Insha'Allah the muslimah will take heed.


Allahu Alem, but I have a difficult time believing this was the first time someone addressed this issue for her or she ever heard of this advice before. The difference was that before the advice was probably coming from muslims. So somewhere someone has failed.


Maybe, the muslims calling this muslimah to better attire failed in dawah, being too harsh?, too critical?, too easy? Or maybe, this muslimah has a deaf ear to the advice of her co-religionists but as with most of the ummah today will take note when a westerner speaks. Allahu Alem.


I was not there and know little of this exact situation but when Allah Wills something, He Will achieve how He Wills and by whatever method He Chooses. Alhamdulillah.


As Salam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


You are correct Dan, Sobhan Allah, this comment came next day to me commenting on a dress she wore, Alhamdulelah doing it in the most proper manner as possible. And actually I took this comment to further explain to her, I told her whether or not we like it, those like us who work with foreigners are ambassadors to Islam, that we must not at any moment forget we are Muslim women, we behave like this because we are Muslimahs. But actually Dan, this style is quite prevailing here unfortunately. We try, but they are sooooo split between knowing what is correct and the surrounding fitnah. I told her, Allah Put this man in her way to coin down a point, hope she takes it in consideration. I doubt that someone spoke to her before. This issue actually is soo vast, I can elaborate on it. In some cases, women tend to loose the core of interest in the Muslimah's dress code, that they only and merely cover their hair, but with bright, sometimes embroided, or with glitter..etc, tight clothes and full make up. I always joke around with them saying Oo Did Allah Say in Quran and do not make your adornment apparent except the lip stick that so and so wears....Certainly they get the message, but still continue. And as u know, our role is to saw the seed and just go, not to push further in order to attain personal credit. And what I mean by saying you are correct is that probably no one ever commented on her appearence. You know why? because this -as I explained- became a norm, I wont say the norm, but a norm, I mean majority in her age are dressed up similarly, leave alone hijab fashion and Oo, there is a garment store close to my house named cool hijab!! can you believe it. Yes cool Hijabi in English. Well, Egypt Land of Wonders!!!! :rolleyes:

[SisterJennifer]

Asalaamu alikum


I really dont think she felt she is doing anything incorrect. I get to see alot of pictures from Egypt and it seems like the typical 'hijab' is a pair of trousers, a blouse, and that oblong kind of scarf that covers the hair and neck but thats about it. Am I right? I guess its normal if most of the people are doing something you wont feel you are wrong when you do the same. Especially when it is more socially acceptable to do the wrong way than the correct way. And the makeup, WOW!


About 6 months ago a Syrian Muslim college of my husband had a wife who just started to wear hijab. They wanted me to meet her. When I met her, I found her in tight blue jeans, a very tight black sweater and some kinda thing that covered up her hair in kind of an "aunt Jamima" kind of way. It covered just her hair. Not even the neck or anything. I dont know what she was wearing before that, but this, to her, was and is hijab.


I wish, just as Allah sent this man to make an offhand remark to get the Egyptian girls attention, that He will do the same for this other young lady. I guess she must have something good in her that he send the man to give her a message.


May Allah forgive us and have mercy on all of us and help all become better Muslims, Ameen.

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


You are absolutely correct Jennifer, I felt the same and told her the same, I told her just ponder on this message, it is a loud and clear message. And as you said, yes, no one will feel she is odd among those who are similar in the vast marjority May Allah Strengthen our Eman ameen.

[AbuMubarak]

Bismillah
You are absolutely correct Jennifer, I felt the same and told her the same, I told her just ponder on this message, it is a loud and clear message. And as you said, yes, no one will feel she is odd among those who are similar in the vast marjority May Allah Strengthen our Eman ameen.

muslims have left islam, because it is strange to them


after years of colonialization, even within muslim countries, islam is foreign to the muslims


and we wonder why Allah tells us not to befriend the kuffar


if muslims had maintained islam throughout our history, we would not have these problems, but because we stopped holding on to the rope of Allah, we have become divided, weak, and basically a pathetic lot


and what is even more amazing, is that when muslims remind muslims of islam, it is the muslims who have the strongest opposition, they quote ayats and hadiths out of context to justify their disobedience to the book of Allah and the sunnah of His messenger.


we ALL need to do better, as was said, become true ambassadors of islam, believe in the book of Allah, obey our messenger, and let the sunnah go forth and do not stop it

[radiyah]

Bismillah


Well this type of dress code is all over the islamic and arabic world, here in kuwait they were even leggings with a a long blouse or short dress to the knee, and the hijab is like they have a pot on top of their heads, with full makeup, and belts around their waists. We had a new syrian secretary, one day she came with a not very short skirt it is 3 quarters and if she sits her legs show, me and another executive secretary said it in a an indirect way, i told the executive aaaah and look at what u are wearing today, she said yes yes short skirt and tight blouse, the syrian just laughed and she is still wearing the same, and did not change, If you want to wear hijab it is either u do it right or dont do it, this is my opinion. And Allah knows best.


Salam

[radiyah]

Who is rude john????? <_<