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Praise be to Allah and prayer and peace be upon His Messenger Mohamed
As Salam Alykom
Sister Star asked me a question yesterday, so I thought Insh a Allah why not share it with the answer with everybody. She was discussing with someone that we must marry for the sake of Allah with the purpose of procreation and establishing a Muslim family. Her party made fun of her, she didn't believe that this must be our objective for getting married and asked her for an evidence from Quran. Well the evidence in Quran will be shocking for her. The Ayah says:
" Say (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم): "Verily, my Salât (prayer), my sacrifice, my living, and my dying are for Allâh, the Lord of the ‘Âlamîn (mankind, jinn and all that exists)." Quran 6:162)
La hawala wala qowata ilabillah. With a thorough look, one realizes that not only marriage which is simply part of our lives in this world that must be dedicated to Allah, but rather our whole life, in addition to other items as mentioned in the ayah which Allah topped with prayer. And just take note that Allah started with prayer although one may say that prayer is simply part of life. Yes it sure is. However, due to its major importance for a Muslim, Allah made special emphasis on it putting it on top of other matters which must be dedicated only to Allah. In simple explanation, if at any point one would for example excel in his/her prayer only when people may see, the salat would be dedicated for people and not for Allah. Like wise the sacrifice. The order of prayer followed by sacrifice of course is a reference to Eidu Aldha " Therefore turn in prayer to your Lord and sacrifice (to Him only)." (Quran 108:1). then Allah brought the part of living. Living includes everything, work, education, marriage, food, sleep, entertainment and a long list of life activities. All with no exception must be fully and only dedicating to Allah. Have we fail to fulfill the condition of Niyah (intention), yes that is the point, Niyah in everything we do must be only to Allah. In case we fail to do so, therefore, the activity would be dedicated to ourselves. In the case subject of discussion, marriage, would be for love, shelter, financial support, beauty, position, social status or other. We certainly will attain a benefit, however, the benefit would be a self satisfactory one, with a very temporary short term impact. May be in some cases this impact may last only for the first week of marriage. After which people will find no solid ground to work out things. On the contrary when marriage is concluded for the sake of Allah, we don't mean u go and marry someone you don't like, Allah Sobhanhu wa Ta`ala blesses the marriage, makes things easy, inspires the person to even look at difficult situations as means to get closer to Allah, closely Assists the parents with raising children and many more benefits. Most important of which is attaining the satisfaction of Allah.
Wallah a`alam
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Aslaam alikum
I agree with you sister muslmah that to marry for the sake of Allah it will make a difference in your whole life
For example in my experience and my observations to others that when we got married we care mainly about the BEAUTY of the other party and religion is not concedered the result of that we most of the time not compatible and we have to sacrifices every thing to protect or children even if we knew that we are doing some times bad deeds
At the end we have to gain what we deserve for not understanding our great religion
As profit Mohamed (saaws) advices to us that woman can be selected for married either for their BEAUTY or wealth or religious
And his advice to select the religious wife you will be a winner (this my own translation for the meaning)
Also profit Mohamed (saaws) express to us that one of the blessing things in life is the good Muslim wife (this my own translation for the meaning)
We should blame our self only if we did not follow the Sunnah
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Aslaam alikum
To confirm what just we said that profit Mohamed (saaws) married for the sake of Allah nine times also most of his wives (omhat el momenin) (raam)were widows and old women
& He express that he loved his wife Aisha (raa)more among his wives
Mainly he married for many reasons some of them are spreading Islam all over the world and also to teach women Sunnah through his wives
other reason for Implementing Allah commands especially when he got married his wife Zeineb ex-wife of his companion ZAID
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as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakthhu
thank you sister for the evidence
jazak Allah
walaikum as salaam warahmatullahi wabarakthhu
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as salam alykom star
wa iyaki sister
Insh a Allah this evidence will be convincing for her
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bismi-lLahi-rRahmani-rRahiem, alhamdu li-lLahi Rabbi-l'alamien wa-shshalatu wa-ssalamu 'ala asyrafi-lAnbiya-i wa-lMursalien, wa ba'd:
a-ssalamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu-lLahi wa barakatuH,
since we are muslim, we ought to think that whatever we do just for the sake of Allah, and nothing but nothing else !
we eat, drink, sleep and work or study just for the sake of Allah,
cos our lives is ibadah !
anything incorrect is from me and the syaithan, while everything correct is from Allah Azza wa Jalla.
wa-lLahu 'alam bi-shshawab, wa bi-lLahi-ttaufiq wal-hidayah baraka-lLahu fiekum - wa shalla-lLahu wa-ssallamuH 'alaa Nabiyyina Muhammad, subhanaka-lLahumma wabihamdiKa asyhadu alla Ilaha illa Anta, astaghfiruKa wa atubu ilaiK.
wa ssalamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu-lLahi wa-barakatuH.
Salam..i m not aginst on comments on this thread..i ll just say some1 make life much tooo monotyp..we are not machine.....some of you dont read some thinks about sahabas etc etc about marriage...but i know somethinks are taboo in islamics boards...i would write also somethinks about polygamy or such so but i dont have acces there now..why we are need to discus this issue..look at history a bit...it is allowed so thats is ok..there is nothing to discus...i know what i write and i dont have mood to write down here what i mean...w***alam
Quote:<i>Originally posted by imanov </i><b>bismi-lLahi-rRahmani-rRahiem, alhamdu li-lLahi Rabbi-l'alamien wa-shshalatu wa-ssalamu 'ala asyrafi-lAnbiya-i wa-lMursalien, wa ba'd: </b>
a-ssalamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu-lLahi wa barakatuH,
since we are muslim, we ought to think that whatever we do just for the sake of Allah, and nothing but nothing else !
we eat, drink, sleep and work or study just for the sake of Allah,
cos our lives is ibadah !
anything incorrect is from me and the syaithan, while everything correct is from Allah Azza wa Jalla.
wa-lLahu 'alam bi-shshawab, wa bi-lLahi-ttaufiq wal-hidayah baraka-lLahu fiekum - wa shalla-lLahu wa-ssallamuH 'alaa Nabiyyina Muhammad, subhanaka-lLahumma wabihamdiKa asyhadu alla Ilaha illa Anta, astaghfiruKa wa atubu ilaiK.
wa ssalamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu-lLahi wa-barakatuH.
Salam brother..you are correct we should do everythink for sake of Allah swt...But we dont do everythink for sake of Allah swt...As i chat with some brothers and some sisters at islamic chat site it was not so..i dont think the deal against me there was not for sake of Allah swt. maybe sake of own nafs deal or such soooo.or to blame or ruin a brother with sisters power or such soo...but everythink will be showed in this world about me and about them..w***alam
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as salam alykom
May be a bit late but I still have something to say here
Mash a Allah
most important is not only to look for your rights (for both partners) , but also make sure you know your liabilities. Make sure to know what marriage really is. It is never a liesure trip where a man and a woman wearing nice casual white clothes and running each after other on the beach with light music in the background, or a man hiring a Mexican band to stand under the woman's balcony playing besame Mutcho . No it is life, it is a man who wakes up in the morning to work, face difficulties, come back home needing to find a "dwelling", of course he shall also know that even patting his wife's head or kissing her is sadaqah. Marriage is mutual responsibilities before having rights. But the standards here are putforth by Allah and only Him. For if we fail to look at it this way, nothing would be actually easy. Love is never enough, it usually fades away after the first, second maximum third time of the intimate relation, what really sustains is the mercy and amicable feeling giving by Allah.
May Allah bestow His mercy and love (مودة) between all husbands and wives, may He gather between them in Khair, may He makes all married couples the best of Da`ia for Islam on earth.
ameen
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sometimes ideas keep coming on
Only when marriage is for Allah, that a woman can take her husband's departure for Jihad or even if he is honored by martyrdom. Only then she is capable to handle the situation. Because a man occupies a very special position in his wife's life. And also only then that a man can easily leave behind his loved wife and children to go for Allah's sake. Other wise, he shall never ba able to.
May Allah grant us all Shahadah for His cause
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