Polygyny Questionnaire for Brothers-NEED YOUR HELP!!!

[poly_blessings]

assalaamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. please see below as well as attachments. even though the letter is addressed to sisters, the overall message is for everyone insha'Allah.


Sister Aneesa


<b>Bismillaah Inalhamdulillaah was-Salaatu was-Salaamu 'ala Rasulillaah wa ba'd:</b>





Assalaamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh ya akhwaat. Inshaa'Allaah, I pray that this email reaches you in the best state of eeman and ihsaan striving to be pleasing to Allaah subhaanahu wa ta'aala in the best of manners.


As many of you know I am on a mission!!! The response that I have received to the publishing of my book <b>Polygynous Blessings: Musings of a Muslim Wife</b> has solidified for me that there is a desire and a need within this Ummah for literature about polygyny from a more personal standpoint framed within the shade of Qur'aan and Sunnah. While there is some written material on the topic of polygyny in Islaam from a more personal standpoint, most of this literature is from the voice of Muslimaat, some directly involved in polygyny, some not. In addition, the resounding voice of existing literature on polygyny in Islaam from a personal standpoint seems to be a voice of opposition and Allaah subhanaahu wa ta'ala knows best.


Ya akhwaat, I said I was on a mission and my mission is to bring new voice to polygyny discourse within this Ummah. For even though the voice booming from the mimbar seems to be spewing stories of polygyny-gone-wrong and "SAY NO TO POLYGYNY," I know that this voice is not necessarily representative of ALL polygynous marriages within our Ummah or even MOST polygynous marriages. I know that there are ample examples of successful polygynous marriages within our Ummah even if they are not in the spotlight and I am trying to bring these examples out of the shadows because frankly, we need to hear these stories. We need to hear them not just to sooth our broken hearts, calm our fears, disprove our skepticism, and make us believe in the wisdom behind polygyny being legislated by Allaah subhaanahu wa ta'ala. We need to hear them so that we can get some insight from our brothers and sisters who are making polygyny work and apply this naseehah in our own lives. And of course the best example that we have, first and foremost, is that of Rasulullaah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam and Ummuhaat Al-Mu'mineen, may Allaah be pleased with them all.


That being said, I am seeking your assistance once again for an anthology project that I am working on. One of these anthologies will be a compilation of the stories of Muslim men who aspire to be, have been, or currently are involved in polygyny. The title that I have selected for this book is To Protect and Maintain: Muslim Men Speak On Their Role as Polygynous Husbands. Inshaa'Allaah, in order to generate submissions I have come up with a questionnaire, with the assistance of my dear sister-friends, wa jazaakum Allaahu khair. I have attached the questionnaire along with the submission guidelines. inshaa'Allaah ya akhwaat, please pass this information along to your husbands, brothers, fathers, anybody that you feel can help in this endeavor. and may Allaah subhaanahu wa ta'ala reward you all for your support of this project. Ameen.


Wa Jazaakum Allaahu khair was-Salaamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh,


Your Sister Fillaah,


Aneesa fee New York






And among His signs is this, that He has created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect."


~The Noble Qur'aan (30:21)~


Polygynous Blessings


Musing of a Muslim Wife


www.lulu.com/poly_blessings



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***CLICK HERE FOR SUBMISSION GUIDELINES***


***CLICK HERE FOR QUESTIONNAIRE***

[abdulwalee]

Bismillahi Rahmanir Raheem


Know, Barakallhu feekum. There are many Fataawa on this issue which are in the form of questions to the most qualified people in the Ummah-The Scholars and everyone issue and questions are different and requires the experties of ahlul Ilm. the common persons experience cannot suffice in this regard because this is the deen of Islam and any effort to bring an writen work would require a student of knowledge to bring research in the matter. I would suggest geting in touch with one of the Female students of knowledge today her name is Umm abdillah al-Wadiiyyah she worte the book "advice to the women" in print now


also every week on line al-baseerah.org has live tele-Conferences with the Scholars of ahlul Sunnah in our times questions can be answered here:Ask the people of Knowledge

[poly_blessings]

Bismillahi Rahmanir Raheem


Know, Barakallhu feekum. There are many Fataawa on this issue which are in the form of questions to the most qualified people in the Ummah-The Scholars and everyone issue and questions are different and requires the experties of ahlul Ilm. the common persons experience cannot suffice in this regard because this is the deen of Islam and any effort to bring an writen work would require a student of knowledge to bring research in the matter. I would suggest geting in touch with one of the Female students of knowledge today her name is Umm abdillah al-Wadiiyyah she worte the book "advice to the women" in print now


also every week on line al-baseerah.org has live tele-Conferences with the Scholars of ahlul Sunnah in our times questions can be answered here:Ask the people of Knowledge

Assalaamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh. Thank you for your input because the task of my anthology is to draw the Muslims' insight on how they PERSONALLY and SUCCESSFULLY deal with polygyny in their lives, in the shade of Qur'aan and Sunnah. This project is not seeking fataawa on people's specific issues within polygyny. This is a project inquiring on how people successfully implement what is already laid out in the Qur'aan and Sunnah and has been addressed by the 'ulamaa of this Ummah.


It has been made clear to those who are answering the questionnaire that they must do so without transgressing the bounds of Qur'aan and Sunnah. Again, people answering the questionnaire are being asked to speak about <b>THEIR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE</b> with polygyny, both the blessings they have <b>personally encountered</b> as well as the trials they have <b>personally encountered</b> and how they were able to overcome these trials by again, implementing the hukm and naseehah contained in the Qur'aan and Sunnah as well as in the fataawa and books of knowledge of the 'ulamaa. insha'Allah the compilers of this anthology plan on including some of the naseehah of the 'ulamaa on this topic, such as that of Shaykh bin Baz and Shaykh Uthaymeen raheemahumullah and Shaykh Fawzaan and the like hafidhahullah. If you have any other questions or constructive criticism, you can feel free to email my husband Abdus-Shaheed directly at daarkhors@aol.com. Baraak Allaahu feekum.

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


as salam alykom


Jazaki Allah khairan katheeran sister Poly blessings for your effort and may Allah Puts it in the balance of your good deeds.


Personally, i think the Ummah really need this kind of approach towards issues as important as polygyny. We do need people who can shed light from a personal experience of those who are striving to follow Quran and Sunnah.


Brother Abdul Walyee, I think we need to give others a chance, I understand you being concerned about the basis of information being introduced, but we never know where does Allah Put His knowledge. Besides, other forms of knoweldge besides taking a fatwa which is usually issued on a certain situation, like an ad hoc fatwa, will not suffice since issues like polygyny needs more than this really. And I hope you dont take my words of needing more than this as refernece to introducing info that are not in accordance to our legitimate sources. Needing to look into a fatwa can be the option when one is investigating how ligitmate the situation he/she is lliving, but we are not discussing whether or not polygyny is legitimate, but rather how Muslims can handle it in the best way according to Quran and sunnah. wallahu a`lam.


Again sister Aneesa may Allah Reward you, pls continue on this crucial issue and see how can u introduce info on this boards pls.


Welcome back brother Ahmad.

[AhmedBahgat]

Welcome back brother Ahmad.

Thank you sister Muslimah


I hope my existance won't offend anyone, it is not my objective of course, I would like infomed Muslims to refute me using the Quran, this is what I will only ask for


My next comment dear sister will be a new thread, I hope I get some serious and well thought of answers


take care and may Allah bless you

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


You are not offending anyone brother Ahmed, why did you think so. Pls feel free this is a public Islamic board. Just make sure that what u intend to post is not one of the old posts u made. YOu might like to search on that before posting, and if u find that u already did post it, just make a reply on it to bring it up so that people can see and react as u aim to.

[AhmedBahgat]

Bismillah


You are not offending anyone brother Ahmed, why did you think so. Pls feel free this is a public Islamic board. Just make sure that what u intend to post is not one of the old posts u made. YOu might like to search on that before posting, and if u find that u already did post it, just make a reply on it to bring it up so that people can see and react as u aim to.

Thanks sister


Actually my next article is new because I only did it about 4 weeks ago, for the above article yes it may been posted before by me, but that was long ago and I really can't remember however I always keep reading my articles and enhance its spelling the least, I may also have added more info


Salam

[MUSLIM SUNNI]

:assalam: TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE WIFE YOU DON'T NEED A FATWA FROM ANY SCHOLAR(S).HOWEVER,TO ENSURE YOU WILL BE COMPLYING WITH THE RULE OF POLYGAMY IN ACCORDANCE OF THE QURAN AND SUNNA AND YOU ARE FAMILIAR WITH IT,IN THIS CASE YOU NEED ADVISE FROM A PIOUS AND KNOWLEDGEABLE SCHOLAR ON THIS MATTER.AS NOWAYDAYS,SOME MUSLIMS ARE MISUSING THE RULE(S) OF POLYGAMY IN ISLAM AND THEY DON'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE MORE THAN ONE WIFE,LET ALONE 3 OR 4 WIVES.THERE WILL BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR EVERY ACTION THEY DO TOWARDS THEIR WIVES,AND IF THEY WILL GIVE MORE RIGHT(S) TO ONE WIFE THAN THE OTHERS,HE WILL COME AT THE DAY OF RECKONING AND BEFORE ALLAH TAALA WITH HIS CORPSE SPLIT UP INTO TWO.AS A MAN,I AM NOT SAYING ALL THE MEN ARE THE SAME REGARDING POLYGAMY,YOU WILL FIND GOOD AND BAD AND VIS-VERSA.IT'S NATURAL AND NORMAL TO FIND WIVES JEALOUS BETWEEN THEM AS IT HAPPENED TO AISHA(RA) WITH THE OTHER PROPHET'S WIFE WHOM SHE CALLED HER YAHOUDIYA(SHE WAS A MUSLIM),THE PROPHET(SAS) DIDN'T APPROVE AISHA(RA) ATTITUDE TOWARDS THE OTHER WIFE,BUT HE UNDERSTOOD THE WOMEN'S NATURE REGARDING JALOUSY.OBVIOUSLY,A HUSBAND CAN'T HAVE THE SAME LOVE FOR EVERY WIFE HE GOT AS THE PROPHET(SAS) DID,BUT HE DOESN'T HAVE TO SHOW IT TO THEM IN CASE HE MIGHT HURT THEM AND CREATE DISHARMONY IN THE HOUSEHOLD.EVERY WIFE SHOULD BE TREATED THE SAME,IF THE HUSBAND BUYS A GIFT HE SHOULD BE FOR EVERY WIFE,ALL OF THEM SHOULD BE EQUAL TO HIS SIGHT EVEN IF THE LOVE DIFFERRENTIATE BETWEEN THEM.I WILL END MY DISCUSSION ABOUT THIS TOPIC HERE,OTHERWISE I WOUD BE WRITING NON-STOP.IF I WAS RIGHT IT'S FROM ALLAH TAALA,AND IF I WAS WRONG IT'S FROM ME AND SHAYTAN :asalam:

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


as salam alykom brother Muslim Sunni


Let me first welcome u to the board and say Jazakum Allah khairan for expessing what I wanted to say and save me typing.. :)

[AhmedBahgat]

Salam all


Muslims will never be able to handle more than one wife, this is because part of handling more than one wife is to be fair between all of them, however Allah told us clearly in the Quran that we can never be fair between more than one wife, as well He told us that He never created men with two hearts, therefore it is clear that a devot Muslim should only marry one as Allah told us in the Quran


Salam