A Common Problem I Notice Alot Lately.....

[NewBeginning]

Whew!!! God is sure on my side today...... I found the subject by myself.... here it is......


Wa`alykum As-Salamu Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.


In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.


All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


Dear brother in Islam, we are greatly impressed by your question for it’s related to the affairs of new Muslims. We seize this chance to earnestly implore Allah from the depths of our hearts to lead all perplexed men and women to the light of Islam, the true religion of Allah. We welcome all our new Muslim brothers and sisters to the fold of Islam.


As regards your question, we’d like to cite the following comprehensive Fatwa issued by the European Council for Fatwa and Research, headed by the prominent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi:


“Addressing the situation at hand, the Council has considered the numerous papers and studies submitted for its attention over three consecutive sessions, and which carried a variety of perspectives and opinions, all dealing with this problem in detail and length, observing the objectives of Shari`ah and relating those to principles of Fiqh. The Council also recognizes and acknowledges the conditions in which new Muslim sisters in the West find themselves when their husbands choose to remain on their religion. The Council affirms and repeats that it is forbidden for a Muslim female to establish marriage to a non-Muslim male. This has been an issue of consensus throughout the history of this nation. However, in the case of marriage being established prior to the female entering the fold of Islam, the Council has decided the following:


First: If both husband and wife revert to Islam and there is no Shari`ah objection to their marriage in the first place, such as blood or foster relations, which deem the very establishment of marriage unlawful, the marriage shall be deemed valid and correct.


Second: Assuming that the marriage is properly contracted in the beginning, if the husband reverts to Islam alone, while his wife remains a Jew or a Christian, then the marriage shall maintain its validity, i.e. it will not be affected by the husband’s conversion to Islam.


Third: If the wife reverts to Islam while her husband remains on his religion, the Council sees the following:


1) If her reversion to Islam occurs before the consummation of marriage, then they must immediately separate.


2) If her reversion to Islam occurs after the consummation of marriage, and the husband also embraced Islam before the expiry of her period of waiting (`Iddah), then the marriage is deemed valid and correct.


3) If her reversion to Islam occurs after the consummation of marriage, and the period of waiting expires, she is allowed to wait for him to embrace Islam even if that period happens to be a lengthy one. Once he does so and reverts to Islam, then their marriage is deemed valid and correct.


4) If the wife chooses to marry another man after the expiration of the period of waiting, she must first request a dissolution of marriage through legal channels.


Fourth: According to the four main schools of jurisprudence, it is forbidden for the wife to remain with her husband, or indeed to allow him conjugal rights, once her period of waiting has expired. However, some scholars see that it is for her to remain with him, allowing him to enjoy full conjugal rights, if he does not prevent her from exercising her religion and she has hope in him to revert to Islam. The reason for this is to consider the case of women who would find it difficult to embrace Islam with the condition of being separated from their husbands and deserting their families. Those scholars based their view upon the ruling of `Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, in the case of the woman from Al-Heera who reverted to Islam while her husband remained on his religion. According to the authentic narration of Yazeed ibn `Abdullah Al-Khatmi, `Umar ibn Al-Khattab made it optional for the woman to leave her husband or to stay with him. They also cite, in supporting their view, the opinion of `Ali ibn Abi Talib concerning the Christian woman who embraced Islam while still married to a Christian or a Jew. Ali said that her husband’s conjugal right was still inalienable, as he had a contract. This is also an authentic narration. It is also known that Ibrahim Al-Nakha`i, Ash-Shi`bi and Hammad ibn Abi Sulayman had the same view.”


Allah Almighty knows best.

[SisterJennifer]

Asalaamu alikum Shaunee and congratulations.


I've heard this fatwa before. A lecture was given on this topic about what to do when the wife of a Christian couple choose to revert and the husband is still non-Muslim. The point was made that Islam is meant to improve the lives of people, not to make it worse. If the women is told to immediately leave her husband and tear apart the family, it didn't improve anything, and may put her and the children in a hardship. Also the husband was not given a fair chance to learn Islam from his reverted wife and the surrounding Muslim community. So rather than tearing up the family, the exsisting Muslim community should do their best to support the new revert and the rest of her family to give the rest of the household the ability to experiance what Islam is all about. That was the jist of it.


Allah knows best.


And I'm very happy for you Shaunee, and I pray that Allah will open the heart of your husband and make your marriage stronger than ever before.


Take care.

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


As Salam Alykom dear sisters and brothers


<b>Allah u Akbara Allah u Akbara Allah u Akbar
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Shaunee I am soo speachless and sooooo grateful to Allah, was so concerned, and of course u know that every word we type here or say is recorded in our records, was so concerened that any of us would be giving wrong info to someone like u, then we shall burden the sin.


But now u also served many others who may benefit of the info u gave


Keep it up sister


U know what Allah Is certainly watching closely over u and Shall certainly arrange the best. Just dont worry.

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


as salam alykom


shaunee just look at Sally's posts and share with her her feelings


http://www.islamsms.com/bb/index.php?s...=45entry14140

[umm Zachariah]

Assalamu aleikum sister Shaunee!


I am thinking of you and have not seen you post for a while, I KNOW Ramadan takes time, but still just wondering how you are? Insha'Allah I hope you are fine and doing well and that you will write a line soon so I can stop wondering.


The best thoughts to you from your sister in faith

[Muslimah]

Bismillah


as salam alykom


that makes the two of us Umm waiting Shauneeeeee

[radiyah]

Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Raheem


<b>ALLAHU AKBAR ALLAHU AKBAR ALLAHU AKBAR , There is no God but Allah and Prophet Muhammad is his Messenger
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OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH Shunee congratulations sister, really I do not know what to say or add, I am late her, every1 has been active with u while me I was away for a while, but really if u could c me now so excited and very very happy, and really I do feel like crying, and I really do not know what to say it is 2:35 Am I was supposed to be tucked in bed by now, but really I had to read this post to the last bit, may Allah help u Shaunee and guide your husband to the right path, ask Allah's Aid, and pray vey hard to him, even cry like babies to Him ask him to enlighten your husband's heart and beleive me , and as my brothers and sisters told u He will guide u to what is the best for u. And I was really touched by the words of brother Anya:

I just had to sit down, have many many long nights to myself thnking who do i love more, who is more important to me my girlfriend or God, who gave me my girlfriend my life, my daughter my eyes to see the very existance around me, and who will support me in the hurtful times after we split. There can never be a comparison as soon as you love something more than God, you elevate that thing to a position higher than God. Sure i know some will say it's a different kind of love but that's a cop out in a way. We all know what love is and we all feel the different degrees of love in my opinion.

Really those underlined words of brother Anya are what every1 should think about. It reminded me of an event that happened to me when I went to hajj this year, there was a famous Kuwaity female singer with us in hajj who now has returned to the path of Allah, she is wearing the niqab and is learning to becaome a Daiya(teacher of Islam), she told us: I told my children, if I for one minute know that u r not willing to walk my path, and u r away from Allah's path, and I was to chose between u and Allah, then beleive me I will chose Allah, his love is stronger and never ending. She had a divorce from her husband who did not practice true Islam, but she was rewarded and she was given a big bounty from Allah, her children chose her path and she was married to a very rich saudi pious man, and she is now continuing her Islamic studies. I am not telling u her story asking u to shut the door in the face of your husband. Just chose Allah and He will chose what is best for u, He created u and He knows what is best for u.


Congratulations again sister and may Allah be your Assistance and Guidance


Wasalam

[Anyabwile]

I was just thinkng before this how is Shaunee! She came told us..then went!! I pray everythngs good, sometimes Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala) throws the tests at us early and they are hard, but the reward for passing them, and good deeds afterward is what should spur you on. It's hard though, at first it seems so difficult, but as Muslimah once advised me when i first first came here...pray loads, and Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala) will answer. Just watch the change it will make you take a step back like...woah did that jus happen.


That's a nice story for that female singer, my dream is to have my daughter grow up Islamic. In fact that particular thing is something i haven't actually prayed to Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala) about yet. I will be on the case now i've thought about it. I would say there's not much luck for that with her at the moment living around my EX but Insha Allah as she grows older, her route will only be pure.

[Iman]

asalaamu calaykum.


anyabwile i hope Allah guides your doughter when she grows up as he guide you. Ameen. you never know what the future will bring only our beloved God knows so we have to put all our trust in him and always ask for his help. may Allah guide us all to siraatul mustaqin ameen.

[ronniv93]

I really hope she doesn't get divorced!!!


I know that God HATES divorce and Jesus didn't support it unless 1 person or another had been unfaithful in the marriage.


Marriage is so very damaging to people's hearts and emotions. It puts children in an awkward and difficult situation and for what?


What happened to following the SPIRIT of the law? Isn't that what Jesus came preaching? There was the story of the woman who was literally caught in the very act of adultery. By Jewish law, she was to be put to to death!


But Jesus didn't order that. He told her to "go and sin no more". She was forgiven, because again, Jesus taught following the SPIRIT of the law. Not just strict rules and regulations all the time.


So, isn't there *SOME* provision under Islam that would excuse her for NOT divorcing her husband? I mean, if he is a good man, a good husband and father, why should her whole world, and his, and their children's be turned upside down just because of the faith that she has chosen?