Friendship With Nonbelievers!

[d_truth_seeker]

assalamo alaykum brothers and sisters. i want to seek some opinion from you. If possible, your opinion must be based from an Islamic point of view.



I had a friend. We were very close before in fact sometimes she sleeps at my house for a week or two. Her father died when she was still 2 years old and her mother married another guy and she has 5 kids with her 2nd husband. I took pity on my friend after she was jilted by her boyfriend because at that time she was also having another affair with another guy. Her boyfriend took everything that he gave her including her mobile phone. So during those times I was her shoulder to lean on. And then later on the other guy jilted her again because she had another affair with another man. During those times that she was financially down i provided her with her needs and helped her with the best that i can, money, food, clothes... She owed me money for quite a sum which until now she had not paid yet. She is also indebted to my other friends and I was even a guarantor to one of her debts. She uses my mobile phone just to call her boyfriend without my permission. And her calls were sometimes from a mobile phone to a land line phone. I then discovered that she was a big liar and I thought she too was a master story teller. So I was fed up and called it quits. It's been more than 5 months since we last talked but I treat her civilly. I felt I was abused.



Is it okay if I dont talk to her anymore considering that she is a nonbeliever in Islam and I am a practising muslim?

[Muslimah]

as salam alykom sister


I take it u r a sister, u can not be a practicing muslim man and allow a strange woman to stay in your place. As far as this woman, of course u r encouraged not to talk to her at all. Matter of fact our relation with the non believers is regulated through Quran and Sunnah. We keep company with them only for the purpose of dawa, u treat them well, but of course not to share their illegal activities including illegal relations among sexes. If u browse the forum we have quite a number of threads on that topic Insh a Allah. Use the search with key word relation among Muslims and non Muslims or the like.


welcome to our board

[NaSra]

<b>The Holy Prophet (saaw) said:</b> <b>"Man is influenced by the faith of his friends. Therefore, be careful of whom you associate with."
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<b>Don't be in the company of fajaar (those who commit major sins openly and don't care) You WILL be affected. Your own behavior changes little by little. Be in the company of people who remind you of Allah.
</b>Umar Ibn Al Khatab


<i><b>"You shall not find a people who believe in Allah and the latter day befriending those who act in opposition to Allah and His Messenger, even though they were their (own) fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their kinsfolk" </b></i>


58.22


I'm sorry to hear about how you have been betrayed, but I think from this moment on you have the power to decide whether you are going to let that person ruin you, or you'll do something about it. I'm sure the mercy you have shown her and the goodness you have given her, will not be unnoticed by Allah, but now that she's working against you, maybe its best that you keep your relations with her strictly dawah only.


May ALlah be with you.

[d_truth_seeker]

assalamo alaykumwarahmatullah!


thank you for the replies. it was really nice to hear back from you. i am a muslim woman. i am so thankful that this website provides a lot of credible informations about our deen. at these times, i feel i am so hungry for knowledge about our deen. i realized that it is best to learn and do more while we are young and single and we have the luxury of time performing acts of worship because the moment we tie the knot we are already responsible for the life of someone else and we will lesser time for ourselves.


thank you again and Allah bless us all.

[Muslimah]

Mash a Allah sister u brought up very important points youth and time about which Allah Shall ask us about how did we invest them. May Allah bless our time and allow us to retrain ourselves in our youth ameen


sister I gave u access to the sisters room Banat ok see u there

[radiyah]

Alsalam 'alaykom


Welcome sister to the forum, and masha'Allah u showed great patience with that woman, but u did the right thing by leaving her, may Allah compinsate u with rewards and mercy in place of the money u lost.


Wasalam 'alaykom

[Shereen]

I have got some non-Muslim friends.......and i iam doing nothing wrong....if iam their friends......afterall...Prophet Muhammed(saw) also appreciated good relations with other religons...... .....so to make non Muslim friends..i think isn't wrong

[Muslimah]

as salam alykom shereen


we Alhamdulelah have a very thorough thread about this issue how to handle it and what to do


Sorry shereen for some strange reason the link is not working.


BUt I advice u to look into the non muslim guest room for a thread started by Michelleseeking titled enemies of Allah.