I dont wear the hijab! am i bad?

[shorty]

Aslama alaikum,


It was nice of one of the members to post a topic and ask the most important question which was, why some women dont wear the hijab, and why?


I have a cousin, who reads her namaaz, five times a day, or when she can with out fail wherever she is, she has never been in a relationship and nor has she done any wrong, but she does not wear the hijab, she chooses not to wear it, however when i asked her the question, of why she doesnt wear it, she replied, i feel i am still not ready to wear it, as it comes with alot of repsonsibilities. She has a great social life too. and goes out, with freinds etc.


I know majority of girls who do wear the hijab, and do so much wrong stuff its unbelievable and shocking, (drinking, clubbing,smoking weed, boyfriends) just because a girl wears a hijab does not necassirily mean that she is a good person, and so innocent. You should only judge them if you get to know them and see what they are like.


I myself, do not wear the hijab, i choose not to, does that make me all of a sudden, a bad muslim? I dress decently, and never show my body parts, i dont smoke, drink or do drugs. I read my namaaz when i can without fail. Ive never had a boyfriend,or been in a relationship, as i am against it. But when ppl who dont know me, see me they are so quick to judge me, and then when they do meet me, they say omg, i expected u to have a bf etc...... why?


I know a couple of girls, who did have bf's who decided to wear the hijab, etc, and after about 6 mnths they took it off. because they knew after that they wernt ready to wear it, because of all the responsibilities they had with it.


It matters on the type of person u are, and how u carry urself, hwo u talk to people and what u say to them ,


Inshallah i will start to wear the hijab, but when im ready not because i feel i have to. Im not doing n e wrong, i havent committed any sins.....................

[NaSra]

I know majority of girls who do wear the hijab, and do so much wrong stuff its unbelievable and shocking, (drinking, clubbing,smoking weed, boyfriends) just because a girl wears a hijab does not necassirily mean that she is a good person, and so innocent. You should only judge them if you get to know them and see what they are like.

Alhamdulilah most Sisters that I know are devout Muslimahs who fear none but Allah and who practise their Islam from inside out. I think you started this thred to make Hijabis look bad, which is quite insulting esp coming from a muslim. You have no right to expose their sins like this even if they did committ those sin you mentioned. Above all I think the obvious point that your trying to throw at us, is "you don't need to wear a hijab to be a good Muslim" which is completely false! The hijab is a command from Allah to all the believers, it is part of worship so if one doesn't wear it for whatever reason your denying one of Allahs command just because you feel like your not ready for it.


There are women who are being put in prisons in places like turkey and tunisia simply for wearing their hijab. In places like Palastine, some young girls are being harrassed and attacked and shot at by isrealy soldiers for their identity when their cross the streets coming from school. They can die, yet they continue with devotion because they know that the hijab is part of their islamic identity, even under such conditions where they can get killed and attacked. They don't try to hide! Yet we have some people who have all the freedom and still find excuses.

I myself, do not wear the hijab, i choose not to, does that make me all of a sudden, a bad muslim? I dress decently, and never show my body parts, i dont smoke, drink or do drugs. I read my namaaz when i can without fail. Ive never had a boyfriend,or been in a relationship, as i am against it. But when ppl who dont know me, see me they are so quick to judge me, and then when they do meet me, they say omg, i expected u to have a bf etc...... why?

See? You have bashed the covered women then you go back and tell us how you are such a great person, and your trying to tell us "see I am a better Muslim". Sorry but that does not make you look any better. In my opinion its a very narrow way of looking at human beings and fellow Muslims. There is absolutely no need to judge people, neither to point out people's mistakes/sins unnecessarly. Don't do it for anyone, just learn your religion for yourself and Insha'Allah you'll see that there is a great benefit for you in it.

I know a couple of girls, who did have bf's who decided to wear the hijab, etc, and after about 6 mnths they took it off. because they knew after that they wernt ready to wear it, because of all the responsibilities they had with it.

Still your pointing fingers at others subhanaAllah. Don't worry about what others do. Fulfill your duties to your lord. Allah will ask you about "you" your own nafs, not about anyone else. You'll be buried in your grave all alone, no one will come with you "except your deeds" Don't let anything hinder you from your duties to your lord as a Muslim. You don't know when you'll die. There are alot of misguided people out there, Allah will question them and us of what we used to do.

It matters on the type of person u are, and how u carry urself, hwo u talk to people and what u say to them ,

What should matter to us is only what Allah thinks of us. Allah doesn't care what we look like. Or what people think of us. Allah says in the quraan that he did not create the human of us and the jinn except that we worship him. Worship comes first and everything else is second.


Islam has two sources for guidance and rulings: first, the Qur'an, the revealed word of Allah and secondly, the Hadith or the traditions of the Prophet Muhammad (S) who was chosen by Allah to be the role model for mankind. The following is a Tradition of the Prophet:


"Ayesha reported that Asmaa the daughter of Abu Bakr came to the Messenger of Allah (S) while wearing thin clothing. He approached her and said: 'O Asmaa! When a girl reaches the menstrual age, it is not proper that anything should remain exposed except this and this. He pointed to the face and hands." (Abu Dawood)


We Muslims are not supposed to worship selectively, picking out whatever rules or rituals appeal to us and leaving the rest. Denying a basic Islamic rule or ritual is a serious sin.

Inshallah i will start to wear the hijab, but when im ready not because i feel i have to. Im not doing n e wrong, i havent committed any sins.....................

You sound upset, and your trying to explain yourself to us that your not doing anything wrong. This is a sign Sister that you know deep down inside of your heart that you want to wear it. I'm sorry if I was harsh with you. I'm only replying you out of love and care, so Please don't take any offense to my post. Take the good and ignore whatever else that is offensive InshaAllah.


I'm sorry also that you feel judged. No one has any right to measure your taqwa and imaan by your lack of Hijab. Allah knows whats in his slaves hearts we don't. Remind yourself that Allah SWT is the ultimate judge and he is the most just. You'll have to stand infront of him one day, so think of how you want to meet him. Don't worry about anything else and what people have to say. May Allah SWT guide towards the straight path ameen.

[Deen]

Inshallah i will start to wear the hijab, but when im ready.....

A brother told us of a hadith once where Rasool (saw) said Hell fire is full of those people for whom tomorrow never came.


The meaning of this hadith is that people say I will perform my obligations when I am ready and before that time comes their souls are taken by Allah SWT.


Also, what does it mean when someone says when I am ready? Muslims are accountable for their actions as soon as they reach the age of puberty so to me that is when someone is ready. As for other excuses, when does one know when they are ready? Do they receive message from the heavens they are ready or have a dream to tell them????!

[wel_mel_2]

Bismillah:

It was nice of one of the members to post a topic and ask the most important question which was, why some women dont wear the hijab, and why?

i hope the following link will help insha'Allah.


Amr Khaled


Salam


Wael.

[shorty]

salaam,


Thnak you Wel Mel 2 for your link, that was helpful, good to read,


Apologies to Nasra who felt i had offended wome in hijabs, majority of my gf's wear the hijab, and my family, i would never offend them, the reason for my email, was because on a previous mail from a previous topic i had read. i got the impression that us women who do not wear the hijab are insulted and judged upon too quick. We are given the impression that because we dont wear the hijab, we are bad people.


I was just trying to make a point that we are equal too, and sometimes just as there are some women who do wear the hijab, who do wrong, there are also us that dont wear the hijab who do right, hence to the eg of people i gave. I wasnt judging anyone.


So from what Wel Mel 2 sent me, we are given the impression that you will only gat a place in heaven if you wear a hijab? so i guess thats only 50% of us then.......?


We should encurage people, the responsibilities that come with the hijab, ie respecting the hijab. and wearing it for other reasons other than heaven......


Im sorry if i have offended anyone this time and i apologise in advance......

[wel_mel_2]

Bismillah:

Thnak you Wel Mel 2 for your link, that was helpful, good to read,

You are welcome sister.

Apologies to Nasra who felt i had offended wome in hijabs, majority of my gf's wear the hijab, and my family, i would never offend them, the reason for my email, was because on a previous mail from a previous topic i had read. i got the impression that us women who do not wear the hijab are insulted and judged upon too quick. We are given the impression that because we dont wear the hijab, we are bad people.

No you are not bad. but you should not deny the fact that by not wearing Hijab you are indeed <b>disobeying Allah</b>, but insha’Allah you will put on your Hijab soon :)

I was just trying to make a point that we are equal too, and sometimes just as there are some women who do wear the hijab, who do wrong, there are also us that dont wear the hijab who do right, hence to the eg of people i gave. I wasnt judging anyone.

There is no need to compare between those who wear and those who don’t wear Hijab, <b>you should start by yourself and be example to other Muslims sisters. </b>


Repeatedly I hear some sisters say that the most important thing is what is in the inside, that their intentions are always good, and they are good persons, and <b>the hijab is the hijab of the heart</b>. They also pray 5 times a day, prays the night prayers, gives charity. However, they feel that this is enough for them. <b>Allah and His Messenger say that you cannot take parts of Islam and reject other parts. You have to take the religion as a whole. </b>



So let us do some calculation here. you are saying that you are doing a lot of good deeds and that your intentions are good, and your heart is pure. Alright, I agree with you, but I want to ask you one question. Let us calculate this together. Everyday you go out, and with every man that looks at your hair and your body, you gather sins, is that true or not? Of course you take sins because you didn't obey Allah's command. You'll might argue, 'It's not my fault, my intentions are good, it's the man that will take sins for looking at me.' No sister. He will take sins for looking at you, that’s true. But he looked at you in the first place because you were attracting attention. Let's analyze it. Everyday, how many sins would an unveiled woman gather? Would it go over a thousand sins a day? And remember, the man has two eyes, not one! And the man has a heart that loves and desires. Can you imagine the sins such a woman would be getting? I wonder if your good deeds will be enough? Will they outweigh the thousands of sins you are getting everyday? I want you to do a little experiment. Everyday you go out, count how many sins you are getting. How many sins do you get for every man that looks at your hair and body?


<b>Didn't Allah order you to wear the hijab? I am afraid that your good deeds are falling from a torn bag. The good deeds enter at the top and escape from the hole in the bottom.</b>

So from what Wel Mel 2 sent me, we are given the impression that you will only gat a place in heaven if you wear a hijab? so i guess thats only 50% of us then.......?

I can see you care a lot about women who wear Hijab but do bad deeds, and so some women say that they don’t want to put the hijab on because they don't want to be like these bad women. Okay, I too know people who pray, but do bad things; <b>does that mean we shouldn't pray?</b> Some people go to Hajj so that they can hide under the title of Hajj and that they can do bad things. <b>Does that mean we shouldn't go to hajj? </b> So sister, the wrong is not in the religion, but in the people themselves. So is the hijab bad or is it the person who’s wearing it? if your answer is the latter, <b>then you should put on your Hijab right now. </b>

Im sorry if i have offended anyone this time and i apologise in advance......

No offense sister, hopefully you can put on your Hijab soon insah”Allah.


Salam


Wael

[shorty]

Salaam,


Thank you, i enjoyed reading that as it made me think,. and contemplate on what i am actually doing.


inshallah one day when i wake up i will decide to put the hijab on, live life as a true muslim.


Thank you for giving me advice and guiding me in the right path. and thank you for not getting offended about anything i said.


speak to u soon


Insh 'allah

[wel_mel_2]

Bismillah:

Salaam,


Thank you, i enjoyed reading that as it made me think,. and contemplate on what i am actually doing.


Thank you for giving me advice and guiding me in the right path. and thank you for not getting offended about anything i said.


speak to u soon


Insh 'allah

Alhamdulelah Who has guided us to this. and we could not truly have been guided if Allah had not guided us. Please note sister that all credit goes to brother Amr Khaled may Allah reward him for his excellent lessons about Hijab.

inshallah <b>one day </b> when i wake up i will decide to put the hijab on, live life as a true muslim.

Do not delay your decision sister, here is an example of a true story happened in Egypt taken from Amr Khaled

This happened in Egypt, Alexandria during Ramadan. The man was telling me that his wife wears hijab. Living in front of them was a young girl who was not wearing hijab. The girl had good things inside her heart, like all of our sisters in Islam. However, she didn’t understand the meaning of the hijab and the meaning it has in Islam. So this man’s wife (and this is obligatory for all the women who wear hijab) had good relations with this girl. She didn't ignore her just because she didn’t wear the hijab, no, she was friends with her. So one day the young girl came to ask the wife if she'd come shopping with her to buy some jeans. So the intelligent wife who knows that she has to call the girl towards Allah agreed to go shopping with her, but under one condition: that the girl would also accompany her to an Islamic halaqa (<b>gatherings for giving lessons about Islam</b>) that was about to start. The girl agreed.
So they went to the halaqa which was about <b>repentance to Allah</b>. The girl was so inspired by what was being said, and started to cry until she kept repeating one sentence over and over again,<b> “I've repented Allah, please someone cover me.” </b> The people told her okay let us take you home and you can put the hijab on. But she refused, wanting to be covered right at that moment with the hijab, she couldn't go out without it. So they got her a scarf and a dress, and she left the building with it on. And as soon as she left to cross the road, <b>a car hit her and she died</b>. I swear this is a true story. <b>She died after she had repented.</b> She is lucky that she repented before she died. So never give the excuse that you are still young, because you never know when you will die.

Please sister, do not delay your decision. May Allah guide you and inspire you with this true story, and your next post insha’Allah you will make us all happy by telling us that you have already put on your correct Hijab.


Salam


Wael.