A friend needs help....

[amma]

Salam

I have a friend who has made a mistake in life and has realised it. Her parents know of this mistake. They tell her to get on with her life and to sort her self out. But on the smallest issues they keep reminding her of wot shes done wrong.

How is she meant to move on if they keep doing this? She would like to continue studying however her parents do nt agree with her? To wot extent is she meant to listen to her parents? is it even possible to go against wot they are saying and stiil continue to study? How can she persuade her parents to do certain things wen they r nt lettin go of the past and movin on themselves?

it is true that har parents were very hurt by the issue but if she truely in her heart want to change and Allah even knows so theres no hiding there, why can't her prents give here a chane to show that she has changed.

So wot advice do you have for my friend? How is she mean to cope with tryin to move on wen she has constant reminders of her mistake?

[Muslimah]

as salam alykom amma

I know this problem may occur on different levels, when people remind each other of past faults when Allah forgives one who repents sincerely.

I think and this is my hunble opinion, that she may seek an elder person who can remind her parents in indirect manner of this point. I think there is hadeeth about it if I am not mistaken.

We may look for it, and if she can not have an elder to talk to them, she may show them hadeeth or something about it also indirectly. Last she could at least talk to the mother and remind her that Allah is Oft Forgiving and they must not remind her of past faults so she can move on.

Allah A`alam

[honeycomb]

salam,

i'm very sorry to hear about ur friend's troubles. can she tell her parents that she's hurt hearing their comments? if she can, pick a good time & tell it nicely to them. ask them to support her, not criticise her because that hurts. maybe they'll understand... i think her parents might be unaware that they're hurting her feelings. so just tell them nicely.

i hope God will help her hv a better life...