Blessings for Pleasing and Obeying One's Husband!

[AL3a3]

This is see and hear alot in the islamic community, and I state this for our overall muslim family.

I pray Allah bless me to state what is right.

The Messenger (saaws) said, "When a woman spends the night forsaking the bed of her husband, then the angels curse her until she returns.

The Messenger (saaws) said to a woman, "Indeed he is your Paradise and your Fire. {meaning her husband}

My opinion: It is important that when the husbands are not that romanitc, but loves his wife, she should still surrender to her husband, because he has the right of her as his tilth. A woman should want to please her husband, as Allah (saaws) has placed mercy between the two. As well as the husband should want to please his wife, but sisters you must understand a man is different than a woman and sometimes, not that soft.

Abu Hurayrah® said, that the Messenger (saaws) said, "If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fast her month in Ramadhaan, guards her private parts, and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, Enter Paradise through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.

My opinion: This life isn't perfect, no love-relation is perfectly romanitc, but women must not refuse their husbands unless it is for a logically reason, not just because she just don't want to fulfill her husband's desires.

Every man (especially muslim men, who should know better than the average man), we should want to please our wives, and all muslim women should want to please their husbands, 2 wrongs don't make a right.

Insha'llah, be the one to please the other no matter what, until Allah wills other wise. Marriage is sacred and we should try to go against all evil, to keep our families together, this life isn't nothing, and we need to do all the good we can, especially in our families.

I pray I didn't transgress any bounds (cross any lines) or offend anyone. I truely wish well for us all.

May Allah (swt) grant us HIs Good Pleasure above all.

As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llahi wa barakatu!

[Ahmed Abdullah]

Wa alikumus salaamu wa rhamatuallhi wa barakatuh.

Yes I agree that the Brothers must make their wives happy also. Love is a two way street. It is hard for a man to be romantic all the time. When our needs are fullfilled, we should not forget our wives. Our paradise too Brothers is how we take care of our wife and children. We wiil be asked these things on the Last Day. May Allah forgive me if I said anything wrong. I hope I too did not make anyone upset by posting here.

[AL3a3]

I too pray that I state what is right, insha'llah

For the most part, good practising brothers are very good to their wives. According to their means, they provide shelter, food, clothing, and when abled a gift or two, (not a gift for the house, Brothers, but for them personally, ha!ha!ha!)

some of us have a good sense of humor, some romantic, and some very serious, but women mainly need an ear to listen, a husband to comfort them alot (for us we, are different being, men), and for us to be a little softer than we can be, sometimes if difficult, for the world we need to be firm, and unwind when we get home.

YES, compassion is a big part of islam and we should show it at all times, but when we are stressed, and need time to think and be alone, the wives shouldn't take it as if we don't love them.

***I don't know the hadith by memory, but it goes like: (when a wife is angry with her husband she forgets the good that he has done. *** Ha!Ha!Ha!

If you are married you'll know what I'm talking about, we can just be tired, and she wants to play or talk, then all of a sudden, she feels you're not interested, or if she wants something and you can't get it at that time, she feels you don't want to make her happy.

An older brother , I think he was from Sudan told me "women are like babies" and I see that is true or at least they are soft and sensitive like babies, we brother can be a bit tiring too.

But brother it is not right for her to say no, for love-relations, or disobey us, because she's upset, when we have not even wronged her at all.

TRUE WE MUST BE PATIENT, AND UNDERSTANDING WITH OUR SENSITIVE WOMEN, THIS IS SOMETING WE MUST WORK ON, TO GROW INTO GOOD MUSLIM MEN.

I wasn't talking of how we deserve to be obeyed as an oppression to the women. I just wanted to keep it short, when I first made thoe statements, but I see i had to further explain myself.

Al-hamdu'llah, Bro. Todd, I'm coool with what you've said and totally agree. Life is not worth much without our muslim women. (with all respect) Never placing parteners besides Allah, of course!

I pray I didn't offend anyone, I know both men and women can be ungrateful at times and also loved very much, but we must be good to be blessed like that.

As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llah

[AL3a3]

Al-hamdu'llah, I forgot to state that my wife, is very obeident, kind, and fruitful, and tht helps me be a better muslim man.

I just had to mention that , she's a wonderful servant of Allah (swt) as time went goes on I learn to appreciate her more each day..

She' the one who puts up with me and my weaknesses.May Allah (swt) grant her Al-Firdaus (Paradise)...amin!

As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmantu'llah