Interracial Marraiges

[hefny]

I AM AS A MAN FEEL THAT WE HAVE TO WORK HARD TO MAKE OUR FAMILY HAPPY AND SAFE

MY WIFE ALWAYS COMPLAIN ABOUT THAT I AM NOT EXPRESSING MY GOOD FEELING TO HER CLEARLY

MOST OF THE TIME I GAVE HER ALL WHAT SHE WANTS THINKING THIS ENOUGH TO MAKE HER HAPPY BUT SHE WAS LOOKING FOR SOME THING ELSE WHICH IS MY WAODS OF LOVE

I DO NOT KNOW MY SELF SHOULD WE KEEP SAYING LOVE WORDS TO EACH OTHER OR SHOULD WE REALY GIVE THEM WHAT THEY NEED

[hefny]

MY WIFE ASKED ME MANY TIME DO I LOVE HER?

MY ANSWER WAS NO BUT I DID NOT MEAN IT

I THOUGHT AS A MAN THIS WAODS ARE NOT EXPRESSING THE REAL FEELING OF LOVE BUT WORKING HARD TO MAKE HER HAPPY AND MY FAMILY SHOULD BE ENOUGH

I NEVER HEARED MY FATHER SAID TO MY MOTHER THAT HE LOVED HER

BUT HE WAS WORKING HARD FOR US

NOW MY FEELING IS THE BEST THING IN LIFE IS TO DO GOOD DEEDS FOR YOUR FAMILY AND OTHERS

NOT ONLY A ROSEY WORDS BUT A REAL ACTION

LOVE COULD BE A LIGHT FROM ALLAH BETWEEN TWO HEARTS WORKING TOGETHER FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH NOT ONLY WORDS OF LOVE

[Red Sea Diver]

Allah Says in the Quran وجعلناكم شعوباً وقبائل لتعارفوا

We have made you nations and tribes so you may know each other.

I don't see any problem in getting married from a different culture as long as both husband and wife are pious ,

Prophet Mohammad PBUH said the best amongst you is the best to their wives and I am best to my wives.

A muslim should try his best to keep his family happy and I don't see anything wrong if a husband says to his wife that he loves her, in fact our prophet use to do so many things that helps in establishing love between a husband and a wife, for example he use to drink from the same cup in which Aisha may be Allah please with her used to drink or sometimes they even raced together etc.

He even used to kiss aisha while leaving for Salah , we can learn a lot from the life of our beloved Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

[Muslimah]

True very much true Red Sea, the point we are trying to discuss here, is that why as per Ummibrehim sometimes such marraiges don't work, I brought up culture and traditions more than religion. You think I was right????:confused:

[UmmAiman]

Salaamu Alaikum:

<b>"All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves."</b>

Taken from the Farewell Speech of Rasoolullah.

I think if we live by this then our marriage to anyone will not suffer no matter what nationality they are from.

We have to start guiding our lives and mentality by what the Qur'an and Sunnah teach us and discard our ways of thinking culturally and in some cases, in a racist way.

~Umm Aiman~

[Muslimah]

as salam alykom

Welcome back UmmAiman good to see u back we missed u:) so basically we all agree that interracial marriages if they don't work, it has nothing to do with religion but rather with culture and traditions of which we must rid oursleves

[Taryam]

Salamu Aylkum Wal Ra7ma,

Ma sha Allah wa Alhamdulillah on all the replies and posts on this subject. It is true that more and more of our brothers and sisters are making the courageous step of marrying a man or woman from an outside culture or race, espeacially a man or women who is a convert.

Though we could all continue to make assumptions, read on research and surveys and comment on the pros and cons of interracial marriages; i believe it is from the utmost importance for us to realize that we are not talking about a recipe for eggs here, we are talking about the most sacred steps a human takes in his or her small life. I have seen many replies discussing the matter from point of view, and May Allah bless you for it, but believe me my brothers and sisters, if you truely wish to hear the truth on interracial marriages, you must ask those who have experienced it through themselves or direct family.

I am sure anyone who has been or is married to another race or culture can understand when i say how difficult it is on the soul. This is the only reason i can give you for how some may not comprehend it;it is heavy on a persons soul, not mental not physical. Yet, forget my simple contributuion, i was never to good at explaining my experiences so, i ask those who have first hand experiences to speak up and for the rest of us to widen a path for them , for we truely are in need of what they have to say.

Thankyou,

[Muslimah]

as salam alykom brother Taryam

Long time no see, good to see u back here with us.

actually I based my input, although I am a woman and not married in an interracial marraige, upon my knowledge of my fellow Arab brothers. We were really hoping to hear your experience, I think Insh a Allah if u just pray two ra`aka and ask for Allah's help to express He will help u. It is really important to look at it from a brother's angle.

Jazakum Allah khairan

[hefny]

Aslaam alikum

I remembered some cases of married if Arab Muslim men to American non Muslim women during my life in USA

The good example was married of a good Muslim brother age was 20 years to non Muslim woman and he did not force her to convert to islam and both of them where looked a good couple

He used to take her to Muslim community and friends

He gave her all Islamic information she needed

After few years she converted and they are very happy couple and they have a son.

The bad example was married of a Muslim I knew that he WAS away from Islam to a non Muslim American woman had a teenager son and daughter only for the sake of American citizenship lived with her like animal I saw by my own eyes in his house the whole family of his wife was living together with boyfriend & girlfriend

After years of married and processing of his citizenship they got divorced

Alhumdoulelah for the blessing of Allah on us as Muslims

[masriahmuslimah]

Asalam~O~AlykuM

UR SOOOOOOOO right UmmAiman . If we follow the Quran and the Sunniah we will have a happy life even if we married someone who has another culture or traditions. That's what I meant when I said the most happy family on earth is when 2 Muslims get married just so they can work 2gether for Allah's sake. Gazaky Allah Koll Khair.

Salam~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Masriahmuslimah