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[mohsie]

SubhanAllah!! Excellent explanation Sister M!! I think that calls for a TAKBEEEER!!!!

[Muslimah]

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Alhamdulelah, all Praise and Credit is to Allah.


Furthermore, on the same line, Allah Does not deny any Creation a chance to gain. For example, Allah Granted women to endure the child birth pain that men are totally incapable of. If u think for a moment, matter of fact, men cannt in general endure pain like we do. Thus, can we say that men are difficient? no but just not equipped for this.


Women can stay up for several nights looking after the child, I can go on. But just giving you examples.


When we are incomplete in an area, we have another area where we are proficient.... :)

[umm Zachariah]

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Assalamu alaikum


Well sister you did work hard masha'Allah. :)


BarakAllah fiki for your answers, I truly needed to widen up on this matter and you helped me. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala increase our knowledge ameen.


wasalam

[Muslimah]

Asslama alikeum


Inshallah this is what youre looking for.


It was narrated that Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri said:


“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) went out to the Musalla on the day of Eid al-Adha or Eid al-Fitr. He passed by the women and said, ‘O women! Give charity, for I have seen that you form the majority of the people of Hell.’ They asked, ‘Why is that, O Messenger of Allaah?’ He replied, ‘You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religious commitment than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you.’
The women asked, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, what is deficient in our intelligence and religious commitment?’ He said, ‘Is not the testimony of two women equal to the testimony of one man?’ They said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Is it not true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?’ The women said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘This is the deficiency in her religious commitment.’”


(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 304)

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as salam alykom


here we are again bringing this thread to life to Insh a Allah try and add more


As for the underlined part, and pls note that the Messenger salla Allah a`lhyee wa sallam said some of you, better to be translated as some of you may make a wise man looses his mind, not be led astray. Much difference.


But this is also true, building on the above mentioned explanation with women experiencing emotional changes, if the man is not fully aware of this, he may really loose him mind. I remember a brother approaching me when his wife was pregnant and saying that her attitude changed a lot, she gets upset easily and that he simply cannt understand her no more. Alhamdulelah, I managed to remind him of her hormonal changes which makes her really not herself. When he realized this, things became better. Others may make fun of their wives crying a lot, after giving birth for no reason, which makes them loose their minds of course. But as soon as they realize the physiological changes a woman endures, he regains his mind again.


Thus, the hadeeth does not mean that women are evil that they lead men astray, but rather that men sometimes are incapable of understanding them. Leave a lone that there are those women who like to measure their value and keep asking for divorce and the more the man refuses, she feels content. I met women who said the minute I asked for divorce, he gave it to. I say why do u ask for something that u don’t really want??? These are the traits the hadeeth is talking about. And matter of fact, the hadeeth in a way is a warning as well. The Messenger is reminding us that we are incomplete when it comes to religious duty, however, this does not decrease our Ajr, and that our emotional status may make a man looses his mind. We better keep this in mind.