Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart

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Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart - albani - 06-30-2003

In Name Of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Innal-Hamdalillah was-Salaatu was-Salaam `alaa Rasoolillah

as-Salaamu `alaykum wa-RaHmatullahi wa-Barakatuhu

"O My Lord! Increase me in knowledge!" - Qur'an 20:114

Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart

Shaykh ul-Islaam ibn Taymiyyah rahimahullaah

Taken from "Diseases of the Hearts and their Cures"

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As for the sickness of desire and passionate love then this is the soul loving that which would harm it coupled with this is a hatred of that which would benefit it.

Passionate love is a psychological sickness, and when it’s effects become noticeable on the body, it becomes a sickness that afflicts the mind also. Either by afflicting the mind by the likeness of melancholy, or afflicting the body through weakness and emancipation. But the purpose here is to discuss its effect on the heart, for passionate love is the fundament that makes the soul covet that which would harm it, similar to the one weak of body who covets that which harms it, and if he is not satiated by that then he is grieved, and if he is satiated then his sickness increases. The same applies to the heart afflicted with this love, for it is harmed by its connection to the loved, either by seeing, hearing, touching or even thinking about it. And if he were to curb the love then the heart is hurt and grieved by this, and if he gives in to the desire then the sickness becomes stronger and becomes a means through which the grievance is increased.

In the hadeeth concerning the saying of Moosa reported by Wahb*, which is recorded by Imam Ahmad in az-Zuhd:

Allah says: Indeed I drive away My friends from the delights of this world and its opulence and comfort just as the compassionate shepherd drives away his camel from the dangerous grazing lands. And indeed I make them avoid its tranquility and livelihood, just as the compassionate shepherd makes his camel to avoid the resting placers wherein it would be easy prey. This is not because I consider them to be insignificant, but so they may complete their portion of My kindness in safety and abundance, the delights of the world will not attract him and neither would desires overcome him.

*Wahb ibn Munabbih is a noble taabi’ee, but this hadeeth is reported from him directly to the Prophet (saaw) and is not authentic.

Therefore the only cure for the sick lies in his removing the sickness by removing this blameworthy love from his heart.

There are some whose hearts contain the disease of desire and whose perceptions are only skin deep. When the object of the desire submits, the sickness is satiated, and this satiation strengthens the desire and pursuit of the object and hence strengthens the sickness. This is in contrast to the one whose objective is not met, for this failure results in the removing the satiation that would strengthen the sickness and thereby the desire is weakened, as is the love. This is because the person definitely intends that there be action accompanying his desire, for otherwise all his desire would be is just whisperings of the soul, unless there is some speech or looking accompanying this.

As for the one who sis afflicted with this passionate love but holds back and is patient, then indeed Allah will reward him for his taqwa as occurs in the hadeeth:

That the one who passionately loves someone yet holds back, conceals this and is patient, then dies upon this, will be a martyr.

(A da’eef hadeeth . refer to the discussion concerning its authenticity in al-Jawaab al-Kaafee and Rawdha al-Muhibbeen of Ibn al Qayyim and Silsilah ad-Da’eefah of al-Albaanee.)

This hadeeth is known to be the report of Yahya al-Qataat from Mujaahid from Ibn Abbas from the Prophet (saaw) but it is problematic and such a hadeeth is not to be depended upon.

But it is known from the evidences of the Shareeah that if one were to hold back from performing that which is unlawful, be it looking, speaking or acting, and he conceals this and does not articulate it so as not to fall into that which is prohibited and he is patient in his obedience to Allah and keeps away from disobedience to Allah, despite the pain that his heart feels due to this passionate love (similar to the case of the one who is patient through a calamity), then indeed this person would gain the same reward as those who have feared Allah and been patient.

Verily, he who fears Allah and is patient, then surely Allah makes not the reward of the doers good to be lost. [surah Yusuf: Ayah 90]

But as for him who feared the standing before his Lord, and restrained himself from impure evil desires and lusts. Verily, Paradise will be his abode. [surah an-Naaziaat: Ayah 40]

When the soul loves something, it will do all it can to attain it, so the one who does this out of having a blameworthy love or hatred then this action of his would be sinful. For example, his hating a person due to envying him and thereby harming whosoever is linked to that person.

As one poet affected by this said:

For the sake of a Sudanese girl he loved Sudan to the point that he loved the black dogs due to his love of her.

Ibn al Qayyim al Jawziyyah’s al Fawaaid (p111-112)

“The slave is not afflicted with a punishment greater in severity then the hardening of the heart and being distant from Allah. For the Fire was created to melt the hardened heart. The most distant heart from Allah is the heart which is hardened. If the heart becomes hardened, the eye becomes dry.

If four matters are exceeded in quantity, beyond what is necessary, the heart shall become hardened:

Food, sleep, speech and sexual intercourse. A body afflicted by disease does not derive nourishment from food or water, similarly a heart diseased by desire does not benefit from admonishment and exhortation.

Whosoever desires to purify his heart, then let him prefer Allah to his desires.

The heart which is clinging to its desires is veiled from Allah, commensurate to the degree that it is attached to them, the hearts are the vessels of Allah upon his earth, hence the most beloved of them to him, are the ones most compassionate, pure and resistant to deviation.

They (the transgressors) preoccupied their hearts [in the pursuance] of the Dunya, would that they preoccupied them with Allah and the hereafter, then surely they would have reflected upon the intended meaning of his poignant words and verses. Their hearts would have returned to their masters with wisdom, marvelously curious and [in possession] of the rarest of precious gems.

If the heart is nourished with remembrance, its thirst quenched with contemplation and cleansed from corruption, it shall witness remarkable and wondrous matters, inspiring wisdom.

Not every individual who is endowed with knowledge and wisdom, and assumes its character is form amongst its people. Rather the people of knowledge and wisdom are those who infused life into their hearts by slaying their desires. As for the one who slays his heart and vitalized his desires, then knowledge and wisdom is naked upon his tongue.

The destruction of the heart occurs by security [in this Dunya] and negligence, its fortification occurs by fear and remembrance. If the heart renounces the pleasures of the Dunya, it settles upon the [pursuance of] pleasures of the Hereafter, and amongst those who call towards it.

Should the heart become content with the pleasures of the Dunya, those pleasures [of the hereafter] cease [to continue].

Yearning for Allah and his meeting is like the gentle breeze blowing upon the heart, extinguishing the blaze of the Dunya. Whosoever caused his heart to settle with his Lord shall be in a state, clam and tranquil, and whosoever sent it amongst the people shall be disturbed and excessively perturbed.

For the love of Allah shall not enter a heart, which contains the love of this world, except as a camel, which passes through the eye of a needle.

Hence, the most beloved servant before Allah is the one whom He places in His servitude, whom He selects for His love, whom He causes to purify his worship for Him, dedicates his objectives for Him, his tongue for His remembrance, and his limbs for His service.

The heart becomes sick, as the body becomes sick, and its remedy is al-Tawbah and protection [from transgression].

It becomes rusty as a mirror becomes rusty, and its clarity is obtained by remembrance. It becomes naked as the body becomes naked, and its beautification is at-Taqwa. It becomes hungry and thirsty as the body becomes hungry and thirst, and its food and drink are knowledge, love, dependence, repentance and servitude.”

Asalamu ALAIKUM

Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart - Muslimah - 06-30-2003

Mash a Allah brother

May Allah protect us all from having a heart set on anything but Him. May He also grant us sound hearts prostrating only to Him. ameen ameen ameen

Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart - imanov - 07-18-2003

bismi-lLahi-rRahmani-rRahiem.( In the name of Allah, most Compassionate, most Merciful )

assalamu alaikum wa rahmatu-lLahi wa barakatuH

Inna-lhamda li-lLahi wa nahmadu Hu wa nasta'inu HU wa nastaghfiru Hu, wa na'udzubi-lLahi min syururi anfusina wa sayyiati 'amalina ma-yyahdi hi-lLah fa mudli-llalah wa ma-yyudlil fa la hadiyalah ( Whomsoever has been guided by Allah, non can misguide, and whomsoever has been misguided by Allah, non can guide him. ),

wa asyhadu a-lla ilaha illa-lLah wahdaHu la syarika laHu, wa asyhadu anna Muhammadan 'abduHu wa- rrasuluH, wa-shshallatu-lLahi wa-ssalamuHu 'alaih wa 'ala alihi wa ashhabihi wa ikhwanihi wa tabi'ien ila yaumi-ddien.

what a wonderfull saying; i cant say it better than this:

Quote: May Allah protect us all from having a heart set on anything but Him. May He also grant us sound hearts prostrating only to Him[/quote:05816ffa58]

[b:05816ffa58] amien ! amien ya Rabb-al'alamien[/b:05816ffa58]

baraka-lLahu fiekum wa shalla-lLahu wa-ssallamuH 'alaa Nabiyyinaa Muhammad, subhanaka-lLahumma wabihamdiKa ( glory, praise, gratitude is to You oh Allaah ) asyhadu a-lla ilaha illa Anta ( I bear witness there is none that has the right to my worship but You ), astaghfiruKa wa atubuilaiK ( I ask Your forgiveness and repent unto You )

wa-ssalaam 'alaikum wa rahmatu-lLahi wa-barakatuH.[/b]

Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart - Muslimah - 07-18-2003

Jazakum Allah Khairan Imanov, u know that it is all from Allah and to Him. U also know that the Messenger of Allah Salah Allahu a`alehi wa sallam said what means that two parts of the body if they are perfect the whole body would be perfect and if they are corrupt the whole body would be corrupt the heart and the tongue.

May He help us keep them perfect. Only a sound perfect heart can receive Allah's light.

Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart - AbuNoran - 07-18-2003

As-salaam Alikum,

Quote:U also know that the Messenger of Allah Salah Allahu a`alehi wa sallam said what means that two parts of the body if they are perfect the whole body would be perfect and if they are corrupt the whole body would be corrupt the heart and the tongue.[/quote:45891fac25]Its only the heart Muslimah.

Sahih Al-Bukhari:

Volumn 001, Book 002, Hadith Number 049.

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Narated By An-Nu'man bin Bashir : I heard Allah's Apostle saying, 'Both legal and illegal things are evident but in between them there are doubtful (suspicious) things and most of the people have no knowledge about them. So whoever saves himself from these suspicious things saves his religion and his honor. And whoever indulges in these suspicious things is like a shepherd who grazes (his animals) near the Hima (private pasture) of someone else and at any moment he is liable to get in it. (O people!) Beware! Every king has a Hima and the Hima of Allah on the earth is His illegal (forbidden) things. Beware! There is a piece of flesh in the body if it becomes good (reformed) the whole body becomes good but if it gets spoilt the whole body gets spoilt and that is the heart.[/color:45891fac25]

As-far as the tongue, there are a lot of Ahadith that talk about the tongue and how it could harm the Muslim:

On the authority of Sufyan bin `Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) who reported: I said: O Messenger of Allah, command me something by which I should hold fast. He (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 

Say: My Lord is Allah and then remain steadfast. Then I said: O Messenger of Allah! What do you fear most in my case? He said that he caught hold of his tongue and said this.[/color:45891fac25] 

(Reported by Al-Tirmidhi) 

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Lessons deduced:

- The hadith includes a command that one should make his Faith firm at first, then stick to righteous deeds. 

- The hadith warns against indulging in nonsensical speech as it hardens one's heart and deprives him of Allah's mercy.

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: 

Allah's Messenger (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) observed: 

He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should either utter good words or better keep silent; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day should treat his neighbor with kindness; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his guest. [/color:45891fac25]

(Agreed-upon) 

Lessons deduced: 

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1- The signs of belief include uttering good words or keeping silent. 

2- The Hadith exhorts the Muslim to treat his neighbors and his guests with kindness. 

3- Belief bears fruitful results such as treating the neighbors with kindness, uttering good words, generosity etc.

Abu Umamah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) 

had said: 

That who misappropriates the right of a Muslim by taking a false oath, Allah will make the fire of Hell obligatory for him, and Paradise will be forbidden for him. A man said to him: Messenger of Allah, even if it is something insignificant? He replied: Yes, even if it is the twig of the Arak tree[/color:45891fac25]. 

(Reported by Muslim) 

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Lessons deduced 

1. The hadith is a warning to whoever unjustly devours the rights of others. 

2. A Muslim should hasten to repent and pay back people’s rights. 

3. It is prohibited to devour people’s rights, however little.

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had said: 

The Muslim is the brother to the Muslim. He should neither deceive him, nor tell a lie on him, nor disgrace or shame him. Everything (of these three things) of a Muslim is (sacred, and thus) inviolable by another Muslim: his honor, blood and property. Piety is here (and he pointed out to his chest thrice). A Muslim can be sure that he has committed a grievous sin, if he degrades his Muslim brother. [/color:45891fac25]

(Agreed upon) 

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Lessons deduced

1. The blood, money and honor of Muslims are sanctified. 

2. Having disdain for Muslims is one of the most grievous sins, because the Muslim is honored by Allah. 

3. When the good Muslim predecessors adhered to such hadiths, they became a strong nation, most feared by their enemies. They dominated other nations and peoples. Yet in later times, when the Muslims ignored these hadiths, differences arose between them and they even fought among each other.

Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Holy Prophet (may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had said: 

Give tidings (to the people); do not create (in their minds) aversion (towards religion); show them leniency and do not be hard upon them. [/color:45891fac25]

(Reported by Al-Bukhari) 

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Lessons deduced 

1. A Muslim should also avoid violence and severity with people so that they will not be reluctant to accept his advice. 

2. Islam is based on easiness in obligation and legislation. It does not oblige people to do things beyond their abilities. 

3. Taking a hard line in following the religious obligations leads to hardship and difficulty.

On the authority of Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) who narrated that the Messenger of Allah (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had said: 

During the night journey (Mi`raj), I saw a group of people who were scratching their chests and faces with their copper nails. I asked, who are these peoples, Gabriel replied that these are the people who eat the flesh of each other (by backbiting) and slander them.[/color:45891fac25] 

(Reported by Abu Dawud) 

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Lessons deduced: 

- This hadith gives a grave warning against backbiting. The backbiter is like the one who eats the flesh of people.

On the authority of Ibn `Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who reported that the Messenger of Allah (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 

Do not indulge in superfluous talk except the remembrance of Allah because much talk without the remembrance of Allah hardens the heart and those will be the farthest from Allah whose hearts are hard. [/color:45891fac25]

(Reported by Al-Tirmidhi) ([u:45891fac25]Hadith Dae'f[/u:45891fac25][/color:45891fac25]) ([u:45891fac25]Weak Hadith[/u:45891fac25][/color:45891fac25]) 

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Lessons deduced: 

- A Muslim should restrain his tongue and talk about things that only lead to Allah's satisfaction. One should also guard his genitals against committing what is prohibited.

On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) who reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) saying: 

That the bondsman would utter the word thoughtlessly that he will fall down into the fire of Hell farther than the distance between the East and the West.[/color:45891fac25] 

(Agreed upon) 

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Lessons deduced: 

- A Muslim will achieve high levels in Paradise if he speaks with goodness and keep away from vicious talk as it leads to Hellfire.

Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart - Muslimah - 01-26-2005

Bismillah

as salam alykom

I was browing searching for something totally different and found this topic Sobhan Allah thought to bring it up for our newer members to benefit from

Some Words to Heal the Broken Heart - umm Zachariah - 02-24-2005

Bismillah,

The following may be a bit misplaced but it is a good reminder anyway.

With Iman

By Asma Nayeem

With Iman comes knowledge

of the meaning of existence,

With Iman comes belief

in reward and punishment!

With Iman comes awareness

of the right and the wrong,

With Iman comes the journey

to Kabah where people throng!

With Iman comes gratitude

for the mercy & blessings,

With Iman comes contentment

with little, or nothing!

With Iman come acceptance

of the highs & lows,

With Iman comes patience

in life’s ups and downs !

With Iman comes the difference

of the good and the bad,

With Iman comes respect

for the young and the old!

With Iman comes fear

of the day of judgement,

With Iman comes repentance

and steadfastness in prayer!

With Iman comes obedience

to the ordainment of Allah,

With Iman comes surrender

to the decree of the hour!

With Iman comes judgement

between the evil and the good,

With Iman comes adaptability

to the everchanging livelihood!

With Iman comes humility

of the soul from within,

With Iman comes kindness

to fellow humans & kith & kin!

With Iman comes appreciation

of creation and beauty,

With Iman comes the strife

to attain levels of purity!

With Iman comes love

of Allah the supreme,

With Iman comes following

Rasul’s (SAW) preaching!

With Iman comes lodging

of this life so temporary,

With Iman comes desire

for heaven as final dwelling!