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The Status Of Women In Islaam - AbuMubarak - 09-29-2004 Taken from Majmoo' Fataawaa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi'ah Written by/Said by Shaikh 'Abdullaah Ibn Baaz Edited by Editorial Staff at tazkiyah.org The status of the Muslim woman in Islaam is a very noble and lofty one, and her effect is very great in the life of every Muslim. Indeed, the Muslim woman is the initial teacher in the building of a righteous society, providing she follows the guidance from the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam). Since adherence to the Qur'aan and the Sunnah distances every Muslim - male or female - from being misguided in any matter... The secret of her importance lies in the tremendous burden and responsibility that is placed upon her, and the difficulties that she has to shoulder - responsibilities and difficulties some of which not even a man bears. This is why from the most important obligations upon a person is to show gratitude to the mother, and kindness and good companionship with her. And in this matter, she is to be given precedence over and above the father... A man came to Allaah's Messenger and said: "O Messenger of Allaah! Who from amongst mankind warrants the best companionship from me?" He replied: "Your mother." The man asked: "Then who?" So he replied: "Your mother." The man then asked: "Then who?" So the Prophet replied again: "Your mother." The man then asked: "Then who?" So he replied: "Then your father." [Al-Bukhaaree (5971) and Muslim (7/2), from Abu Hurayrah] So this necessitates that the mother is given three times the like of kindness and good treatment than the father. As regards the wife, then her status and her effect in making the soul tranquil and serene, has been clearly shown in the noble aayah (verse), in His - the Most High's - saying: And from amongst His Signs is this: That He created for you wives from amongst yourselves, so that you may find serenity and tranquility in them. And He has put between you love and compassion. Indeed, in this are signs for those who reflect. [Ar-Room : 21] ...And do not forget about 'Aaishah (Radhiallahu 'Anha) and her great effect. Since even the great Sahaabah (Companions) used to take knowledge of Hadeeth from her, and many of the Sahaabiyaat (female Companions) learn the various rulings pertaining to women's issues from her... And I have no doubt that my mother - may Allaah shower His mercy upon her - had a tremendous effect upon me, in encouraging me to study; and she assisted me in it. May Allaah greatly increase her reward and reward her with the best of rewards for what she did for me. And there is no doubt also, that the house in which there is kindness, gentleness, love and care, along with the correct Islaamic tarbiyah (education and cultivation) will greatly affect the man. So he will become - if Allaah wills - successful in his affairs and in any matter - whether it be seeking knowledge, trading, earning a living, or other than this. So it is Allaah alone that I ask to grant success and to guide us all to that which He loves and is pleased with. And may the prayers and peace of Allaah be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his Family, his Companions and his followers. The Status Of Women In Islaam - Muslimah - 09-29-2004 Jazakum Allah khairan for posting this AbuMubarak specially coming from a man The Status Of Women In Islaam - AbuMubarak - 10-03-2004 15-tips for brothers talking about "Women in Islam". Whether it's Muslim scholars, brothers at the Muslim Students' Association (MSA), or the average Jameel on the street, Muslim men also have to deal with the stereotypes and misperceptions about women in Islam. Sadly, a number of brothers make the problem worse without realizing it, instead of clarifying the issue. This is rarely, if ever, done intentionally. However, what's clear is that some guidelines are necessary for brothers when talking about the issue of women in Islam. Here are some suggested tips: 2. Let the sisters speak No matter how well-spoken, eloquent or intelligent a brother is, the bottom line is this: he is not a Muslim woman. That means no matter how much you, as a Muslim man tell a non-Muslim woman how wonderful hijab is, it will be harder for her to accept this because you have never worn Hijab and you are not a woman. Whenever possible, have sisters answer questions pertaining to Islam and women. 2. Be careful of mixing up the ideal with the reality One non-Muslim writer once remarked how when talking to Muslims about Islam compared to the West, Muslims take the ideal of Islam and compare it to the reality of the West. The fact of the matter is there are very ugly realities when it comes to the treatment of women in many parts of the world, including the Muslim world. Muslims must recognize the reality of domestic violence in the community, even though Islamic ideals would never condone such ugly behavior. 3. Don't sacrifice speaking out against injustice in the name of protecting Islam's "image" "Tackle the issue and the image will take care of itself," advises Sr. Kathy Bullock, a convert to Islam based in California. Don't fall into the tendency to ignore pressing issues for the sake of protecting Islam's reputation. In other words, if someone brings up the issue of honor killing in Jordan, acknowledge the reality but make it clear that this is a sin and a crime in Islam and as a Muslim you condemn it. This in itself is enough. Trying to justify or make excuses for it or covering it up is not going to score image points for Islam. 4. Don't respond to unspoken accusations A number of times, Muslims automatically start an apologetic tirade defending the status of women in Islam before a person has even said a word. Let the other person initiate questions, and answer calmly and confidently. You may be responding to an accusation that was never even in the person's mind in the first place. 5. Ask WHY Do this before launching an apologetic tirade against any accusation. For instance, a man in Spain once approached a scholar, saying he felt Islam was a man's religion. Before rebutting him, the scholar asked him why he thought this way. The man replied that whenever he looked at mosques, he saw only men. By knowing why, you can develop your answer accordingly, and tackle the issue head-on in an honest and direct way. 6. Agree with people as much as possible Start off agreeing with a person. It will completely turn the tables on the discussion, as many people begin discussions on women in Islam assuming Muslims are completely against the notion of women's rights. 7. If you don't know something SAY SO If a person tells you they're from X country you've never heard of and Muslim women are treated in a horrible fashion what can you say about it? I have never heard of that, and I don't know are simple enough. Don't start apologizing, or denying that it happens. Tell the truth. 8. Don't be condescending In Islam, looking down on a fellow human being is a sin, whether the person is a male or a female. Don't think you know all there is to know about women in Islam, and don't speak in this manner either. Allah does not love arrogance, and only Allah has full knowledge of all things. 9. Don't interrupt This is a problem in a number of cultures, men interrupting women and other men when they speak. Not only is this rude behavior, it takes away from your message. People are less likely to listen to you if you come across as a rude boorish individual. Don't do this to others, especially sisters. 10. Don't assume all Muslim sisters are the same Just because your mom, who was born and brought up in a Muslim country, and has never had a problem with hijab does not mean that other Muslim sisters have the same experience. Muslim sisters are as different as brothers, as are their experiences with issues like hijab. 11. Become more attuned to the "new Muslim woman" Muslim sisters today are not the same as those of yesterday. Many Muslims sisters know more, and they prefer more interactive lectures as opposed to the passive style normally used. If you're giving a talk, be ready to have interjections from Muslim sisters. Welcome these, don't shun them. 12. Choose your words very carefully If you're doing a presentation on women's issues in Islam or responding to a basic question, make sure to choose your words extremely carefully. Know the exact dictionary meaning, as well as the meaning in everyday usage. Words are extremely powerful, and they leave an imprint on the hearts and minds of people. You want that imprint to be positive, so be careful. 13. Actions speak louder than words You can speak beautifully about women in Islam but if throughout the year, sisters have been denied access to the prayer room, or the right to participate in decision-making .Make sure your personal and organizational behavior falls in line with your words. 14. Don't stereotype all Western women "Table dancers" or "cheerleaders" is how one Muslim sister described the way Muslims tend to stereotype all Western women. Let's not forget: we hate it when Muslim women are stereotyped as oppressed, so we should not be doing the same to others. And lest we forget, a growing number of Western women are becoming our Muslim sisters, and very practicing ones at that. 15. Seek women's perspective on issues You know mom, who loves you so much and makes your dinner? She's a woman. Your sister in school? She's a woman. If you're blessed to be surrounded by practicing Muslim sisters in your home, take advantage of this by seeking their views on issues like hijab, domestic violence, community participation, and media stereotypes. There's nothing like hearing the truth presented from those who truly live it. 026.083 "O my Lord! bestow wisdom on me,and join me with the righteous; 026.085 And place me among the inheritors of the Garden of Delight, (THE HOLY QUR'AN) MODERATOR http://groups.yahoo.com/group/islam4all/ The Status Of Women In Islaam - SisterJennifer - 10-04-2004 Masha Allah. The Status Of Women In Islaam - Muslimah - 10-04-2004 I like it so much too Jennifer, specially item 1