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A Reminder Of How To Treat Our Guests - umm Zachariah - 11-13-2004
Assalamu aleikum sisters and brothers,
This is not to offend, it is only a reminder of our duty as Muslims. Since we are calling to the Truth. So that our non-Muslim guests can raise questions and benefit from the discusssions. Insha'Allah.
Manners Of The Callers To Islaam
Author: Imaam ‘Abdul-‘Azeez Ibn Baaz
Source: Ad-Da’wah Ilallaah wa Akhlaaqud-Du’aat (pp. 37-43)
Published: Saturday 3rd January 2004
http://www.theclearpath.com/viewtopic.php?t=66
Mildness and Gentleness
From the akhlaaq that it is necessary to have - O daa’ee - is to be mild and forbearing in your da’wah, and being gentle and patient in it, as were all the Messengers ’alayhimus-salaatu was-salaam. Beware of being hasty, harsh and strict in your da’wah, rather be patient, mild and gentle. In this regard, some of the proofs have already preceeded, such as the saying of Allaah - the Mighty and Majestic:
“Call to the way of your Lord with wisdom and beautiful admonition, and argue with them in ways that are best.” [soorah Nahl (16):125]
And His - the Most Perfect’s - saying:
“And by the Mercy of Allaah you were able to deal gently with them. If you had been severe and harsh-hearted they would have broken away from about you.” [soorah Aal-’Imraan (3):159]
And His - the Most Majestic’s - saying, with regards to Moosaa and Haaroon ’alayhimus-salaam:
“So speak to him mildly, perchance he may take admonition, or that he may fear Allaah.” [soorah Taa Haa (20):44]
And the Prophet sallallhu ’alayhi wa sallam said in the authentic hadeeth:
“O Allaah! Whosoever is a guardian over any of the affairs concerning my Ummah and he is gentle with them, then be gentle with him. And whosoever is a guardian over any of the affairs concerning my Ummah and he is harsh with them, then be harsh with him.” [Related by Muslim (12/212) from ’Aaishah radiallaahu ’anhaa]
So - O servant of Allaah - it is necessary upon you to be gentle in your da’wah and not to be harsh upon the people. Do not turn the people away from the Deen due to your harshness, ignorance, or other such behaviour. On the contrary, be mild, forbearing and patient; and be soft and pleasant in speech, so your words may have an effect upon the heart brother, or that it may have an effect upon the one you are addressing the call to. Then the people will better appreciate your call and invitation. So undue strictness causes people to become distant, not close; and it causes separation, not unity. Therefore, it is a must to be gentle, as the Messenger ’alayhis-salaatu was-salaam said:
“Indeed gentleness does not enter into anything except that it beautifies it, and is removed from anything except that it disfigures it.” [Related by Muslim (16/146) from Aaishah radiallaahu ’anhaa]
And he ’alayhis-salaatu was-salaam also said:
“Whoever is prevented from gentleness, is actually prevented from all good and excellence.” [Related by Muslim (16/145) from Jaabir ibn Abdullaah]
Wasalam your sister
A Reminder Of How To Treat Our Guests - Rehmat - 11-13-2004
True, but these good intentions too have its limits.
I wonder, if Sheik Baaz took these Hadiths ‘literally’, when he issued his famous ‘Fatwa’ to please his masters in Riyadh and Washington, during 1991 Iraq Invasion “Saddam Hussain is enemy of God, against whom a Jihad is obligatory…..Any non-Muslim party (US and its ‘Willing partners) assisting the cause will be blessed by Allah.” (Toronto Globe and Mail, Feb. 2, 1991).
On the other hand, my little Hadith knowledge reminds me of the Prophet (pbuh) as saying “Whoever, seek help of a Kafir against another Believer, is not among my Ummah.”
That’s was the reason why Amir Muwayia rejected Byzantine king’s offer to send his forces to fight with his against Hazrat Ali (as), by saying “If your forces crossed Islamic borders, I will be the first one to fight against you under Ali’s leadership.”
A Reminder Of How To Treat Our Guests - Muslimah - 11-13-2004
Bismillah
Jazaki Allah khairan Umm for this reminder, we always have to keep in mind that we are calling for Allah Assabour (The All Patient). By presenting ourselves as Muslims we invite others in an indirect way. Major part of Islam is Akhlaq (mannerism) Sobhan Allah. Good manners actually help much for one to get closer to Allah.