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striking ones wife in islam? What are it's rulings? - abdulwalee - 03-31-2007
Dealing with the Wife's Ill-Conduct
Allah said,
[وَاللَّـتِى تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ]
(As to those women on whose part you see ill conduct,) meaning, the woman from whom you see ill conduct with her husband, such as when she acts as if she is above her husband, disobeys him, ignores him, dislikes him, and so forth. When these signs appear in a woman, her husband should advise her and remind her of Allah's torment if she disobeys him. Indeed, Allah ordered the wife to obey her husband and prohibited her from disobeying him, because of the enormity of his rights and all that he does for her. The Messenger of Allah said,
«لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِأَحَدٍ، لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا، مِنْ عِظَمِ حَقِّهِ عَلَيْهَا»
(If I were to command anyone to prostrate before anyone, I would have commanded the wife to prostrate before her husband, because of the enormity of his right upon her.) Al-Bukhari recorded that Abu Hurayrah said that the Messenger of Allah said,
«إِذَا دَعَا الرَّجُلُ امْرَأَتَهُ إِلى فِرَاشِهِ فَأَبَتْ عَلَيْهِ، لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلَائِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِح»
(If the man asks his wife to come to his bed and she declines, the angels will keep cursing her until the morning.) Muslim recorded it with the wording,
«إِذَا بَاتَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ هَاجِرَةً فِرَاشَ زَوْجِهَا، لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلَائِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِح»
(If the wife goes to sleep while ignoring her husband's bed, the angels will keep cursing her until the morning.) This is why Allah said,
[وَاللَّـتِى تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ]
(As to those women on whose part you see ill conduct, admonish them (first)). Allah's statement,
[وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِى الْمَضَاجِعِ]
(abandon them in their beds,) `Ali bin Abi Talhah reported that Ibn `Abbas said "The abandonment refers to not having intercourse with her, to lie on her bed with his back to her.'' Several others said similarly. As-Suddi, Ad-Dahhak, `Ikrimah, and Ibn `Abbas, in another narration, added, "Not to speak with her or talk to her.'' The Sunan and Musnad compilers recorded that Mu`awiyah bin Haydah Al-Qushayri said, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the right that the wife of one of us has on him'' The Prophet said,
«أَنْ تُطْعِمَهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ، وَتَكْسُوَهَا إِذَا اكْتَسَيْتَ، وَلَا تَضْرِبِ الْوَجْهَ، وَلَا تُقَبِّحْ، وَلَا تَهْجُرْ إِلَّا فِي الْبَيْت»
(To feed her when you eat, cloth her when you buy clothes for yourself, refrain from striking her face or cursing her, and to not abandon her, except in the house.) Allah's statement,
[وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ]
(beat them) means, if advice and ignoring her in the bed do not produce the desired results, you are allowed to discipline the wife, without severe beating. Muslim recorded that Jabir said that during the Farewell Hajj, the Prophet said;
«وَاتَّقُوا اللهَ فِي النِّسَاءِ، فَإِنَّهُنَّ عِنْدَكُمْ عَوَانٍ، وَلَكُمْ عَلَيْهِنَّ أَنْ لَا يُوطِئْنَ فُرُشَكُمْ أَحَدًا تَكْرَهُونَهُ،فَإِنْ فَعَلْنَ ذَلِكَ فَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِحٍ، وَلَهُنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوف»
(Fear Allah regarding women, for they are your assistants. You have the right on them that they do not allow any person whom you dislike to step on your mat. However, if they do that, you are allowed to discipline them lightly. They have a right on you that you provide them with their provision and clothes, in a reasonable manner.) Ibn `Abbas and several others said that the Ayah refers to a beating that is not violent. Al-Hasan Al-Basri said that it means, a beating that is not severe.
For a more detailed explanation of the meanings of this excellent sura explaning the treatment of the community of believers ask the people of knowledge also for link to tafsee Ibn katheer's index site click link:<b> Tafseer Ibn Katheer-S:Nisa</b>
striking ones wife in islam? What are it's rulings? - Al-fateh - 04-05-2007
no beating is allowed in Islam, treatment of the wife is a MUST in Islam, and what is considered to be "beating" is nothig but a spiritual effect so that a wife can know the wrong she did.
and this is the last resort in Islam for not just any wife, but rather a disobedient wife....
as now for real comparison in Islam and other beliefs...
real life nowadays
from Christians all the way down to idont care what religion u are from... everyone beats the wife, using the wrong belief to support a wrong cause
Islam is a religon of tolerance and mercy amongst one another.
striking ones wife in islam? What are it's rulings? - Al-fateh - 04-06-2007
thats a dumb *** not a scholar
excuse the ignorance of some people
striking ones wife in islam? What are it's rulings? - Al-fateh - 04-06-2007
it takes one to learn properly to think properly
those idiots do nothing but give a bad name to Islam
knowing for sure that the prophet (pbuh) was very kind and respectful to his wife, and NEVER had done such an act to his wives.
there is some fabricated hadith that says that the prophet did so...but is all false based on being weak with no isnad at all
striking ones wife in islam? What are it's rulings? - Al-fateh - 04-07-2007
it does raise an eyebrow
and like i said
how would a person who doesnt know Islam, and lacks to what is true learning in islam, how would that person , know what is right from wrong?
just because it is from a scholar doesnt mean it has to be 100% RIGHT...
scholars nowadays are unfortunately "scholars" by name nothing more, with some credit left to some scholars who indeed fear Allah and make sure they give the right message.
i see what u mean..but i must note that this is not the first time provocative books have been established by the name of Islam to promote something
i can give u the example of honor killings..a barbaric act, that some will find the islamic sources to justify it....nothing but twisters and hypocrites
striking ones wife in islam? What are it's rulings? - abdulwalee - 04-08-2007
Quote:<b>scholars nowadays are unfortunately "scholars" by name nothing more, with some credit left to some scholars who indeed fear Allah and make sure they give the right message.</b>
Which scholars are you refering to? So I can watch out for thoes ones. maybe you can bring a few names?