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  Project Jahannam
Posted by: abu_saheem - 05-23-2004, 12:55 AM - Forum: General - Replies (14)


I came across something I cannot believe, but due to the source, I am nearly forced to believe it. I am talking about Project Jahannam.

On May 20th of this year, a former high ranking CIA operative and white house consultant to President Reagan, Jack Wheeler, wrote an article about Project Jahannam.

THIS IS A PROJECT WHICH ALL MUSLIMS MUST KNOW ABOUT. The pentagon seems to have a high level project in which biodiesel fuels are intermixed with jet fuel. The biodiesel fuel uses PIG FAT, and this intersperses with contrails around the world. They say this is the ultimate revenge for 9/11, to bar us from Jannah!

His website is http://www.tothepointnews.com ; I have obtained a copy of the article.

Read Below:

ULTIMATE REVENGE: Sealing the Gates to Islam’s Heaven

Jack Wheeler

May 21, 2004

Sit down and sit tight, folks, or else this is going to totally blow you away.

Over a drink at The Cosmos Club in downtown Washington the other day, one of the Pentagon’s key intel guys – let’s call him Larry Johansen – ran something by me.

“Suppose – purely hypothetically, you understand,” said Larry, “that there was a number of people where I work who became determined to exact an ultimate revenge for Islam perpetrating September 11 upon America, for dancing on the streets from Cairo to Damascus to Ramallah in celebration of the slaughter of 3,000 Americans and the destruction of the Twin Towers, for creating and tolerating Al Qaeda, for waging war on Western Civilization?”

“Ultimate revenge? Sounds intriguing,” I responded. “What might that be?”

“Well, this is just supposition, right?” Larry responded. “But if there were this group where I work, they would call it Project Jahannam.”

My eyebrows shot up. “Project Jahannam?”

“Yes – Jahannam, as you know, is the Arabic word for Islam’s Hell. If a Moslem doesn’t go to Jannah – Heaven, the Paradise with the virgins and all – when he dies, he burns in Jahannam. The goal of Project Jahannam would be to seal off the Gates of Paradise to every single Moslem in the entire Middle East – or even the entire world. Although – since we’re only speaking hypothetically here – I might have used the wrong tense. It might be that Project Jahannam has already been completed. It might be that no Moslem alive today has a chance to live in the Paradise of Jannah when they die. They all, just like every Moslem who has died of whatever cause for the past year or so, are doomed to spend eternity in Jahannam – the fires of Hell.”

There was the look of deepest satisfaction in Larry’s eyes.

I stared at the ice cubes in my glass of Glen Morangie for a moment to let this all sink in. “So,” I asked, “just how might one go about consigning all Moslems to Hell?”

“I have this nephew,” Larry said. “He’s all into enviro causes and such. Lives in Oregon. He’s normal and thinks ok for the most part. But every time he sees a jet plane’s contrail in the sky, he’s convinced the government is spraying chemicals in some nefarious experiment on us.”

We sipped our Scotch. He was enjoying this.

“Have you ever heard of biodiesel fuel? Just last night (May 11), the Senate passed a federal excise tax credit for biodiesel. It was Grassley’s thing (Sen Chuck Grassley, R-IA). He bills biodiesel as a “cleaner-burning alternative” to pure petroleum diesel, and also as a “renewable resource” since biodiesel contains an additive made from soybean oil. There are a lot of soybeans grown in Iowa.”

Larry continued. “The chemistry involved is pretty simple, a process called trans-esterification. Soybean oil is cooked with an alcohol like methanol and a catalyst like sodium methoxide. You distill out the water and glycerin. This “esterifies” the oil, turning it into a “mono-alkyl ester” derived from the long-chain fatty acids of the oil. This is fuel-grade biodiesel, which can be added up to 20% to petroleum diesel. With me so far?”

I nodded, waiting for the punch line.

“This transesterification process works with most any kind of vegetable oil, or animal fat…” He let those last two words float in the air.

“Animal fat?” I asked. “You mean like…?”

“Yes,” he answered, “like lard, pig fat.”

Larry leaned forward. “Biofuel can be made with pig fat just as easily as with soybean oil. You can add it to any kind of petroleum fuel – gasoline for cars, diesel for trucks, jet fuel for airplanes. If – if, remember – the Project Jahannam people arranged for the manufacture of large quantities of pig fat biofuel, and further arranged for it to be mixed into the jet fuel supplies used by most of the world’s airlines, then…” He paused for me to get the picture.

“Then the world’s breathable atmosphere,” I said, “would be permeated with molecules of pig fat.”

“Precisely” he said. “Now, pig fat molecules are virtually indistinguishable from human fat molecules, so there’s no physical harm. The molecules would be absorbed through the lungs and incorporated into the fat cells of one’s body. Harmless to us, but for any Moslem, his body would be ineradicably, irretrievably polluted with pigs. The gates of heaven are forever closed to him. Mohammed himself would spit at them if they tried to enter. Remember the Sepoy Rebellion in 19th century India?”

“Yeah – that’s when the Sepoys, the native troops in British India, mutinied against the Brits,” I answered. “A lot of the Sepoys were Moslem, and this rumor started that their bullet cartridges were greased with pig fat. Since you had to bite off the paper wrapping of the cartridge, your mouth would come in contact with the alleged pig grease. Also, any fellow Moslems that were shot had pig grease in their body with the bullet, so they could kiss heaven goodbye. The Sepoys rebelled. Happened in the 1850s, I think.”

“Right – 1857-1859 to be exact. The thing was, it wasn’t true – Brits never used pig fat to grease the cartridges. Just the rumor itself sparked the revolt, which almost ended the British Raj.” Larry had an odd look in his eye.

“But surely the intention of Project Jahannam wouldn’t be to set off a worldwide Islamic revolt against the US – that’s Al Qaeda’s goal,” I stammered.

Larry’s hands went up in the air. “Of course not. The difference is that the Sepoys were trying to accomplish something by rebelling – no more pig grease on the cartridges. There wouldn’t be anything to accomplish by rebelling against Project Jahannam – because if it did happen, it’s already happened. The stuff would already be in the air, and would have been for over a year now. There’s nothing that can be done about it. Any action or protest or riot or whatever is useless. No Moslem can enter heaven now and that’s the end of it.”

My brain was exploding with so many thoughts I couldn’t say a word. Larry continued.

“Understand that the people who are capable of such a project are seriously clever. They would have made deals with various oil refineries to use a “special experimental” biofuel, paying them well for adding it to their refined fuel products and never revealing of course the biofuel was from pig fat. They would even have charcoal-filtered the pig fat biofuel to take out any aroma. This would have lasted only for less than a year, but enough time for the thousands of airliners flying across the planet every day to permeate the troposphere with pig fat particles everywhere in the world except the Arctic and Antarctica – and there aren’t many Moslems in either.”

“The troposphere?” I asked.

“That’s the air we breathe, the layer of air from the ground to 24-28,000 feet,” he replied. “Above that is the stratosphere. The JPs – the Jahannam Particles – would stay suspended in the stratosphere for months, in the troposphere for weeks or less wherever there was lots of rain to wash them out. So you could figure that within eight to ten months or so, the cumulative effect of hundreds of thousands of airplanes spraying pig fat exhaust into the world’s air would be that there isn’t a Moslem alive today anywhere in the world that doesn’t have JPs lodged in his fat cells. Oh – with one exception.”

“What’s that?” I asked.

“Infants, anyone born within the last few months since the project hypothetically would have ceased. Maybe when they grow up, they can create an Islam that actually lives at peace with the world.”

“OK,” I said. “This is all very cool, albeit hypothetically cool. But what’s the point? Such a project would have cost a lot of money. What would it accomplish?”

“Total demoralization of the enemy,” came his reply. “No more shahid (martyr) suicide bombers blowing themselves up as a ticket to whorehouse heaven. Using the enemy’s beliefs as a weapon against him – using the strengths of those beliefs to destroy him. The enemy knowing we can do this to him, kick him right in the balls of his soul and not blink an eye – knowing that we’ve already done it and there is not a damned thing he can do about it. He’s damned, he’s no longer a Moslem, his soul is unclean and polluted beyond retrieval, it’s over, it’s finished, for in a sense there are no Moslems – no true and unpolluted Moslems – in the whole world any longer.”

“But, Larry,” I objected, “there’s still no point if no one knows about this.”

A malicious smile broke over his face. “Not for much longer. The word is starting to seep out. Do you have any idea how many Moslems are like my nephew in Oregon? They’ll convince themselves they are haram (polluted) because the paranoia of their beliefs won’t let them think otherwise.”

Larry leaned forward again. “Jack, remember the pictures of people leaping to their deaths from the burning Trade Towers? These evil radical Moslem sons-of-bitches attacked us. They want to kill all of us. They’ll nuke us if they get the chance. Well, we’ve nuked them first – nuked them spiritually. Their fellow Moslems have hardly lifted a finger to help us get rid of them, to cure the disease that’s infected their religion. So sayonara to all of their souls.”

“You know, Larry,” I said, “if this were true, if Project Jahannam really did happen, it would be the greatest Psy-Ops in history. After all, the War on Terrorism is essentially a psychological war.”

“If is an interesting word, Jack – especially when it comes to religion, where there is no difference in effect between what is true and what people think is true.” Larry raised his glass. I raised mine.

“To Ultimate Revenge,” Larry said. “And to my nephew.”

Abu Saheem

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  Islamic movies
Posted by: naseeha - 05-22-2004, 02:35 PM - Forum: General - Replies (1)


hey everyone i dedicate this tread to puttingsome links to some really cool flash movies over the net

here is one

http://www.jihadunspun.com/articles/091120....Remembers.html

i will post more as time goes by insha allah

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  Job Description: "Mother"
Posted by: Muslimah - 05-22-2004, 09:10 AM - Forum: Woman and family - No Replies


as salam alykom

I received this on an email, thought it was so special for mothers to read.

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A woman named Emily renewing her driver's license at the Clerk's office was > >asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, > >uncertain > >how to classify herself. > > > >"What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job, or are you > >justa .....?" > > > >"Of course I have a job," snapped Emily. "I'm a mother." > > > >"We don't list `mother` as an occupation... `housewife` covers it," said > >the > >recorder emphatically. > > > >I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same > >situation, this time at our own Town Hall.

The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar." >"What is your occupation?" she probed. What made me say it, I do not > >know... > > > >The words simply popped out. I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though > >she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most > >significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was > >written in > >bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your > >field?" > > > >Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I > >have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't), in the > >laboratory > >and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). > > > >I'm working for my Masters, (the whole darned family), and already have > >four > >credits, (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding > >in > >the humanities, (any mother care to disagree.?.) and I often work 14 hours > >a > >day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most > >run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a > >satisfaction. Rather than just money."

>There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she > >completed > >the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door. > > > >As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was > >greeted by my lab assistants - ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our > >new > >experiment, (a 6 month old baby), in the child development program, testing > >out > >a new vocal pattern.

I felt triumphant! I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on > >the > >official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind > >than "just another mother." > > > >Motherhood.....What a glorious career! > > > >Especially when there's a title on the door. Does this make : > > > >Grandmothers: "Senior Research Associates in the field of Child Development > >and Human Relations"? > > > >Great grandmothers: "Executive Senior Research Associates"? I think so!!!

>Aunts: "Associate Research Assistants". > > > >(optional) > >Send this to another Mother, Grandmother, Aunt, and other friends you know. > >Or for that matter, forward this to everyone because mothers should be > >appreciated not just by their own kind but by everyone...

Alhamdulilahi Rabbil Alameen, Rabbil Alwaaleena wal Aakhireen, wa Salaatu wa Salaamu, alal Mab'oothi Rahmatan lil Alameen an Nabiyal Amin Muhammad ibn Abdillah, wa Aalihi wa Sahbihi ajmaeen wa man Tabiyahum bi'th Saneen ila yaumid Deen Laa ilaaha illa laahu wah dahu laa shareeka lahu lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu yuhyee wa yumeetu wa huwa hayyun la yamootu biya dihil khayru wa huwa 'ala kulli shay in qadeer

> > >Alhamdulilahi Rabbil Alameen, Rabbil Alwaaleena wal Aakhireen, wa Salaatu wa Salaamu, alal Mab'oothi Rahmatan lil Alameen an Nabiyal Amin Muhammad ibn Abdillah, wa Aalihi wa Sahbihi ajmaeen wa man Tabiyahum bi'th Saneen ila yaumid Deen Ameen. > >Laa ilaaha illa laahu wah dahu laa shareeka lahu lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu yuhyee wa yumeetu wa huwa hayyun la yamootu biya dihil khayru wa huwa 'ala kulli shay in qadeer > >There is none worthy of worship except Allaah, Alone, without any partner with Him. For Him is the Dominion and to Him is the Praise. He gives life and He brings about death.

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  Founding Meeting for the National Council of Imams and Islamic Centers
Posted by: Muslimah - 05-22-2004, 04:39 AM - Forum: Islamic Events - No Replies


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

..: Muslim American Society :..

PRESS RELEASE

Founding Meeting for the National Council of Imams and Islamic Centers

(NCIIC)

Over 100 Islamic Centers Confirmed

http://www.masnet.org/pressroom_release.asp?id=1225

On June 4-6, 2004, in Washington, DC, imams and directors of Islamic Centers

from across the nation will meet to ratify the constitution for the

establishment of a National Council for Imams and Islamic Centers in the

United States.

After meetings and discussions with local leaders, regional shura councils

and the national leadership from the Islamic Society of North America

(ISNA), the Islamic Circle of North America (ICNA), the Muslim American

Society (MAS), the Muslim Alliance of North America (MANA) and others, all

agree the effort is critically needed. Over one hundred Islamic centers from

across the nation have confirmed their participation.

People in America are familiar with the Council of Churches or Council of

Bishops. Thus far, no such structure exists for the American Muslim

community.

The council will serve as a national body coordinating and directing

operations of the nationwide Muslim community, while respecting the

integrity and autonomy of each individual mosque or center. This is an

opportunity for our community to come together across ethnic and

organizational lines both at the local and national level.

MAS has spearheaded the effort after a number of meetings organized by the

Society and ICNA during their joint conventions.

MAS President Souheil Ghannouchi states, "We have driven this process with

the hope that at this meeting, the community will take up this work and make

it their own.

"MAS will do all it can to see this national council become a success."

At this meeting, the new Council will elect officers from the Muslim

community independent of their affiliations to any national organizations or

groups.

For more information contact:

The Steering Committee

National Council of Imams and Islamic Centers

steeringnciic@masnet.org

masit@masnet.org

703-998-6525 Tel

703-998-6526 Fax

To download NCIIC invitation and registration materials, please click on the

link:

http://www.masnet.org/pressroom_release.asp?id=1225

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  Proposal for the mods to look at
Posted by: naseeha - 05-20-2004, 05:11 PM - Forum: General - Replies (90)


(Assalam)

hey everyone here is my proposal for the children:

<b>First of all here are the objectives:</b>


Help the children to gain knowledge of islam.
Introduce them to the wide world of islam on the internet
teach them how to navigate around sites in general
MOST OF ALL..... ALLOW THEM TO HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!

<b>Note:</b>We need to fulfil these objectives the question is <i>HOW???</i> we need something FUN, CAPTIVATING, COOL TO LOOK AT and most of all FULL OF KNOWLEDGE....

well i think i have an idea:

<b>here is the plan:</b>

A treasure hunt:

<b>1] HOW THE KIDS WILL SEE IT:</b>

they will be introduced to an interface where they are going on a ship(similar to a pirate ship) to different parts of the internet: the interface would take them to a whole new site where they will be greeted by a person who would come aboard their ship... this person would ask them an islamic question... To answer this question they will be pointed to a section of the site that they will have to go through(something small children have small attention spans)..when they get the answer then they will be given the secret location to another point on the map(which is really another site)they will go through the same thing here....

when they have finished about 10 questions and 10 different sites then they would be given a prize and added to a winner's list for everyone to see...

there will be three different levels of questions.. easy.. meduim and TOUGH...

<b>2] THE TECHNICAL BEHIND THE SCENES OPERATIONS:</b>

INTERFACE:

this would be done in flash... it would have a cartoonish appearance and the questions would be read off a text file on the server...

ASP(Active Sever Pages):

this server/side language will be used to write the text file.. this way there can be an administration area set up where the moderators can change the questions periodically... since www.islamsms.com doesnt support this, it would have to be hosted off my site www.naseeha.com.




... but here is what i was thinking...we could have one page with two frames.. one above and one on the bottom.. the top one will have the interface with the pirate ship and the quesitons and the bottom one will be where they will see other sites load up so that they can browse through it and find the answers then they would put that answer in the interface...

when they have answered all the questions then they will put their name in a little box and will be given the prize

THE PRIZE:

well i talked to muslimah about this and we were thinking to let them download a story book with islamic stories for children... but we will have to put this up.. somehow we could use help with this...

THE GRAPHICS:


we would need some graphics of a treasure map,
the decking of a ship with a person standing by the ship's steering wheel (this is the child himself)
a few pics of people from different sites... (in islamic garb)
a treasure chest

<b>3] PROGRESS THUS FAR</b>

well i only had the idea yesterday.. so i havent actually done anything yet... i asked one of my freinds to do the graphics but i dont know when i will get it.. he is a very busy person

as for the rest i will do it by myself but i need help with the stories... i want someone to help me with some prizes

and when everything is ready then we will have to prepare the questions and maybe email some sites to go on an advertising campaign of some sort... in order to get the word out there...

as for everything else i will be handling that.. but everyone gotta understand one thing i am studying to become a professional accountant... I HAVE NEVER in my life had any lessons in web programming... everything that i am doing will be totall y amateur and i will have to do it by trial and error... not only that but i have exams in early june so things will be slow before that... i can use any help...

i heard joshua is into graphics.. maybe he would be interested in helping...

this is my proposal....

now lemme get some feedback

(Walikum)

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  HeLp!!!!!!!!
Posted by: NaSra - 05-20-2004, 06:00 AM - Forum: Feedback and suggestions - Replies (18)


Asalamalaykum

I've been fiddling with the "edit avatar" section in my User CP, And guess what? Now my avatar is gone + I can't upload any avatar...... :computera

Maybe there is something I am not understanding,

Can someone help me out? :embarrase

Jezekelah khayr in advance

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  Kids room
Posted by: amma - 05-19-2004, 08:59 PM - Forum: Islam and kids - Replies (4)


Salam

This is to all who are going to post anything on the kids forum. The following things must be taken into consideratiogn when posting a topic.

1. The age group here is 5-14 yr olds.

2. Posts should not be too long.

3. They should be colourful.

4. Simple language must be used for the kids to understand.

5. In appropriate places images should be used.

The above are only a few things which need to be taken into account. Our aim here is to attract the attention of kids who use the internet and are willing to learn more about Islam. So far the topics which have been posted are fine content wise. However looking at them think to yourself if you were between that age bracket of 5-14 would you be reading them. I dont think so.

Therefore to make this room succesful please take into account all the above we need to catch the attention of the kids not scare them away.

Jazakallah.

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  Imagine yourself after you pass away
Posted by: masriahmuslimah - 05-19-2004, 07:49 PM - Forum: "And remind for reminding benefit the believers - No Replies




Imagine yourself after you pass away





Imagine your grave through night and through day

Wishing that you did not do as they say

Wishing that you had got up and had prayed.

Imagine, my friends, the day that you died

Imagine all of the tears that they cried

Remember how it felt when your body was tied

Remember how it felt in the grave which you lied.

Imagine the day you'll be called to account

Imagine the sum to which your life will ammount

Think for a moment of the deeds that you mount

Think for a moment how much they will count.

What will they say of you when you are dead?

What will they say, what will be said?

Will they speak of all the poor who you fed?

Will they remember all the Qur`an that you read?

Think not of them, but of Allah, Lord of mankind and jinn

Think of Allah when tempted to sin

Think of the paradise which you will dwell in

Don't wait till later to think what might have been.

DID YOU PREPARE: ARE YOU READY?!

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  ~How to Make your Wife Happy~
Posted by: NaSra - 05-19-2004, 08:38 AM - Forum: "And remind for reminding benefit the believers - Replies (3)


Asalamalaykum Everyone, Yes I know, I tend to post alot concerning Marriage, its a subject I like learning about, My favortie Subject. :smilingfl...Marriage is half of Deen.

Anyway, I posted on the private sisters forum ~How to Make your Husband Happy~ So I thought Maybe the Brothers should have their bit too, just to be fair InshaAllah.

May it Benefit you all ameen.

<b>How to Make your Wife Happy </b>


<span style="font-size:8pt;line-height:100%;">The following is part ONE of a summary of the book \"How to make your wife happy\" by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.
</span>

<b>1. Beautiful Reception</b>


After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you:

* begin with a good greeting.

* Start with Assalamau 'Aliaykum and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and a

du'aa for her as well.

* Shake her hand and leave bad news for later!

<b>2. Sweet Speech and Enchanting Invitations</b>

* Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones.

* Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks.

* Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands.

* Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart,

honey, saaliha, etc.

<b> 3. Friendliness and Recreation</b>

*Spend time talking together.

* Spread to her goods news.

* Remember your good memories together.

<b> 4. Games and Distractions</b>

* Joking around & having a sense of humor.

* Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever.

* Taking her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment.

* Avoiding prohibited (haram) things in your choices of entertainment.

<b> 5. Assistance in the Household</b>

* Doing what you as an individual can/like to do that helps out,

especially if she is sick or tired.

* The most important thing is making it obvious that he appreciates her

hard work.

<b> 6. Consultation (Shurah)</b>

* Specifically in family matters.

* Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you.

* Studying her opinion carefully.

* Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better.

* Thanking her for helping him with her opinions.

<b> 7. Visiting Others</b>

* Choosing well raised people to build relations with. There is a great

reward in visiting relatives and pious people. (Not in wasting time

while visiting!)

* Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during visits.

* Not forcing her to visit whom she does not feel comfortable with.

<b> 8. Conduct During Travel</b>

* Offer a warm farewell and good advice.

* Ask her to pray for him.

* Ask pious relatives and friends to take care of the family in your

absence.

* Give her enough money for what she might need.

* Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, e-mail, letters, etc..

* Return as soon as possible.

* Bring her a gift!

* Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night.

* Take her with you if possible.

<b> 9. Financial Support</b>

* The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities. He

should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful).

* He gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a

small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand (hadeith).

* He is strongly encouraged to give to her before she asks him.

<b> 10. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification</b>

* Following the Sunnah in removing hair from the groin and underarms.

* Always being clean and neat.

* Put on perfume for her.

<b> 11. Intercourse</b>

* It is obligatory to do it habitually if you have no excuse (sickness,etc.)

* Start with "Bismillah" and the authentic du'a.

* Enter into her in the proper place only (not the anus).

* Begin with foreplay including words of love.

* Continue until you have satisfied her desire.

* Relax and joke around afterwards.

* Avoid intercourse during the monthly period because it haram

* Do what you can to avoid damaging her level of Hiyaa (shyness and

modesty) such as taking your clothes together instead of asking her

to do it first while he is looking on.

* Avoid positions during intercourse that may harm her such as putting

pressure on her chest and blocking her breath, especially if you are

heavy.

* Choose suitable times for intercourse and be considerate as

sometimes she maybe sick or exhausted.

<b>12. Guarding Privacy</b>

* Avoid disclosing private information such as bedroom secrets, her

personal problems and other private matters.

<b> 13. Aiding in the Obedience to Allah</b>

* Wake her up in the last third of the night to pray "Qiam-ul-Layl"

(extra prayer done at night with long sujood and ruku'ua).

* Teach her what you know of the Qur'an and its tafseer.

* Teach her "Dhikr" (ways to remember Allah by the example of the

prophet) in the morning and evening.

* Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity

sale.

* Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford to do so.

<b> 14. Showing Respect for her Family and Friends</b>

* Take her to visit her family and relatives, especially her parents.

* Invite them to visit her and welcome them.

* Give them presents on special occasions.

* Help them when needed with money, effort, etc..

* Keep good relations with her family after her death if she dies first.

Also in this case the husband is encouraged to follow the sunnah

and keep giving what she used to give in her life to her friends and

family.

<b> 15. (Islamic) Training & Admonition</b>

This includes:

* The basics of Islam

* Her duties and rights

* Reading and writing

* Encouraging her to attend lessons and halaqahs

* Islamic rules (ahkam) related to women

* Buying Islamic books and tapes for the home library

<b> 16. Admirable Jealousy</b>

* Ensure she is wearing proper hijab before leaving house.

* Restrict free mixing with non-mahram men.

* Avoiding excess jealousy. Examples of this are:

1- Analyzing every word and sentence she says and overloading

her speech by meanings that she did not mean

2- Preventing her from going out of the house when the reasons are

just.

3- Preventing her from answering the phone.

4- etc.

<b>17. Patience and Mildness</b>

* Problems are expected in every marriage so this is normal. What is

wrong is excessive responses and magnifying problems until a marital

breakdown.

* Anger should be shown when she exceeds the boundaries of Allah SW by delaying prayers, backbiting, watching prohibited scenes on TV, etc..

* Forgive the mistakes she does to you (See item 18).

* How can you best correct her mistakes?

1- First, implicit and explicit advice several times.

2- Then by turning your back to her in bed (displaying your feelings).

Note that this does not include leaving the bedroom to another room,

leaving the house to another place, or not talking with her.

3- The last solution is lightly hitting (when allowable) her. In this

case, the hsuband should consider the following:

- He should know that sunnah is to avoid beating as the Prophet

PBUH never beat a woman or a servant.

- He should do it only in extreme cases of disobedience, e.g.

refusing intercourse without cause frequently, constantly not

praying on time, leaving the house for long periods of time

without permission nor refusing to tell him where she had been,

etc..

- It should not be done except after having turned from her bed and

discussing the matter with her as mentioned in Qur'an .

- He should not hit her hard injuring her, or hit her on her face or

on sensitive parts of her body.

- He should avoid shaming her such as by hitting her with a shoe,

etc.

<b>18. Pardoning and Appropriate Censure</b>

* Accounting her only for larger mistakes.

* Forgive mistakes done to him but account her for mistakes done in

Allah's rights, e.g. delaying prayers, etc..

* Remember all the good she does whenever she makes a mistake.

* Remember that all humans err so try to find excuses for her such as

maybe she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or that her

commitment to Islam is growing.

* Avoid attacking her for the bad cooking of the food as the Prophet PBUH

never blamed any of his wives for this. If he likes the food, he eats

and if he doesn't then he does not eat and does not comment.

* Before declaring her to be in error, try other indirect approaches that

are more subtle than direct accusations

* Escape from using insults and words that may hurt her feelings.

* When it becomes necessary to discuss a problem wait until you have

privacy from others.

* Waiting until the anger has subsided a bit can help to keep a control

on your words.

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Posted by: Shereen - 05-18-2004, 09:44 AM - Forum: Islam and kids - Replies (5)


<b>Eating, Drinking and Entertaining </b> HOW TO START EATING?

عن عُمَرَ ابْنَ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ يَقُولُ كُنْتُ غُلَامًا فِي حَجْرِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَكَانَتْ يَدِي تَطِيشُ فِي الصَّحْفَةِ فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَا غُلَامُ سَمِّ اللَّهَ وَكُلْ بِيَمِينِكَ وَكُلْ مِمَّا يَلِيكَ فَمَا زَالَتْ تِلْكَ طِعْمَتِي بَعْدُ

Umar bin Abu Salmah (may Allah be pleased with him) states that I was a boy under the care of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be on him) my hand was moving fastly in the bowl, taking from every side. So the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said to me: "<b>Say Bismillah (i.e. I start with the name of Allah), eat with your right hand and eat from the side nearest to you." -Agreed upon</b>


عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِي اللَّه عَنْهَا أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِذَا أَكَلَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَذْكُرِ اسْمَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى فَإِنْ فنَسِيَ أَنْ يَذْكُرَ اسْمَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى فِي أَوَّلِهِ فَلْيَقُلْ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ أَوَّلَهُ وَآخِرَهُ

It is reported by Ayesha that the Messenger of Allah (peace and (may Allah be pleased with her) blessings of Allah be on him but forgets to remember Allah over his ) said: <b>"When any one of you eats food, let him sayend.'" : 'In the name of Allah from the beginning to the end' -Tirmizi and Abu Daud</b>


عَنْ ابْنِ عُمَرَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِذَا أَكَلَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَأْكُلْ بِيَمِينِهِ وَإِذَا شَرِبَ فَلْيَشْرَبْ بِيَمِينِهِ

Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah on him) said: <b>"When any one of you eats, let him eat with his right hand and when he drinks, let him drink with his right hand." - Muslim</b>


عَنْ بْنُ عُمَرُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لَا يَأْكُلَنَّ أَحَدٌكُمْ بِشِمَالِهِ وَلَا يَشْرَبَنَّ بِهَا فَإِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ يَأْكُلُ بِشِمَالِهِ وَيَشْرَبُ بِهَا

It is stated by Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah on him) said:, <b>"None of you shall ever take food with his left hand, nor drink with it, because the devil eats and drinks with his left hand." - Muslim</b>
عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَيَرْضَى عَنِ الْعَبْدِ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ الْأَكْلَةَ فَيَحْمَدَهُ عَلَيْهَا أَوْ يَشْرَبَ الشَّرْبَةَ فَيَحْمَدَهُ عَلَيْهَا

Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Apostle of Allah (peace and blessings be on him) said: <b>"Verily Allah is certainly pleased with a man who takes food and then praise Allah for it or takes drink and praises Allah for the same." - Muslim</b>


أَبَا جُحَيْفَةَ يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا آكُلُ مُتَّكِئًا

It is stated by Abu Huzaifah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said: <b>"I don't eat reclining." - Bukhari </b>


<b>ON FINSHING THE MEALS</b>

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَة قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ الطَّاعِمُ الشَّاكِرُ كَالصَّائِمِ الصَّابِرِ

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said: <b>"The thankful eater is like the person fasting patiently." - Tirmizi, Ibn Majah and Darimi</b>


عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ إِذَا فَرَغَ مِنْ طَعَامِهِ قَالَ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِي أَطْعَمَنَا وَسَقَانَا وَجَعَلَنَا مُسْلِمِينَ

It is reported by Abu Saeed Al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) that when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be on him) finished his meals, he used to say: <b>"All praise is for the Lord Who have us to eat and to drink and made us Muslims." - Tirmizi, Abu Daud and Ibn Majah</b>


عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ مُعَاذِ بْنِ أَنَسٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ أَكَلَ طَعَامًا فَقَالَ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِي أَطْعَمَنِي هَذَا وَرَزَقَنِيهِ مِنْ غَيْرِ حَوْلٍ مِنِّي وَلَا قُوَّةٍ غُفِرَ لَهُ مَا تَقَدَّمَ مِنْ ذَنْبِهِ

Sahl bin Muaz bin Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said: <b>"Whoever eats food and then says, 'all praise be to Allah who gave me the food to eat and made it accessible to me without any maneuvering or skill from my side-all his preceding sins are pardoned." - Tirmizi</b>


THE DRINKING MANNERS

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا تَشْرَبُوا وَاحِدًا كَشُرْبِ الْبَعِيرِ وَلَكِنِ اشْرَبُوا مَثْنَى وَثُلَاثَ وَسَمُّوا إِذَا أَنْتُمْ شَرِبْتُمْ وَاحْمَدُوا إِذَا أَنْتُمْ رَفَعْتُمْ

It is reported by Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said: <b>"Don't drink in one breath like the camel's drinking, but drink with two or three (pauses). Utter 'Bismillah' (in the name of Allah), when you start drinking and 'Alhamdolillah'(all praise for Allah) when you finish." -Tirmizi</b>


عَنْ أَنَسٍ قَالَ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَتَنَفَّسُ فِي الشَّرَابِ ثَلَاثًا

Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the <b>Apostle of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him), used to take three breaths for one drink. -Agreed upon</b>


عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَهَى عَنِ النَّفْخِ فِي الشُّرْبِ

Abu Saeed al-Khu(may Allah be pleased with him) stated that <b>the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) prohibited giving breath in the drink. -Tirmizi and Darimi</b>


<b>HOSPITALITY AND ENTERTAINMENT</b>

عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كُلُوا جَمِيعًا وَلَا تَفَرَّقُوا فَإِنَّ الْبَرَكَةَ مَعَ الْجَمَاعَةِ

Umar Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) stated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said: <b>"Ear together and not separately, because blessing is with the company." -Ibn Majah</b>


عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ من كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ فَلْيُكْرِمْ ضَيْفَهُ

Abu Hurairah reported that the Holy Prophet, (peace and blessings of Allah on him), said: <b>"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should honor his guests." -Agreed upon</b>


عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّ مِنَ السُّنَّةِ أَنْ يَخْرُجَ الرَّجُلُ مَعَ ضَيْفِهِ إِلَى بَابِ الدَّارِ

Abu Hurairah stated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said: <b>"It is the Sunnah (Prophet's way of life) that a man should accompany his guest up to the door of his house." -Ibn Majah and Baihaqi</b>


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