shukran ;)


i hope to learn more about islam.. i will definantly try to be polite while here.. (i am a stranger in a strange land :P)


muslimah,


if you don't mind me asking.. i have just read the sticky thred essence of islam. inside is mentioned that (one of, if not the) main theme is to develop a relationship with Allah (the God) and learn detachment from the other things..


if you'll forgive my saying so.. this is very similar to other religious systems (buddhism comes to mind immediately, although that has no head deity per se) and there are some people who follow the bible faith along those lines also (worship of Jehovah only)


(there is a line in the bible where it says 'people have worshipped the creation rather than the creator'..)


also, forgive me if this seems a ignorant question.. but if worship (and i use that term loosely) of Allah is paramount why do muslims pray to 'the sun' several times a day (the sun is a creation, not the creator..? so i can see why bible people might have a hard time with that..)


thnx for the welcome :)

For the foreseeable future, a peaceful inner struggler™ in the UK will be doing his jihadin’ from the confines of Dar al slammer.


I'm happy to report that one who espouses murder and prompts toward that action will be a guest of infidel justice

Quote:A Muslim protestor who called for the bombing of Denmark and the United States during a demonstration in London was today found guilty of soliciting murder.
Umran Javed, 27, was accused of leading a protest against the publication of cartoons depicting the Prophet Muhammad in Danish newspapers outside the Danish Embassy in February last year.


A police video played to the jury during the trial at the Old Bailey showed Javed leading chants of "Bomb, bomb Denmark. Bomb, bomb USA."

Quote:Javed denied soliciting murder and stirring up racial hatred, but was today found guilty of both charges. As the verdict was read out a man in the public gallery shouted: "I curse the judge, I curse the court, I curse the jury, all of you."
Javed will be sentenced in April and could face years behind bars. Abu Hamza, the extremist preacher found guilty of similar charges last year, was sentenced to seven years imprisonment. MPs tonight described the verdict as a "sound, strong judgment".

Please jon New Jersey Solidarity - Activists for the Liberation of Palestine for...


LEBANON: FROM DESTRUCTION TO RESISTANCE


Saturday, January 13, 2007


3:00 PM


Old Bergen Church


1 Highland Ave. at the corner of Highland and Bergen


Jersey City, NJ


(minutes from Journal Square - take the PATH to Journal Square, and walk down Bergen Ave. to the church)


In the past year, the people of Lebanon weathered a brutal Israeli invasion that saw over a thousand Lebanese killed, massive destruction to Lebanon's civilian infrastructure, including airports, roads and bridges, the dropping of over a million cluster bombs on Lebanon, and a wholesale attack on the Lebanese people; a complement to the ongoing Zionist war on the Arab people of Palestine.


Since the people of Lebanon, and their resistance forces, repelled the invasion, the people's movement in Lebanon has only grown stronger, despite the massive destruction. Surging from their resistance, millions of Lebanese have taken to the streets of Beirut, filling the squares and staying in downtown Beirut, struggling to achieve their demands.


See a powerful film documenting the human cost of the war on Lebanon, and hear from an activist who recently returned from Lebanon, where he attended the massive demonstrations in Beirut...


Film Showing: "SAMIDOUN" ("Steadfastness") - a multi-media journey through the 34 day war in Lebanon and


its aftermath, by Ana Nogueira and Andrew Stern - Samidoun is a multimedia presentation of the recent war in Lebanon and its aftermath, produced by award-winning independent reporters Ana Nogueira and Andrew Stern. Interweaving still photography, audio and video, Samidoun is a uniquely intimate look at the human cost of this conflict that took the lives of over 1200 people, wounded thousands more, and displaced over one million.


Speaker: BILL DOARES, a New York-based activist with the International Action Center and Al-Awda, the Palestine Right to Return Coalition, who recently returned from a month in Lebanon with a delegation that attended a major international solidarity conference in Beirut, toured the towns of South Lebanon deeply impacted by the war on Lebanon, and attended the major demonstrations in Beirut, speaking with participants, organizers and leaders.

Pastor's Wife Converts to Islam - Habiba Adamu


Her name is Fatima Edoh, a 47-year-old Deeper Life elder. She lives in Karon-Majigi, a satellite town located along Airport Road in Abuja. On April 12, 2001, Fatima performed ablution and recited Lailaha Illa Llaahu, Muhammadu Rasullullah (Salallahu Alaihi wa salam). She accepted the Islamic faith and converted to Islam.


Fatima, who hails from Togo, a small West African country, is married to a Deeper Life Pastor who hails from Benue State. With four children, Fatima said she never had any personal problem with her husband neither did she experience maltreatment from him. She was neither underfed nor uncattered for in any form. The Deeper Life elder narrated her experience to Abuja Trust thus:- "On a night, sometimes in April this year, I had a dream. It was about the calling of Adhan - the Muslim call for prayer. The following night I had the same dream. After the first dream, I confided in an old Muslim woman who happens to be one of my customers. She told me that the dream was a divine calling for me to become a Muslim. I refuted it and left her after my second dream, I had to organise myself to embrace Islam, which I did successfully without my husband and relations' knowledge.


When my family heard about my conversion, they were not pleased. It was bad news for my relations, friends, church members, husband and a host of others with whom I worship at the Deeper Life Church. Even my daughter who is a nurse, when I informed her, she thought that I was crazy. She went ahead as she had threatened to pack all her belongings in my house and leave me. She forsook me."


Mallama Fatima told Abuja Trust that she was traumatised as a result of her decision to convert to Islam. She recounted further:- "It all began with my church members quarrelling with me. They warned that I was going the dangerous way. When all verbal effort to change my mind failed, enemies resorted to witchcrafts and charms. At one time, I became seriously sick. My stomach was swollen like that of a pregnant woman. In fact when I was taken to the hospital, doctors could not diagnose my ailment. Instead, I was told that it was not an hospital matter.


"I was later taken to a Mallam who wrote some verses of the Quran on a slate and rinsed it for me to drink. The Mallam prayed for me and told me that I was going to vomit through out the night. I drank it, and throughout the night, I was vomiting. When morning came, I felt strong and healthy! It was a wonderful experience."


According to Fatima, her church members were surprised that her protruded stomach had become normal. She continued her narration: "After some period of time, another traumatic experience started. I began to see some people in my dreams with blood in their mouth. This time around, some Muslim brothers and sisters in prayers joined me. That was how I overcame the problem."


Perhaps worst than Fatima's health problems was the fact that her father and in-law disowned her. The old woman only reacted with a lot of tears but could not change her mind. Said she, "My family members told me that I had brought shame to them by converting to a Muslim. They persuaded me to reconvert to Christianity. They applied a lot of tactics. They even drew my attention to the attack on America, but I was rather angered. I told them that there is no evidence that Muslims masterminded the attack for religious purpose. If you know the Muslim very well, you will agree with me that they are a peace loving people."


As far as Fatima is concerned, her conversion to Islam was a manifestation of divine calls. As expected, Fatima received a lot of assistance from Muslim brothers and sisters. Her ordeals was so deep that she even had to be assisted with such things as dresses to wear and mattress to sleep on, after her daughter made away with all her belongings. But the woman had what she described as a pleasant dream. "While I was in the hospital, I had a dream that my spirit was lifted from the earth to a big building. I was ushered in by a small girl through a big gate and was welcomed by some women dressed like me in white gowns, gloves and socks. They sang some beautiful songs to me in a language quite foreign. I woke up only to find myself on the hospital bed with drips. I am also pleased to tell you that my son-in-law has converted to Islam through my influence. I believe it is gradual. Some day, we will all become Muslims.


"I must tell you however, that when my son-in-law converted, I received serious warning from some people who told me that they were aware that my conversion would influence a lot of people, adding that I should be careful.


But I replied and told them that I had converted many people to Christianity when I was one. Today I am no longer a Christian, so why should they be aggrieved at that."


Fatima, who is firm in her decision and actions further told Abuja Trust that she used to lock her door in the night for fear of physical attack from enemies. Now she is no longer afraid of them for she knows that the heaven is open for those who die in the pursuit of the course of Allah.


Mallama Fatima has since converted two other Christians to Islam, one of whom is her sister.


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Bismilah


Asalamalaikum ever1 and Salam to the Non-Muslims


Insha'Allah I'm going to say my goodbyes cause I decided to leave this forum.


I thought to say a proper bye to all the lovely people I met here. I owe you that much!


It's been a few years subhanaAllah, gosh time passes by so fast, I have grown up on this forum.


From a young teenager, to a student, to a wife...it all happened while I was right here. :D


I have learned alot from you all, and will never forget anyone. Plese do forgive me for anyhting harmful I might have ever done to anyone. (I never had bad intentions).


If there is anything a kick a punch, or something you think that u need to get off your chest, lets do it. Jokes aside, You are really free to get your rights off me. (I'm at your disposal). :D


I will say this though. What triggered my departure is something I have noticed on this forum, and I had enough of it. The favoritism and disliking the ones you disagree with ignoring them when they give their input or when they ask a question neglect it, and treating the ones you like or agree with like kings. This is becoming like a private Kingdom. I use to come to this forum to learn, but things started getting bad, up to a point that I actually realised that my presence isn't appreciated nor wanted so whats the point of me coming here. There is a beautiful saying where I come from "You enter an open face and not an open door", what that means is that if a door is open you don't just enter, you enter by the welcome and enthusiasm of the host from that house. His/Her face is the door.


It's not the Members, so u can all relax inshaAllah. If anything I love you all.


Alhamdulilah I'm really happy where I am in my life, Allah has blessed me so much. I'm so grateful! :)


Many of you have my e-mails and know where to reach me, those who want to know where to find me just drop me a pm inshaAllah.


I leave you all in Allahs care, It was nice knowing u all.


Peace n Love from the Mid West :wavey:

LOVE YOUR WIFE UNTIL JANNAH


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By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend. She will share your moments, your days and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you. When you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice.


She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning, the first thing your eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams.


In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world. The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Qur'anic verse which says: "They are your garments and you are their garments." (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187)


Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.


The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that it is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, "And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions) of your own nature..." (Surah Al Nahl 16:72)


Only our Almighty Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala in Allah's Infinite Power, Boundless Mercy and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is reminding those who search for Allah's signs in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to Allah's existence as Allah says in the Qur'an, "And among Allah's signs is this, that Allah created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquillity with them and Allah has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Al Rum 30:21).


But Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala knows that the human heart is not a static entity, it is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured. Remember that you will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet (SAW) said: "One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife."


Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car's door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet (SAW) used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel. Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond between you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong.


Having peace with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will always result in having more peace at home. Remember that the Prophet (SAW) gave glad tidings for those couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet (SAW) even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up even by throwing cold water on his/her face. Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and always remember that the Prophet (SAW) said: "The best of you are those who are best to their wives."


Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honour their spouses until death do them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well. Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don't be like a man who was unhappy about his wife's parents coming to visit for few weeks. He candidly said to her: "I don't like your parents." Naturally she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said: "I don't like your parents either!"


Also, it is not enough that you love her until death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses (Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70) and offspring's. The best example in this regard is the Prophet (SAW) whose love for Khadijah, his wife of 25 years extended to include all those she loved and continued even after her death. It was many years after her death and he never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send portions of it to Khadija's family and friends and whenever he felt that the visitor at the door might be Khadija's sister Hala, he would pray saying "O Allah let it be Hala."

Quote:Book 037, Number 6610:
Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, said: I live in the thought of My servant and I am with him as he remembers Me. (The Holy Prophet) further said: By Allah, Allah is more pleased wth the repentance of His servant than what one of you would do on finding the lost camel in the waterless desert. When he draws near Me by the span of his hand. I draw near him by the length of a cubit and when he draws near Me by the length of a cubit. I draw near him by the length of a fathom and when he draws near Me walking I draw close to him hurriedly.

Short Temper 1 :55:


Anger is a tendency that comes from the Shaitan. Only Allah (SWT) knows how much evil and sin results from it. Hence Islam has a great deal to say about this negative characteristic and the Prophet (SAW) described remedies for ridding oneself of this problem and limiting its effects. These include the following:


Seeking refuge with Allah from the Shaitan. Sulaymaan ibn Sard said:<b> "I was sitting with the Prophet (SAW), and there were two men swearing at one another. One of them was red in the face and the veins of his neck were standing out. The Prophet (SAW) said: 'I know a word which, if only he would say it, this (anger) would leave him. If he said, "A'oodhu billaahi min al-shaytaan (I seek refuge with Allah from the Shaitan),", this [anger] would leave him.'</b>" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 6/377).


<b>He (SAW) also said: </b>


"If a man gets angry and says 'A'oodhu billah (I seek refuge with Allah),' his anger will cease." (Saheeh al-Jaami' al-Sagheer, no. 695).


Keeping quiet. The Messenger (SAW) said:


"If any one of you gets angry, let him keep quiet." (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, al-Musnad, 1/239; Saheeh al-Jaami', 693, 4027).


Anger usually <b>makes a person lose control, </b> often to the extent that he may utter words of kufr (Allah forbid), or curses, or the word of divorce (talaq) which will destroy his family, or foul language that will earn him the enmity of others. Keeping quiet is the way to avoid all of these evils.


<b>Keeping still.</b> The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said:


"If any one of you gets angry, let him sit down if he is standing. If his anger goes away, (that is good), otherwise let him lie down."


The narrator of this hadeeth was Abu Dharr (RA), who told the following story: he was watering his animals at a trough, when some other people came along. He said, "Who among you will help Abu Dharr to water his animals and ....?" A man said, "I will," but he broke the trough. Abu Dharr was standing, so he sat down, then he lay down. Someone asked him, "O Abu Dharr, why did you sit down then lie down?" He said, "Because the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said ... [and quoted the Hadith]." (The Hadith with the whole story is reported in Musnad Ahmad, 5/152. See also Saheeh al-Jaami', no. 694).


According to another report, Abu Dharr (RA) was watering his animals at a trough when another man made him angry, so he sat down... (Fayd al-Qadeer al-Mannaawi, 1/408).


One of the benefits of this Prophetic teaching is that it prevents the angry person from doing something crazy and out of control. An angry person could inflict harm or even kill - as we shall see shortly - or he could destroy property and so on. Sitting down makes it less likely that he will explode in this fashion, and lying down makes it even less likely that he will do something reckless or harmful. Al-'Allaamah al-Khattaabi (may Allah have mercy on him) said in his commentary on Abu Dawood: "The one who is standing is ready to move and destroy things.


The one who is sitting is less likely to do so, and the one who is lying is not able to do anything of the sort. It seems that the Prophet (SAW) commanded the angry person to sit down or lie down in order to prevent him from doing anything that he would later regret. And Allaah knows best." (Sunan Abi Dawood wa ma'ahu ma'aalim al-sunan, 5/141)


Remembering the advice of the Messenger of Allah (SAW). Abu Hurayrah (SAW) reported that a man came to the Prophet (SAW) and said: "Advise me." He said: "Do not become angry." The man repeated his request several times, and each time the response was, "Do not become angry." (Reported by al-Bukhaari, Fath al-Baari, 10/465).


According to another report, the man said, "I thought about what the Prophet (SAW) had said, and I realized that anger is the source of all evil." (Musnad Ahmad, 5/373).


"Do not get angry, and Paradise will be yours." (A saheeh hadeeth. Saheeh al-Jaami', 7374. Ibn Hajar attributed it to al-Tabaraani. See al-Fath, 4/465).


Remembering what Allah (SWT) has promised to those who avoid the causes of anger and strive to control themselves is the best way to extinguish the flames of anger. The Prophet (SAW) has told us about this great reward:


"Whoever suppresses his anger at the time when he could express it openly, Allah will fill his heart with contentment on the Day of Resurrection." (Reported by al-Tabaraani, 12/453; Saheeh al-Jaami', 176).


Another immense reward is described in the Hadith: "Whoever suppresses his anger when he is able to vent it, Allah will call him before all the people on the Day of Resurrection and let him choose whoever of the hoor al-'iyn he wishes." (Reported by Abu Dawood, 4777, and others. Classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami', 6518).


Knowing the high rank and distinction that is bestowed upon the one who controls himself. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said,


"The strong man is not the one who can wrestle another to the ground; the strong man is the one who can control himself when he is angry." (Reported by Ahmad, 2/236. The hadeeth is agreed upon).


The more angry a person gets, the more highly valued is his self-control. The Prophet (SAW) said:


"The real strong man is the one who gets intensely angry, so that his face reddens and his hair stands on end, but he suppresses his anger." (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 5/367; classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami', 3859).


The Prophet (SAW) used an incident that took place in front of his Sahabah as an opportunity to reinforce this lesson. Anas (RA) reported that the Prophet (SAW) passed by some people who were wrestling, and asked, "What is this?" They told him, "So-and-so is a strong man. No one challenges him but he beats them at wrestling." The Prophet (SAW) said,


They told him, "So-and-so is a strong man. No one challenges him but he beats them at wrestling." The Prophet (SAW) said,





"Shall I not tell you who is stronger than him? A man who is mistreated by another, but suppresses his anger, has defeated his own shaytan and the shaytan of the one who mistreated him." (Reported by al-Bazzaar. Ibn Hajar said that its isnaad is hasan. Al-Fath, 10/519). :punch:

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Following the guidance of the Prophet (SAW) with regard to anger.


He is our example, and his attitude towards anger is clearly demonstrated in many ahaadeeth, of which one of the most famous was reported by Anas (RA), who said: "I was walking with the Messenger of Allah (SAW), and he was wearing a Najraani cloak with a stiff collar. He was accosted by a Bedouin who pulled his cloak roughly. I looked at the Prophet's (SAW) neck and saw the marks left by the collar. The Bedouin said: 'O Muhammad, give me some of the wealth of Allah that you have!' The Prophet (SAW) turned to him and smiled, and ordered that he should be given something." (Reported by al-Bazzaar. Ibn Hajar said that its isnaad is hasan).


Another way in which we may follow the example of the Prophet (SAW) is by making our anger for the sake of Allah (SWT), when the limits set by Allah (SWT) are violated. This is the worthy kind of anger.


The Prophet (SAW) became angry when he was told about the imaam who was putting people off praying because his recitation was too long. He became angry when he saw a curtain decorated with pictures of animate creatures in 'Aisha's (RA) house. He became angry when Usamah (RA) spoke to him about the Makhzoomi woman who was guilty of theft, and said to him, "Are you interceding concerning one of the punishments prescribed by Allah?" He became angry when he was asked questions he disliked. His anger was only for the sake of Allah (SWT).


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Knowing that suppressing anger is one of the signs of taqwa (piety).


Allah (SWT) has praised certain people in His Book, and the Prophet (SAW) highly commended them. There have been prepared for them Gardens as wide as the heavens and the earth. One of their characteristics is that they


"... spend (in Allah's Cause - deeds of charity, alms, etc.) in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves Al-Muhsinun (the good-doers)." (Al-Imran 3:134)


These are the people whose good qualities Allaah has mentioned, people whom others admire and want to catch up with. Another of their characteristics is that


"...when they are angry, they forgive." (Ash-Shura 42:37)


<b>Paying attention when one is reminded. </b>


Anger is something natural, with regard to which people differ. It may be very hard for a person not to get angry, but a sincere person, if he becomes angry and is reminded about Allah (SWT), will remember Him and will stay within the limits that He has prescribed. Some examples of this follow.


Ibn 'Abbaas (RA) reported that a man asked permission to see 'Umar (RA), and permission was given. The man said, "O son of al-Khattaab, by Allah, you are not giving us much, and you are not ruling us fairly!" 'Umar (RA) became so angry that he was about to hit the man, but al-Hirr ibn Qays (who was among the people sitting with 'Umar) said, "O Ameer al-Mu'mineen, Allah said to His Prophet (SAW):


'Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish (i.e., don't punish them).' (Al-A'raf 7:199),


and this man is one of the foolish." By Allah, 'Umar (RA) did not take the matter any further when this was recited to him. He adhered to the words of Allah (SWT) (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 8/304).


This is how the Muslim should be, not like the evil hypocrite who, when he got angry and was told about the hadeeth of the Prophet (SAW), and was advised by one of the Companions of the Prophet (SAW) to seek refuge with Allaah from the Shaytaan, said, "Do you think there is something wrong with me? Do you think I am crazy? Go away!" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 1/465).


We seek refuge with Allah (SWT) from failure. Ameen!


<b>Knowing the bad effects of anger. </b>


The bad effects of anger are many, harming both the self and others. A person may swear and utter obscenities, and may hit others, lashing out with no control. It may even lead to killing. The following story contains a lesson.


'Alqamah ibn Waa'il reported that his father (may Allah be pleased with him) told him: "I was sitting with the Messenger of Allah (SAW) when a man came along, leading another by a twisted rope. He said, 'O Messenger of Allah, this man killed my brother.' The Messenger of Allah (SAW) asked, 'Did you kill him?' He said, 'Yes, I killed him.' He asked, 'How did you kill him?' He said, 'He and I were hitting trees to make the leaves fall (so we could use them for animal fodder). He swore at me, so I got angry and hit him on the side of the head with an axe, and I killed him.'..." (Reported by Muslim in al-Saheeh, 1307).


Even if anger does not go as far as this, there may still be broken bones and injuries. If the person with whom a man is angry runs away, he may turn his anger upon himself, tearing his clothes, slapping his cheeks, falling unconscious, or breaking dishes and furniture.


One of the worst things that result from anger and cause social ills and family breakdown is talaq (divorce). Ask many of those who have divorced their wives how and when it happened, and they will tell you, "It was in a moment of anger."


Lives are shattered and children are lost as a result. Feelings of regret and failure haunt people's minds, and life becomes bitter - all because of anger. If only they had remembered Allah (SWT) and come back to their senses, restrained their anger and sought refuge with Allah (SWT) from the Shaitan, what happened would not have happened. Going against shari'ah only ever results in loss.


The physical harm that results from anger is very serious, as the doctors describe, such as thrombosis, high blood pressure, fatal heart attacks, diabetes, etc.


<b>We ask Allah (SWT) for good health. Ameen! </b>


The angry person should think about himself at the time of anger.


If the angry person could see himself in the mirror at the time of anger, he would despise himself and how he looks when his color changes, he shakes uncontrollably, his face reddens, the veins of his neck stand out and he behaves like a crazy person. He would be put off by his own appearance, but it is well known that the ugliness that exists inside a person is even worse than any that may appear on the outside. How happy the Shaitan must be when someone is in this state!


We seek refuge with Allah (SWT) from the Shaitan and from failure. Ameen!


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Du'aa'.


This is the believer's constant weapon. He asks his Lord to rid him of evils, problems and bad characteristics, and he seeks refuge with Allah (SWT) from falling into the pit of kufr and wrongdoing caused by anger, because one of the three qualities which will save a person from Hellfire is being just and fair both at times of contentment and at times of anger. (Saheeh al-Jaami', 3039). One of the du'aa's of the Prophet (SAW) was:


"Allaahumma bi 'ilmika'l-ghaybi wa qudratika 'ala'l-khalqi aheeni ma 'alimta'l-hayaata khayran li, wa tawaffani idha 'alimta'l-wafaata khayran li. Allaahumma wa as'aluka khashyataka fi'l-ghaybi wa'l-shahaadah, wa as'aluka kalimat al-ikhlaasi fi'l-ridaa wa'l-ghadab, wa as'aluka'l-qasda fi'l-faqri wa'l-ghinaa, wa as'aluka na'eeman la yanfad, wa qurrata 'aynin la tanqati', wa as'aluka'l-ridaa bi'l-qadaa', wa as'aluka bard al-'aysh ba'd al-mawt, wa as'aluka ladhdhat al-nadhr ila wajhika wa'l-shawqa ilaa liqaa'ik, fi ghayri darraa' mudirrah wa laa fitnati mudillah. Allaahumma zayyinnaa bi zeenati'l-eemaan wa'j'alnaa hudaatan muhtadeen"


(O Allah, by Your knowledge of the Unseen and Your power over all creation, keep me alive so long as You know life is good for me, and bring about my death when you know death is good for me. O Allah, I ask You to make me fear You in secret and in the open, I ask You to make me speak sincerely at times of contentment and at times of anger, I ask You to make me be moderate in poverty and in wealth, I ask You for a blessing that does not end, contentment that never ceases, and for acceptance of Your decree.


I ask You for a good life after death, and I ask You for the joy of looking upon Your face and the longing to meet You, with no harmful adversity or misleading trial (fitnah). O Allah, adorn us with the beauty of faith, guide us and let us be a means of guidance for others)." (Reported by al-Nisaa'i in al-Sunan, 3/55; and by al-Haakim. Saheeh al-Jaami', 1301).

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